First, a correct view of children's "naughty" behavior
For "naughty" children, many teachers often regard their mischievousness, slapstick, and love to engage in "practical jokes" as sabotage and trouble, and label them as "bad children" at will, which will inevitably bring adverse effects to children's growth. In fact, if we calm down, it is not difficult to see that many behaviors of "naughty" children are no different from ordinary children, but to a greater extent; Many "naughty" behaviors also contain positive factors, such as fun, active and curious, disobedience often reflects children's opinions, and aggressive behavior reflects children's enterprising spirit. Only when these performances are too intense, no matter the occasion, time and intensity, we need to treat them rationally and conduct appropriate guidance and education.
Second, treat it differently. Give more care to "naughty" children
In reality, we often see some excessively naughty children isolated by angry teachers and using negative education methods. Practice has proved that children who are rejected by adults or collectives often give up on themselves and form inferiority or rebellious psychology, which will only lead to a vicious circle and get farther and farther away from our expected educational goals. You know, love is an important condition for children's mental health development. Teachers should always pay attention to the words and deeds of naughty children and understand their inner feelings! Inner needs, tolerate his naivety and ignorance, respect his personality characteristics, and even allow him to make some mistakes temporarily. I once taught a boy named Yang Yang, who was very fond of making trouble. He often fights and is very aggressive when he is active. It is understood that his mother remarried, his father worked outside all the year round, and he lived with his elderly grandmother. Therefore, like my mother, I care about him and get close to him, making him feel that "the teacher loves me", so that he is willing to open his heart to me, so that I can carry out targeted education. Therefore, when the "naughty" children's behavior has problems, teachers should first calm down, and then conduct in-depth and meticulous observation to find out the reasons behind the behavior and treat them separately. If it is a child's normal age characteristics, such as a "prank" that the child thinks is fun, it should be understood and guided; If it is because of family reasons, parents should do a good job, such as advising parents to take "cold treatment" and spiritual encouragement. For "overbearing" children, they can be persuaded and induced by examples.
Third, prevent problems before they happen, and guide children to consciously correct them by suggestive methods.
Some children seem indifferent to their problem behaviors, but there is a desire for improvement in his heart. Therefore, when the child's naughty behavior has just begun or appears repeatedly, the teacher should shake his head and use his eyes to hint to stop it. For example, in class, when a naughty child pokes another child with his hand, the teacher can hint with his eyes or walk up to him and put his hand back on his leg, so that the child can realize that it is wrong and consciously correct it. For another example, the teacher saw some children walking around the corner of the community, making trouble at will. He can ask the children: Are you playing games? Who do you want to play with? Can we play chess in the puzzle area? Then arrange activities in the corresponding activity area according to his wishes.
Fourth, let children correct their bad behavior in their feelings.
For some bad behaviors of children, children can feel the emotional experience caused by behaviors in a specific environment, so as to distinguish right from wrong and consciously correct them. For example, Xiaohui in my class is six years old this year. One morning, when his mother sent him here, she quietly took out a toy car and said to me, "I came home from school and found that the child had taken it away." I was very angry and told Xiaohui a lot of truth, but he just didn't listen, because he liked it so much that he had no choice but to carry it behind him. " I didn't take back the toy at once, but patiently did her work. Then, I deliberately hid the deformation toys that Xiaohui played every day. Sure enough, when the corner activity was held in the afternoon, Xiaohui opened the box and found that the deformed toy was gone. He was so anxious that he looked everywhere. If I couldn't find it, I ran to report: "Teacher, the deformed toys in the class are gone!" " I pretended to be surprised and said, "Really? Do some children like it so much that they take it home to play, so that other children can't play, how anxious. " I went on to say, "Just now, a child said that his favorite toy car was gone, but the teacher knew that the toy car was gone."
My friend will definitely send it back tomorrow, otherwise, how sad it will be for children who like to play with these toys to find that they are gone. "The next day, Xiaohui returned the toy voluntarily and never took anything away at will. In this way, I took the opportunity of "losing" deformed toys to let my children experience the unhappiness brought by their bad behavior to others and actively and consciously correct their mistakes.
Fifth, observe carefully, discover in time, and tap the bright spot of "naughty" children.
Although the "naughty" children have many unsatisfactory performances, they also have many positive and valuable places, such as curiosity, inquiry, stubbornness and cleverness. Teachers should try their best to find out their bright spots and encourage them to make progress. For example, there is a boy named Shang Shang in my class. He often asks questions suddenly in class without raising his hand, interrupting the teacher's words, resulting in classroom disorder. After careful observation, I found that he has a strong desire to express himself, but he is not good at controlling his reputation. So I praised him in front of the whole class in a group activity and asked him, "You are smart and witty, and the teacher likes you." If you can be disciplined, the teacher will like you more when you raise your hand and ask questions. " As a result, he really got rid of this problem. Because of his poor self-control, I intend to let him be the "traffic police" on duty in the activity area in the future. He is serious and responsible, and perseveres to the end. The children spoke highly of his performance, which made him experience the joy of defeating himself and become more and more excellent.
Sixth, create conditions for children to give full play and "vent" opportunities.
Being active is a child's nature, and toys are his angels. Teachers should provide children with enough materials, toys and learning tools, so that children have something to play with and something to operate, so that they have it in their hands. "Dry, you won't run around. Naughty children often have excessive energy, so we should create conditions for them to "vent" their remaining energy, such as ensuring enough outdoor activities, allowing them to run and jump, and taking them to play some games with high activity intensity. For those smart and naughty children, we can create problem scenarios, guide them to find ways to solve them, and strive to improve their thinking ability and problem-solving ability.
Some children's excessive naughty behavior is not formed in a day or two, and of course it will not disappear in a short time. Sometimes things get better, and then they will appear again after a while. If you relax for a while, you may lose all your efforts. Therefore, to treat naughty children, teachers should be psychologically prepared to fight a protracted war. If you can't change it for a while, you must wait patiently and actively guide. They should believe that as long as they persist, their children will get better one day. What has changed temporarily should be consolidated and constantly strengthened. As long as teachers have enough love, patience and perseverance, they will eventually receive the effect of "from quantitative change to qualitative change"