You can make a hullabaloo about when educating children. Educational psychologists point out that there should be not only unconditional love for children, but also "conditional discipline". Without parents, children don't love, but if this kind of love is unbridled, it will turn into harm, and children can't really grow up.

Speaking of disciplining children, I believe many parents have read many articles on the Internet saying that yelling at children is too harmful, so don't yell at your parents! I want to say that those who say they never yell at their children, they certainly have never really raised children. For children's education, you have to yell when you should. As long as you pay attention to the following principles, yelling at children is for their own good.

1. Attitude is more important than voice?

Most parents are anxious. On the one hand, they have to work to earn money, on the other hand, they don't want their children to lose at the starting line. Sometimes it's hard to get angry when you meet a child when you are depressed. In particular, some children "automatically filter" their parents' voices. When you talk to him under fire, he ignores you at all, so parents have to raise their voice by an octave. ?

But you know what? It's no use yelling hysterically at children. The important thing is that you need to find him, let the children see your attitude, and then communicate with him. The tone should be harsh. At this time, it is time to show the authority of parents. It has been whispering, and children are not afraid. Therefore, the correct way to yell at children is not to yell loudly, but to let children see your attitude. This is the aura of parents.

2. Pay attention to words and don't humiliate children.

Many parents get emotional easily when they yell at their children. The children in front of us are no longer children, but adults who can quarrel. If they can't hold back for a while, they will swear and hurt people, and the children will become angry from embarrassment and won't listen to what you are saying at all. The relationship between father and son has reached an impasse. ?

In fact, talking to children is also an art. For example, if you want to criticize children, it is not the best way to point out mistakes directly. A better way is to praise children's good performance at ordinary times, then point out their problems and finally put forward their expectations. Everyone likes to hear good things. Under the guidance and packaging of "good words", you will control your emotions, and it is difficult to shout out, or even if the tone is a bit heavy, I think children will accept it gladly. Isn't this killing two birds with one stone?

3. If you are rude to your child, apologize in time and forgive yourself?

Parents work without a license, so we should allow ourselves to make mistakes. Parents are not saints, and raising children is trivial. How many people can always keep their inner peace? If you say it out, it's like spilled water, which can't be taken back. If you are upset after yelling at your child once, please remember to apologize to your child in time. I believe that kind children will understand. ?

When the child is older, you can also talk to the child about your performance when you are angry. You can talk openly with your children about your goals. This is not only to solve the embarrassment of parent-child relationship, but also to give your child an emotional intelligence lesson and tell him how to control his emotions stably is very important to his life.

Don't label yourself as a "bad parent" just because you yell at your children. Maybe you're just a little tired recently. Being a parent is not easy. You should also know how to love yourself and adjust your state in time. If we are in a good state and in a good mood, we will be more rational when educating our children.