The dictionary says: politeness refers to the expression of modesty and respect in speech acts; Education refers to the cultivation of general culture and morality.
Politeness and upbringing are not the same thing. Politeness is only one of the manifestations of upbringing. People who know manners may not be educated, but educated people usually know how to observe manners in their environment. For example, a well-educated farmer will observe the manners and manners in the countryside well.
On the relationship between politeness and upbringing;
Politeness is external and superficial, and can be put on by training and deliberately. Education, on the other hand, comes from the heart, which is the inherent quality of the combination of environment, education and experience. In other words, a person is polite and likable, but his heart may be selfish and hypocritical. But a person's education is not only manifested in external behavior, but also shows that his connotation and moral quality are good.
When it comes to education at first, I now know that if you don't show everything out of sincerity, it's just politeness, but polite behavior may change your attitude after a period of persistence and become heartfelt, and politeness will be transformed into education. From this point of view, politeness seems to be the basis of education, and it is the training process to obtain quantitative changes in education.
A good education is a natural and heartfelt behavior. Being kind to others is a kind of nature, not compulsory learning. I am with farmers in Italy, Jamaica and the western United States. Although they are engaged in manual labor, they are naturally humble and polite.
Education and politeness are different and interrelated. The difference is that education reflects people's essential quality and moral level, and reflects a positive attitude and behavior towards themselves and others, while politeness is only an external behavior of humility and respect when people communicate with each other. Their connection is that educated people always use politeness when they get along with others. Therefore, we can neither say that a person who is polite in social occasions but always speaks ill of others in private is educated, nor that a person who is very enthusiastic about helping others is educated.
In other words, we need not only the beauty and perfection of internal moral quality, but also the courtesy and propriety of external behavior. The unity of the two helps us to establish good interpersonal relationships with others. Otherwise, others will either "avoid us" (if we are hypocrites) or "stay away from us" (if we are enthusiastic people who are full of foul language).
The core of education
"Cultivation" plays an important role in good interpersonal relationships, such as caring for others, respecting others, being measured, understanding, gentle, paying attention to details, caring for others, being broad-minded, sincere, open and aboveboard, and so on.
The essence of education is caring for people. Because I care, I can pay attention to and accurately grasp the scale of communication, leaving necessary private space for others; We will overcome all kinds of inconveniences and make our behavior conform to the requirements of social morality; Pay attention to the use of polite expressions everywhere and strive to create a gentle and peaceful atmosphere.
There is a basic principle in interpersonal communication: don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you. You care about others, be considerate, thoughtful, sincere, decent, respectful and decent, and others will usually treat you in turn. Over time, you will have interpersonal attraction, and your social communication and social identity needs will be fully met. So you will create a good interpersonal environment conducive to sustainable development.
In this way, you have one of the most important external resources that a person can rely on: healthy interpersonal relationships.
Therefore, the concern in education is a great concern for people and themselves, which is helpful for interpersonal communication to enter a virtuous circle.
2. For the sentences about education in classical Chinese, the answer must be that there are so many sentences about education in China ancient books. Here are just a few words: if you are interested, I can provide the text.
Should be silent, should be calm, should be cautious, should be frugal, and the four should be good and good. Avoid excessive desire, rash action, sitting around and putting others first. Four people are seriously ill.
Do it often and you will get a constant formula. Don't forget that if you don't help, you will get a step-by-step formula.
Respect this heart, then the heart will be fixed; Gas restraint, then flat. Nothing is lacking in human nature, and nothing can be added to human nature.
A gentleman's heart is small, but his temperament covers his life. The villain's mind is unstoppable, but his will is confined to one corner.
Anger is a tiger, and desire is an abyss. Anger is like fire. If you don't stop it, you will start a prairie fire.
Desire is like water. If you don't stop it, it will be terrible. Punishing anger is like destroying mountains, and smothering desire is like filling gaps.
Punishing anger is like extinguishing fire, suppressing desire is like waterproofing. When my heart is relaxed, everything is out of control.
If you are careless, nothing will be cared for. Nothing is natural when the mind lasts.
Careless thoughts are the wrong start. The difference between one thought and another is wrong.
Ancient scholars worked hard at heart, so appearance was a symbol of virtue. Nowadays, scholars work hard on the outside, so if they are inside, it will be a disease of virtue.
As long as the heart is not presumptuous, there is nothing wrong. Only when the mind is not negligent will there be no ambition.
In the face of adversity, we must use pioneering methods; When you are in prosperity, you should use the convergence method. The world is weathered, and our hearts are refined.
The world is cold and warm, and we are patient. On the other hand, we have the resources to practice.
Justice in the day and the sky is cultivated from the cracks in the dark room. Spin dry to Kun economy, effective from deep position.
Fame comes from humiliation, and virtue comes from patience. Modesty is the first step to protect yourself.
Calm is the first step in doing things. Tolerance is the first step in dealing with people.
Free and easy is the first method of nourishing the heart. Behave yourself when you come.
When anger comes, behave yourself. When you are lazy, behave yourself.
Behave yourself when you are presumptuous. Self-detachment, treat people with things, nothing is clear, gain something, be complacent and indifferent, be frustrated and calm.
Static energy braking, sinking energy to control buoyancy, wide energy to control tension, slow energy to control urgency. Only quiet people can taste the real taste between heaven and earth.
There is a real machine between heaven and earth, and the quiet can see through it. Talented and slow-heating, you must be a great talent.
With wisdom and harmony, thinking is great wisdom. Avoid exuberance, fullness of heart and dew.
What has a role must be extraordinary. A wise man never reveals his talent.
Rough-headed and impetuous, nothing can be achieved. Calm, thousands of auspicious parallel.
Secular troubles should be tolerated. You should be free where the world is in trouble.
If you want to be pure gold and beautiful jade, you must forge it from fire. You have to walk on thin ice to hold up the sky.
People value quality. If they are a little dirty, they are not indomitable men. If there is anything to be ashamed of, it is not the character of Taishan Beidou.
People strive for glory, and when they ask for it, they are greatly humiliated; People compete for favor, and when they come by favor, the world is extremely cheap. The nobility of a husband lies only in his reputation and integrity.
I show off my husband, but I want clothes for everyday life. Men are ashamed to be concubines.
I really can't chisel, my Lord, I haven't lost my heart. A gentleman should be honest in things and humble when taking over.
In the matter of villains, they will flatter, flatter, be proud and be careless. Li Chao is not a good person, and neither is living at home.
He is not a good student at ordinary times, so he was not a good student when he was a child. Learning is like being a virgin, so why not be afraid of others.
Being an official is like marrying a daughter-in-law, and you have to support people. Go back to the forest like an old woman and teach people.
You can't see wealth when you are poor, and you won't be arrogant when you succeed in the future. When you are rich, you won't forget your poverty. Once you retire, you won't complain.
Mo Yan was a bitch before you. He will call me for recommendation. Mo Yan is poor in front of the rich, and he will call me to beg for his pity.
I just hope people will appreciate it, but I will forget it. A gentleman owes money to others, and he must pay it back if he receives it.
Being in harmony with others will make you strong and irresistible. Grasp yourself and you will have flexible rights.
Make people famous in the front, but if you don't make people corrupt in the back. Make people happy in the first place, if it doesn't make people tired for a long time.
As charming as a nine-tailed fox and as clever as Kuzu, alas, I am ashamed of this seven-foot body! Fighting three tigers with violence is better than two-headed snakes, but it's a pity that it's broken Rolling around, laughing at Iraqis complaining first? Why are you so close to the ground? Finally, I'm going to ask you, why is the heart lighter than life? What is more important than wealth? Rich boys want officials to pour money, while corrupt officials sell goods and neglect their duties. Brothers analyze chopsticks and translate them into division.
Scholar-bureaucrats love money, but books stink. Scholar-officials should benefit future generations, not seek happiness for them.
Respect for family rules, respect for thrift, teaching farming and reading, and accumulating yin virtues will also benefit. Wide field house, marriage help, what to fight for, fame, this is also a blessing.
Beneficiaries are long, those who seek happiness are thick and short. Scholars should cherish the name of this life, not the name of this life.
Dunshi, integrity, caution and respect, this precious name. The city is also famous for bidding for the list, inviting dignitaries, doing things enthusiastically and learning from examples.
People who cherish fame will rest quietly; The name of the city is impetuous and clumsy. Scholarly officials should be family assets, not family assets.
It also costs money to help the party, extensively repair, save the famine, apologize and help the righteous. Singing and dancing are taught in the garden, which is extravagant and expensive.
Those who use money, those who gain or lose: those who harm others, cover them up when they are full. Scholar-officials should cultivate themselves for the world, not cherish themselves for the world.
Preserving appetite, reducing distractions, and abstaining from anger and dieting are also good for your health. It is also a pity to adjust interests, avoid labor and grievances, camp in caves and houses, and keep your wife.
Those who cultivate themselves are big, but those who cherish them are thin.
3. Describe a person with no culture in classical Chinese 1. The Book of Songs, Wind, Rat and Spring and Autumn Period was collected by Yin Jifu and edited by Confucius.
Rats have skins, people have no instruments, people have no instruments, and they live forever!
Rats have teeth, people are endless, people are endless, and death is endless!
Squirrels have bodies, people are rude, people are rude, and Hu will not die!
Translation:
Look at that weasel with skin. How can people lose face? I'd rather die than lose face.
You see this weasel is full of teeth, but people don't care about virtue. If people have no virtue, what are they waiting for if they don't die?
You see, weasels still have limbs, but people don't know manners. People who don't know etiquette should die quickly.
Second, the behavior is unreasonable, and I am afraid of reading articles if I play badly. -Cao Qingxue Qin's Dream of Red Mansions
Interpretation: Activities do not conform to secular etiquette, stubborn personality, and do not like reading.
Third, the eyes are long in * * *, and they only recognize clothes but not people. -"Yong Zhen" by Wen Qing Yingjiang
Interpretation: people who write clothes are ungrateful, and their eyes only look at clothes, regardless of the hard work of people who make clothes.
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Creative background:
The Book of Songs, Wind and Mouse is a satirical poem, and its satirical object has different opinions. Predecessors generally have two opinions on this issue: Preface to Shi Mao thinks it is impolite to stab the incumbent, and Jian Zheng obeys it; "Lushi" thinks that this is a wife's admonition, and Ban Gu's "White Tiger Yi Tong" inherits this theory.
Although Kai He, Wei Yuan, etc. expounded the latter theory, most poets did not adopt it, but started from the preface of Mao's On, because the content of the expression was not consistent with the abhorrent feelings revealed in this poem.
Sogou Encyclopedia-The Book of Songs Wind Rat
4. Please invite a commentator to be educated in ancient Chinese, and be polite and impartial all the time. I respect you with my dress, be loyal and obedient, my father with courtesy, my son with love, my brother with love, my husband with respect but not slow, my husband with respect but different, my wife with obedience, and my husband with fear and indulgence if he does whatever he wants.
This whole road is also chaotic, and it is ruled by legislation. Excuse me, what can I do? Yue shenli
In the past, the first king ruled that the ceremony was beneficial to the world, so Deda reached heaven and earth. No problem.
A gentleman is respectful but not difficult, respectful but not hard, poor but not about, rich but not arrogant, soft but not poor, and the ceremony of trial is also. Therefore, a gentleman respects others with courtesy; It is also helpful, but it is not a loss; Also in people, rich and resentful; It is also in the instrument, and there is no danger in modifying it; Its strain is also convenient and not tired; Skilled Guan Bai geisha also uses it, and it does not compete with energy. It's also in all things in the world, so you don't have to cut it. It is also obedient and incomprehensible; It makes the next one even and unbiased; It is also meaningful in making friends; It is also in the countryside, inclusive and not chaotic.
Therefore, poverty is the name, the general principle of merit, benevolence and righteousness cover the world without poverty, know the world without doubt, change things without doubt, be calm in blood and gas, be broad-minded and do it, be righteous and plug the world, be extremely benevolent, and be judged by the ceremony of the first king. If so, the old people will be safe, the young people will be pregnant, and friends will believe it, just like the dead children returning to their loving mothers.
Yue: Benevolence and justice, sincerity and love, courtesy and music, and the principle of transportation. The poem says: "There is a degree of etiquette, and laughter is rewarded."
Excerpts from Korean poetry biography? The fourth volume.
5. A famous saying about education in ancient China is 1, which should be used for reference. -from the Book of Rites. Xue Ji compiled by Dai Sheng in the Western Han Dynasty.
It means that if a gentleman wants to educate people and create good customs, he must start with education. It is expressed that the greatest responsibility of education is not to pass on knowledge, but to change customs and traditions. Reflect the social standard theory.
2, the king of ancient times, the founding of the country and the people, teaching first. -from the Book of Rites. Xue Ji compiled by Dai Sheng in the Western Han Dynasty.
Ancient kings founded the country and governed the people, all of which put education first. It embodies the educational view of social standard theory.
3, Tao and Fu pull, strong and Fu suppress, open and. -from the Book of Rites. Xue Ji compiled by Dai Sheng in the Western Han Dynasty.
It means guiding students, not leading them; Encourage students, not suppress them; Inspire students, not draw conclusions for them. Reflect the inspiring teaching principle.
4. Learn from time to time-The Analects of Confucius and his disciples.
The study time is also good.
Confucius said, "Isn't it a pleasant thing to learn the truth of treating people and practice it in time?" "
5. Review the past and learn the new-The Analects of Confucius and its political disciples
The original text is: Confucius said: review the past and learn new things, and you can be a teacher.
It means: Confucius said: "Review old knowledge (referring to what you have learned) and gain new knowledge (referring to what you have not learned). Such a person can be a teacher. " Reflect the principle of consolidating teaching.
6. What were the ways to express etiquette in ancient China?
1, Yili. One of the thirteen Confucian classics. This is a compilation of Chinese etiquette during the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period. Seventeen articles in all. The content records all kinds of etiquette in the Zhou Dynasty, such as crown, marriage, burial, sacrifice, hometown shooting, courtship and employment. , mainly to record the etiquette of literati.
2. Book of Rites. The recorded knowledge of ancient cultural history and ideological theory have an important influence on the inheritance of Confucian culture, contemporary cultural education and moral cultivation, and the construction of a harmonious socialist society.
3. Zhou Li. It is a Confucian classic, which is said to be written by Zhou Gongdan, a famous politician, thinker, writer and strategist in the Western Zhou Dynasty. In fact, it is a fake made by Liu Xiang, a great scholar in Wang Mang's period at the end of the Western Han Dynasty, and his son Liu Xin.
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Adult ceremony in ancient life etiquette, also known as coronation ceremony, is the coronation ceremony for men to enter the ranks of adults. The coronation ceremony evolved from the adult ceremony attended by young men and women who were popular in clan society at maturity. The Han dynasty followed the crown ceremony system of the Zhou dynasty.
During the Wei and Jin Dynasties, Jia Guan began to accompany with music. Crown ceremony was practiced in the Tang, Song, Yuan and Ming Dynasties, and was abolished in the Qing Dynasty. Many ethnic minority areas in China still have ancient adult rituals, such as pulling teeth, dyeing teeth, wearing skirts, trousers and tying a bun.