Anton's mother, Shanon, said with a smile that Anton is not afraid of life, independent and thoughtful, which may be because the couple will not deliberately instill the concept of right and wrong. If Anton is told that this is wrong, he will reply, "I don't think so. I will be careful. " Anton learned to be responsible for himself at an early age, and decided everything in his life, such as what socks to wear, whether to cut his hair, whether to eat noodles and so on. He often looks at himself in the mirror and asks his mother: Are you handsome dressed like this? Although Anton is young, he has a great personality.
In particular, Martin and Shannon have different educational methods. They don't teach him a set of patterns after communication, but get along with Anton in their own way. Taking "Can you touch anything" as an example, Martin told Anton: "You can touch anything, just wash your hands before eating. When Shanon stopped Anton from groping, he argued, "Dad said he could touch. At this time, Shanon will teach him: "You have to judge for yourself, will you get sick if you touch it?" Then decide who to listen to. " Give Anton the choice.
Swedish educational principle 1: Children must learn to be independent Martin emphasized that the Swedish educational principle is to teach children to learn to be independent and let them have their own ideas and judgments. For example, when Anton is playing, if he asks his parents to help him get something, Martin will let Anton get it himself; Anton knocked over the cup and had to wipe it himself with a rag. When you are thirsty, go to the kitchen and get a cup to drink, and learn to make milk yourself. Even, Anton has been able to take a shower and wash his hair, wash away the foam with a shower nozzle, then dry his body and get dressed. All Martin has to do is stand at the door of the bathroom and supervise.
When Anton cries for a purpose, Martin will wait until he finishes crying. "The child is very smart, but as long as his parents insist, he will know that crying is useless after a while, so he won't always use crying to express his emotions. Not following children's emotions is also an important process to cultivate children's independence.
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Swedish education principle 2: Parental companionship is more important than attending classes. Learning to be independent is very important, but Swedes pay more attention to whether children are accompanied by their parents.
Asian countries focus on "intellectual education". Shanon originally didn't want his children to lose at the starting point, especially many children over 2 years old can communicate in English, so he wanted Anton to take English classes and potential development classes, but Martin was very opposed. "Swedes learn English at the age of seven, and their English ability is no less than that of Taiwan Province people! He stressed: "Children need a happy childhood. In these classes, parents had better accompany their children to learn football, music and rhythm. Why do you need a teacher? Martin hopes that his children can grow up with their parents in childhood.
In addition, Swedish education attaches importance to life skills, such as carpentry, cooking, tailoring, and how to go to banks, post offices and buses. This is a very different place between Swedish culture and Asian culture. Martin explained: "Swedish schools don't leave school late, there are no cram schools at all, and there is little homework after returning home." Children are basically playing, and a fun childhood is the most important thing for children. 」
Swedish father Martin cultivated Anton's independence and inspired creativity from boredom. Martin from Sweden chose Japan to study abroad, and came to Taiwan Province alone after graduation. His broadened mind and vision are actually related to his childhood education in Sweden. Continuing the Swedish education law, Martin cultivated Anton into an independent, happy and creative child. Martin: Loneliness is creative.
In terms of companionship, giving children more quiet space is Martin's unique parenting opinion. He believes: "Let children play and let them learn to be bored. Life can't be fun every second. So when Anton was bored, he was trained to find something to play, think for himself and learn to get along with himself, because parents can't always play with their children. He emphasized that loneliness can bring children's creativity into play. Although four-and-a-half-year-old Anton can't do it sometimes, Martin still insists on giving him such ideas and practices, hoping that he will become an imaginative person when he grows up.
Don't deliberately buy toys for children.
Many parents will buy many toys for their children, but Martin will not buy toys for Anton casually except for special festivals and birthdays. "buying toys for children at will will form the concept that he wants to buy everything he sees and is easy to have no money. Besides, there are already many toys at home, so it's good to play with them. It is very important to cultivate children's thinking ability. When he wants something, teach him to save money or wait until a special moment to buy it.
Once, Mr. and Mrs. Martin took Anton, who is over 2 years old, and went to Kaohsiung to visit the night market with friends. Because it was an opportunity to travel abroad, they promised to buy a toy for Anton. Unexpectedly, after Anton bought a toy, he walked around and found another one he liked better. Martin and Shannon insisted on not buying it for him. When the two sides were deadlocked, Martin had a plan for Shannon to ask the boss, "Can you hold the toy in your hand?" Anton didn't dare to go, but he couldn't help wanting toys, so he got up the courage to ask. As a result, the boss agreed, and he danced with joy! In fact, the couple secretly invited friends to buy toys from the boss in order to teach Anton the courage to take the initiative to fight for what he wanted. So now Anton just needs to go to the restaurant with his parents, order something at the counter if he wants to drink, and bravely express his needs.
Extended reading: Besides concentrating on eating and learning to collect toys, what good habits should children develop before they are 2 years old?
Even if they become moonlight people, Swedes should take their children to travel. Martin also has a special insistence that he should take his family to travel abroad every year. He said with a smile that almost all Swedish families go abroad to play every year, so the Swedes have no savings and can be said to be moonlight people. They save money for next year's holiday trip every year. When they spend all the money, they start saving again, and they are even less likely to spend money on buying a house or a car.
Anton has been to more than a dozen countries, including Sweden, Norway, Britain, Spain, Denmark, Italy, Bulgaria, Russia, Japan, South Korea and the Philippines. Martin believes: "When I was a child, I should look at the environment and society of other countries more, which will leave an impact in my heart. The atmosphere of family vacation can also nourish children's hearts, because happiness will be different in personality and development. 」
Sweden emphasizes gender equality. Anton also does housework. Martin mentioned that there are no stereotypes about what men and women should or should not do in Sweden. The whole family often cleans together. If one spouse cooks, the other spouse will wash dishes and do housework while chatting. Therefore, from the age of 6 or 7, Swedish children will be responsible for cooking for everyone one day a week, instead of cooking complicated dishes, usually cooking noodles or meatballs.
Shanon said with a smile, under this concept, Anton walked around the kitchen from an early age, looking around and helping. "Now he can wash rice, wash vegetables, pull garlic, collect things, and even use Datong rice cookers. 」
In fact, Martin and Shannon have different views on Anton's upbringing. Shanon tends to give Anton a lot of security and love, while Martin wants him to be independent. They believe that Anton can make his own choices and judgments. As for whether to train An Tong into the entertainment circle? The two men said in unison, "That depends on him. As long as he is happy, we will be happy! " ! Even Martin thought, "If Anton wants to leave Taiwan Province Province when he grows up, I will encourage him. Because Swedes almost always leave home to live on their own after being admitted to university, "moving out can help children learn to be truly independent." With parents at home, you don't have to pay rent, do laundry, cook and clean, so it's easy to rely on. Under the dual education of Taiwan Province Province and Sweden, Anton will be a caring, independent and brave child in the future.