-children always want more, what should I do?

"I want a big lizard": The child tried to convince his mother in various ways and reasons. In the process of persuasion, his emotions, emotions and cognition were fully coordinated and developed, and he learned to think and express rationally. The mother squatted down to communicate with her children without blaming or complaining that they had completed high-quality communication. In this kind of communication, we can see adults' understanding and support for children, so that children can experience the happiness of being satisfied. Therefore, if children feel that communication is useful, they should take responsibility for it themselves. Adults are willing to trust him, and adults love what they love because they love him.

Picture book "Too much": Know how to introspect and change after uncontrolled possession, and understand that what you can have is always limited. Only when children are fully satisfied can they learn to trust adults easily, be willing to cooperate with adults, and learn self-control and self-discipline while developing self-awareness. Only when children rely on adults with peace of mind can they stand on their own feet smoothly.

Only when adults say it, children will listen to communication skills: describe what you see or describe the problem; Say how you feel; Give tips to children; Express in simple words; Write a note

4 rules for co-construction with children

-What if the child doesn't behave?

Library lion: obeying the rules means being bound by the rules after entering public places. Rules don't need to be added at the beginning. When there is no problem, just follow the most basic rules. This is the first revelation.

Obeying the rules means working hard, making no excuses, and violating them will bear the consequences. This is the second revelation.

To judge legitimate reasons, adults and children need to listen to each other, encourage children to express their feelings, establish a sense of rules, be good at introspection and constantly correct themselves. Let us be willing to understand and accept the reasons why ourselves and others violate the rules, learn to make rules with all parties, jointly safeguard the rules, constantly improve our understanding of the rules, and then constantly modify the rules to benefit everyone.

Severe punishment is a very effective way of discipline, but it will bring negative effects in the long run. The long-term effect of punishment is that children often "repay" us with resentment, revenge, rebellion and retreat. At this time, adults need to actively cooperate to win the cooperation of children, rather than ignorance and unconsciousness, destroying the inner strength and self-awareness of children for many years.

Share two codes of conduct. First, all learning problems are tacitly assumed that children don't know and won't do it. Second, for all behavioral problems, all children know by default but can't do it. This requires the unconditional active help of adults, telling them what is right and explaining the behavior to be restricted or prohibited. If the child has a "just reason", adults can modify the rules with the child.