Nowadays, parents are most prone to parenting anxiety, especially when their children report to extra-long classes. Most parents have some conformity and comparison psychology.
After all, many parents now feel that their children are highly competitive. If parents don't work hard on their children's education, children are likely to fall behind others.
However, when parents enroll their children in classes, the most basic premise is to consider their personal situation and not blindly enroll their children in classes because of anxiety.
It turns out that the more anxious parents are, the easier it is to fall into the "herd effect".
"Herd effect" actually refers to people's following behavior now. Parents caught in the "herd effect" can easily help their children, and may even be doing useless work.
Therefore, parents should also pay attention to avoiding the "herd effect" when educating their children.
Kiki's mother is an anxious person. Almost every time after a parent-teacher meeting, Kiki's mother will be depressed for several days. Because Kiki's mother and husband are uneducated, they can't tutor their children at all.
In order to make up for the children's shortcomings, Kiki's mother often reports various cram schools and extra-long classes to her children, hoping that her daughter's grades will improve.
But I didn't expect the child's grades to get worse and worse. After a semester, the children even feel tired of learning.
Only after asking did I know that Kiki's mother had enrolled her daughter in these classes. Kiki can't digest it at all, and the child can't even keep up with the progress of the remedial class, so the child has always been very inferior.
Why are some parents prone to "herd effect"? Parents' excessive anxiety
Many parents always subconsciously compare with others, compare their children's achievements and compare their children's specialties.
Even some parents think that if other children enroll in extra-long classes and don't enroll themselves, children and classmates will have nothing in common, and no matter how hard they are, they can't suffer their children.
In fact, children's interpersonal communication is not as complicated as parents think. Without the involvement of adults, children's friendship is still very simple.
Parents are too controlling.
If parents are too strong in personality and control, it is easy to fall into the "herd effect".
This is because parents are used to making decisions for their children, and some parents have no parenting experience. If they can't treat their children's education rationally, they will easily follow blindly.
Parents often copy other people's parenting experience and even ignore their children's personal feelings.
Parents don't have time to teach their children in person, so they can only make up for their guilt by signing up for classes.
Some busy parents can't educate their children themselves, so they can only make up for their children with materials. Therefore, many parents will prove their concern for their children by signing up for classes.
Many parents don't realize the limitations of material things. In real life, what many children need most is not endless long classes, but hope that they can learn what they like and have some time to themselves.
Parents often bind their children with long classes, and children are prone to school weariness.