There is a family in France. One day, after school, the children played basketball in the living room. Carelessly, the basketball jumped too high and hit an antique vase, which broke into several pieces.

The child was so scared that he was at a loss, and he was afraid that his mother would blame himself when she came back from work, so he found glue to stick the vase back.

On this day, children live in fear.

In the afternoon, when my mother came back from work, she found the change of the vase and asked the child what was going on. The child had a brainwave and said, "It was a cat that jumped in from the window and couldn't get rid of it. As a result, the vase was knocked off. "

The mother knows very well that the child is lying. I live on the third floor and close every window before going to work every day. It is impossible for a cat to come in.

However, my mother said calmly, "Maybe I was careless and didn't close the window."

After dinner, the mother called the child to the study. Take out a box from the drawer and give the child a chocolate: "This chocolate is your reward, because you used your magical imagination to create a cat that can fly and open the window." I think you can definitely write good science fiction in the future. "

The child bowed his head shyly until his mother found out the truth. But to his surprise, his mother put a second chocolate in his hand. Her mother said, "This chocolate is to reward you for your excellent repair ability. Although you use water, the pieces are well bonded, but this glue is used to stick paper products. Repairing vases requires stronger glue and more professional technology. Tomorrow, mom will take you to an artist's place, and we will see how they restore the broken vase to its original state, ok? "

Mom added, "This third piece of chocolate is also for you, which means I am deeply sorry for you. As a mother, I didn't consider that you like playing basketball and put the vase in a dangerous place. I hope you don't be afraid. "

"Mom, I was wrong ..." The child choked up.

Since then, the child has never lied again. Later, as an adult, he told others that whenever he wanted to lie, three chocolates would appear in front of him.

Yes, it's similar to Mr. Tao Xingzhi's reward for hitting a child with three sweets. This wise French mother used a special way, seemingly rewarding, but actually corrected her child's fault. In her words, what she saw was love and acceptance, heartfelt love and unconditional acceptance. She knows that the child didn't break the vase maliciously, which is normal for playful children.

Moreover, she knows that to shape children's behavior, it is necessary to stimulate the part that children want to do right in their hearts in a positive and intensive way. Only when he is willing to change himself will he really change. Otherwise, even if you force him to admit his mistake, shame will prompt the child to evade responsibility in a more sophistry way next time.

We can see that there is unconditional love in my mother's behavior, as well as unconditional acceptance, listening, understanding, appreciation and expression of my situation. Mother showed her children a brave mother with her words and deeds, and apologized to her children. What is more commendable is that this mother knows how to turn unfavorable things into favorable education. The next day, she took her children to find a craftsman to repair the vase, and let them see the exquisite skills of the craftsman, which is good for their future life or work.

It's just a broken vase, and sometimes we just vent our emotions and let it go. But this wise mother used it to teach her children a lot of knowledge and the truth of being a man.