Spoiling parenting is harmful and useless.
Psychologists have concluded that there are two kinds of doting: arranged doting and indulgent doting. The arranged doting parents have arranged everything for their children and can get everything without starting work. They don't encourage or even like children to solve problems by themselves.
Spoiling parents give their children anything they want. No matter how small and unreasonable the children are, they will spare no effort to satisfy them.
People who have been spoiled since childhood often have a chain reaction: first, the frustration quotient is low, and once they encounter setbacks, they are prone to serious escape behaviors, such as hiding at home and not going out; Second, after hiding at home, he has a big temper and is easy to lose his temper with his parents. Seriously, it will add fists to parents.
This kind of upbringing, because of parents' doting, gave birth to today's "little emperor and little princess", and when they grow up, they will be what we often call "giant babies", and people will "eat old people" in middle age.
Parents with "doting" parenting style are full of endless expectations and love for their children, and meet their requirements unconditionally, but rarely ask for them. Because of this upbringing, children can easily become:
1. Unreasonably expect others to serve you.
2. Think that "love" means "letting others take care of themselves".
He is self-centered, impatient and unloving, because he only sees himself.
4, there is no way to face anxiety and frustration, will be disappointed in society.
5, think that "I just don't have the ability", others just want to take care of him and accommodate him.
There is a typical event in this educational mode, which is the Yang Lijuan incident. Yang Lijuan, a crazy girl in idolize, has been infatuated with Andy Lau since 1994. Her parents are willing to lose everything to realize their daughter's wish. Until 2007, the incident reached its climax, which ended with Yang's father committing suicide by jumping into the sea, leaving Andy Lau's last wish to see his daughter again. However, Yang Lijuan's behavior is not the craziest. In social news, there are more incidents in which spoiled children become unfilial sons.