Children whose parents often quarrel will not be happy in their hearts, and their temperament will become more and more introverted, less and less confident, and even want to escape from their families when they grow up. There is causality between parents and children. Parents lead by example, which can be regarded as a good education for children, but also as a harm to children. Parents who often quarrel, their children often don't know how to love when they grow up, and they are even full of fear of marriage and family. All this is a causal relationship planted by parents.
Parents' axial force. Why do some brothers and sisters grow up together, but break up after marriage, or even become strangers? If this reason is investigated, the root cause is usually on parents.
It is the correct attitude of parents to face their children with fair value. It is unreasonable for parents to treat their children like this from the beginning, which will undoubtedly cause children's dissatisfaction and contradictions. For children who have been treated unfairly by their parents since childhood, it will undoubtedly bring irreparable harm and injustice to their lives.
Some parents prefer boys to girls, and boys will be spoiled when they are young, but girls not only don't get preferential treatment from their parents, but also need to work hard. Until they grow up and get married, parents will give all their property to their children, and even stipulate that their daughters should take care of their children and even rely on their daughters to provide for the elderly. This kind of parents bring their daughters a lifetime of dissatisfaction and hatred.
Everyone stipulates that "a bowl of water is flat" for parents. However, some parents will obviously favor one child, which is not only unfair in assets, but also contradictory among children, and will even favor and even safeguard the rights and interests of that axis child regardless of good or bad; Many families will soon break up after their parents die. Usually, when their parents are alive, the causal relationship is already deep. Parents with axial force bring long-term psychological imbalance to their children. Because of the sense of oppression and injustice, their hearts will become more and more unsightly, and even there will be shortcomings in their psychological state and temperament.
Parents who divorced when their children were young. Fatherly love, maternal love is like water. In the process of children's growth, whether it is the lack of fatherly love or maternal love, it is a regret in life to bring children an incomplete home.
A child who was insecure when he was a child was insecure inside. When he grows up, he will also have an imperfect psychological state and be more vulnerable in his feelings. Parents divorced and got rid of themselves, and the children were hurt, which could not be cured for a lifetime. In terms of harm to family and children, parents' divorce is an irresponsible manifestation.
Some parents are divorced, and children will grow up in divorced families. Some children will suffer prejudice or injury from their peers because they are not protected by their parents, which will leave an indelible mark on their mentality when they grow up. Parents can divorce, but love for their children is indispensable. Parents also have the obligation to always take care of and wait for their children, so that they can grow up healthily and happily.
Parents with incorrect views. A person's character is a passport to travel around the world. Parents with incorrect views bring their children an imperfect personality, that is, it is not easy to have a good future and fortune, and even children will lose their way and ruin their lives after entering social development. As the saying goes: fish begins to stink at the head, a dragon gives birth to a dragon, a phoenix gives birth to a phoenix, and a mouse gives birth to a hole. Parents' personality is the fundamental step to determine the fate of their children.
Parents' moral character and ideological consciousness are directly related to children's life values and their fundamental cognitive ability to the world, which is the future life track of children. Good parents will tell their children what to do, what not to do, what is right and what is wrong. When their children behave inappropriately, they will immediately point out the mistakes and give guidance, thus standardizing their personal behavior, shaping their correct values and pointing out the right path.
Some parents are love rat, an asshole. They are too indulgent to their children and even instigate them to do immoral things. Most of these children need to invest in the cost of living when they grow up.