Good relationship is the foundation of education.
This book mainly records two or three things between Jie Zhong and his student Zhuo Xinmin. What kind of child is Zhuo Xinmin? He annoys teachers, makes his classmates afraid of doubt and worries his family. He is cold and suspicious, but loyal to the Jianghu. He doesn't trust anyone and is not afraid of anyone. He firmly believes that good is rewarded with good, and evil with evil. When someone hits him, he stabs others. There must have been many teachers who paid attention to such a child and made efforts before, but why didn't it work? And why can Mr. Zhong stand out and gain his trust? I think the point is that Mr. Zhong established a good relationship with Zhuo Xinmin before his education. When children trust teachers completely, then any education can get twice the result with half the effort.
Mr. Zhong can really walk into Zhuo Xinmin's heart, which is related to the weather, location and people. What is the right time? The sons of Zhuo Xinmin and Mr. Zhong are primary school classmates and even childhood playmates. Zhuo Xinmin has known Mr. Zhong since childhood, and Mr. Zhong is also very distressed by this child who has no mother to take care of since childhood, and has been warming him with maternal love. I don't think anyone will immediately resist a mother-like teacher. This is the right time. Where is the right place? Zhuo Xinmin lives in the town, not far from the school. Mr. Zhong has lived on campus for a long time, and often meets Zhuo Xinmin's grandmother when he goes out for a walk after work. In the process of communication between the two sides, Mr. Zhong can keep abreast of Zhuo Xinmin's ideological changes and communicate with his parents in time about Zhuo Xinmin's performance at school, and Zhuo Xinmin can always feel Mr. Zhong's concern for him. This is the right place. What is human harmony? Although the book does not focus on the way in which Ms. Zhong manages the class, all the details can be found. The students in Ms. Zhong's class are very convinced and sincerely willing to listen to her lectures. Therefore, in the process of changing Zhuo Xinmin, Mr. Zhong got the cooperation of the whole class, which also made Zhuo Xinmin believe in Mr. Zhong more. After all, the strength of one person is limited, but the strength of a group of people is unlimited. This is the harmony of mankind.
The ancients often said that to achieve great things, it is necessary to have the right time and place. In the matter of changing Zhuo Xinmin, Mr. Zhong got the right time, location and people, and really walked into Zhuo Xinmin's heart, got to know him and gained his trust. The next education can be put down.
Second, the combination of kindness and prestige is the key to education.
We often advocate the education of love, but in the actual teaching process, many teachers will find that the education of love does not seem to affect students, but will make students feel that teachers are easy to talk about and incompetent. At this time, teachers will return to the traditional stick education method and start to beat and scold students, but this method can not win students' sincere respect for teachers, and even trigger students' rebellious feelings. Because the education of love has not achieved the expected effect, teachers doubt its function and choose stick education. In fact, stick education is also ineffective. One is wrong, the other is wrong. How can we educate well? Try three-kindness and education. The education of love will never be wrong, but we should be more strict while giving love to students. Love is not unconditional giving, but praise for a reason.
In this book, Mr. Zhong kept cheering for Zhuo Xinmin, and also helped him to make suggestions and find the bright spot. In the face of Zhuo Xinmin's unreasonable emotional venting from time to time, Mr. Zhong always patiently listens to Zhuo Xinmin's stories and helps him analyze problems from Zhuo Xinmin's point of view. This is love. When Zhuo Xinmin is surly and willful, hurting his classmates for no reason, and being late and absent for no reason, Mr. Zhong will never be soft. He should be scolded and punished. This is strict. For a child like Zhuo Xinmin, he is willing to listen to 10 thousand people who speak well of him, but he is not happy when he criticizes him. So the strictness here must be skillful. Teacher zhong's approach is: first ask the ins and outs of the matter; Let Zhuo Xinmin judge this matter by himself and let him take the initiative to realize his mistakes; Ask him what kind of punishment he should accept for violating that rule in class; Ask Zhuo Xinmin again, is he willing to accept such punishment? Do you agree with this treatment? Zhuo Xinmin is a child with shortcomings all over his body, but he has a good place, which is to distinguish right from wrong. The mistakes he made when he lost control of his emotions can be rationally punished after he calmed down. So being strict with Zhuo Xinmin is actually a process to help him understand and avoid mistakes.
The combination of kindness and kindness, love and strictness requires constant repetition and a long time. For Zhuo Xinmin's education, Ms. Zhong's success is not accidental. She has gone through a long and repeated education process, often taking one step further last week and two steps back next week. Such a powerful teacher Jie Zhong is like this, and so are the vast number of outstanding teachers. Therefore, in the face of naughty children, our young teachers should never think about reaching the sky in one step, nor should they think about sowing today and flowering tomorrow. We should face the reality that education is a slow and repetitive process, and at the same time, we should be prepared to face the situation that "sowing today will never blossom".
Third, learning to use leverage is the key to education.
On the way to change Zhuo Xinmin, Mr. Zhong has a group of powerful helpers. They are Zhuo Xinmin's classmates.
Because Zhuo Xinmin lost his temper for no reason in class many times, interrupted classroom teaching, brought bones into the classroom and other misdeeds, the students in the class have long stayed away from him. How to persuade these teenagers to put down their inherent views and take the initiative to help Zhuo Xinmin? Mr. Zhong gave full play to his excellent eloquence. First of all, she told everyone about Zhuo Xinmin's childhood growth experience, which aroused the sympathy of her classmates. Secondly, ask the children for help and make them feel that it is a very just thing for them to help Zhuo Xinmin. Junior high school children, no matter how big the prejudice is, can basically disappear without a trace under Mr. Zhong's clever mouth. So this group of children actively joined the team to help Zhuo Xinmin.
But it is impossible to say that every child should take the initiative to smile at Zhuo Xinmin. After all, Zhuo Xinmin often loses his temper in class. In this case, as long as students don't add fuel to the fire, it is the greatest help. On the other hand, Mr. Zhong took the initiative to find Zhuo Xinmin's trusted classmates, guided him in time, cared for him at any time, made him feel warm, stabilized his emotions, and enabled him to look at the world rationally instead of fighting and killing all day. The most important thing is to take the initiative to help him "chase girls". Zhuo Xinmin has an admirer. After knowing this, Mr. Zhong didn't panic. She regards Zhuo Xinmin's mood as an opportunity for education. She first reminded Zhuo Xinmin that the other person was very nice. If she likes each other, she must have failed now. So keep it a secret and don't let the other party know. First, make yourself excellent. When you are excellent, the other person may look at you. Encouraged by Mr. Zhong and stimulated by phenylethylamine, Zhuo Xinmin has made great progress. After dealing with Zhuo Xinmin's problem, Mr. Zhong personally found an admirer and told her what Zhuo Xinmin thought, but also told her not to panic and keep quiet, because it was normal. Please help Zhuo Xinmin with this girl. Mr. Zhong intends to use Zhuo Xinmin's goodwill to change Zhuo Xinmin, including his appearance, manners and demeanor. Teacher Zhong wrote a standard for excellent boys and asked girls to extract one. Later, Mr. Zhong found Zhuo Xinmin, gave him this excellent boy standard, and told Zhuo Xinmin that this is the expectation of the girl he secretly loves for boys. Imagine a teenager who is immersed in love and struggling to get rid of it. In the face of such a detailed operation guide, will it be regarded as a treasure and strictly implemented? The answer is yes.
Seeing this book, I can't help but admire Mr. Zhong's cleverness. She turned puppy love, which everyone was afraid of, into a magic weapon of education and achieved unexpected results. Really high!
In today's entertainment-oriented world, it is no wonder that our junior high school students are full of curiosity and obscurity about the opposite sex. Faced with this situation, if our teacher keeps stopping it, it will be counterproductive. You might as well try to turn this thorny matter into your own assistant and use it on the road of education, and maybe you will get something.
Here, I'd like to share two sentences written by Teacher Jie Zhong to Zhuo Xinmin. I think this should apply to all teenagers who love spring. The first sentence is: there is no sin in liking someone, but if your liking hinders the healthy development of that person, then you must be guilty. The second sentence is: love is not possession, not injury, love is giving, it is blessing.
Last year, when I heard this story from Mr. Jie Zhong, I thought that Mr. Jie Zhong got help from God and once successfully educated Zhuo Xinmin. In fact, on the way to change Zhuo Xinmin, Mr. Zhong moved countless brain cells and repeatedly persuaded Zhuo Xinmin to tolerate Zhuo Xinmin. After countless times of communication, he has achieved some results. The book introduces Mr. Zhong's educational methods in detail, and strongly recommends junior high school teachers to read them, which will definitely gain something.
Before I opened this book, I always thought that Mr. Zhong's education of Zhuo Xinmin was a miracle. In fact, education has never been a miracle, and the so-called harmony between the right place and the right time is also achieved by hard work. Education is an art that repeats itself slowly. We should give our children time, give ourselves time, pay with the greatest tolerance and wait. Education is to work hard and wait for flowers to bloom; Education is love and companionship!