-Notes on how to help a girl with inferiority to get out of the shadow of her heart.

Case background:

Jing was a beautiful girl in our class when I was the head teacher three years ago. The little girl has a beautiful oval face, two curved arch eyebrows and a pair of big eyes under the eyebrows. She has a slender figure, and her beautiful long hair is often tied into a ponytail with braided ropes, which is somewhat playful in femininity. However, it is such a lovely little girl. Soon after contact, I was surprised to find that she had a serious inferiority complex. Every time I ask her questions in class, she never dares to look up and say nothing, and her eyes will be red when she is in a hurry. I was also surprised to find that she never played with other students after class. She often sits alone in her seat in a daze, sometimes with tears in her eyes. How can a little girl who should be confident and happy do this? I can't help thinking about it. So in my spare time, I quietly learned about it with other teachers and classmates. It turned out that Jing had a hard time studying in primary school, but after the fourth and fifth grades, she was seriously left behind. Her grades have been hovering around 20 points for a long time, and she is often laughed at by some naughty children in the class. As a result, depression, panic and pain occupied the little girl's heart, making her frown all day, and her whole heart was shrouded in depression and pain, like a poor and lonely sheep who could not find a flock. In the face of such a child who is deeply tortured by "inferiority", I can't help but make up my mind and try my best to save the child from the pain.

Case study:

The above is a girl I came into contact with when I was a class teacher for a long time. In fact, there are many children like her in life. Because of their hard work, bad looks, poor family, family changes or some physical defects, they have long been shrouded in the cloud of inferiority. Lighter people often blush, dare not speak for a long time, love to cry, love a person in a daze; In severe cases, there may even be mental depression; What's more, there will be suicidal behavior. Therefore, as an educator, we must not ignore this special group and try our best to help them get out of the besieged city of inferiority and move towards self-confidence and happiness. Next, I want to talk about my immature thinking in combination with my own work practice.

Case process: In terms of quiet growth, to help her overcome her inferiority complex, I think it is necessary to try to plant a seed of self-confidence in her heart first, and try to make this special seed take root, sprout, blossom and bear fruit on her. Don't underestimate the magic of self-confidence. Although there is only one word difference between "inferiority" and "self-confidence", "inferiority" leads to people's sadness, pain and even despair, while "belief" makes people "happy" to appreciate themselves, make people "happy" to feel the little joys in their life growth, and make people's hearts full of expectations forever. Let me talk about the whole process of how to help Jing build self-confidence and finally grow up happily.

First, blow confidence and breeze.

Quiet, a child who should be happy and carefree, has been shrouded in inferiority for a long time, so that he is breathless, miserable and even full of despair. In order to help the child struggle out of this pain, I first thought of "confidence". Only a confident breeze can blow away the haze in the child's heart and blow up the ripples in her heart. Through the above introduction, I believe that everyone basically understands the static situation. Children's learning situation is more serious, long-term backwardness, attracting ridicule from others, leading to a serious inferiority complex. Then heart disease needs to be treated with heart medicine. Try to get her to study, and maybe things will change. So according to her psychological needs, she first configured two drugs. The first medicine "opens a small stove". In my third week in office, I got in touch with Jing's parents in time and told them the idea of taking an hour to help Jing every noon. After listening to this, their parents were very supportive and expressed their deep gratitude. So I was invited to the office at noon every day and began to "add meals" to my children. But I am not in a hurry to make up what I have learned now, but I have reduced the difficulty. I started from the period when the children in the second and third grades began to have problems, and took the form of giving more lectures and practicing repeatedly to help them review their old knowledge. At the same time, encourage and praise children as much as possible, so that children do not feel that learning is very painful. At the same time, a special person was appointed. One of her fellow villagers studied hard and tried to help her outside school. I want to do it from two aspects: first, gradually help her build self-confidence, and second, gradually open her heart through contact with Britain. At first, it can be said that the situation is very gratifying. Every day at noon, I quietly come to my place to "add food". In the evening, I go to Yingjia to "make up" the children, and a smile gradually appears on my face. However, about a month later, the little self-confidence just established was once again completely destroyed by an exam that suddenly appeared in the general school. The exam was very difficult, and the static score was blocked by 20 points again. I remember that the child didn't show up at the door of my office at noon the next day after the sampling test, and still didn't show up on the third day. I knew children couldn't accept reality. On the fourth day, I finally lost my temper and found peace. The child was in tears before I could speak. "Teacher, you don't have to spend time on me. I am not a learning material. " "Who said that, girl? Tell me who was born to learn. " "Look into the teacher's eyes and the teacher will tell you my story. When I was a child, I studied very poorly. Even if I worked hard, I could only be in the middle of my class. At that time, I was like an ugly duckling, feeling that I had nothing good at all. However, after I entered the fifth grade, my new head teacher, Mr. Liu, always encouraged me and affirmed my advantages. She even read my composition as a model essay to everyone many times, exhibited my homework on the booth of the whole school, and kept cheering for me, firmly believing that I was the most potential student. Later, I really didn't live up to my teacher, studied hard, and finally came out on top in my class. Son, if I give up on myself like you, no matter how much the teacher encourages me, can I still be your teacher like today? Who is naturally eager to learn, who is not! The key is the hard work the day after tomorrow! The teacher won't give up on you. Why do you give up on yourself? It's only been a month, and I want my grades to go up at once. It's not that easy. As long as you work hard, the teacher believes you can pass the exam. Maybe you can't sprint 890 points, but you can certainly sprint to pass the exam. The teacher has confidence in you. You can't give up on yourself. I will wait for you at noon tomorrow! " At noon the next day, I began to look at the door every few seconds, expecting the familiar figure to appear, ten times, twenty times, thirty times ... In my eager expectation, the child appeared timidly. I didn't say a word, just smiled and held the child's little hand affectionately, passing on my love and warmth to her. "Let's get started, son!" "Well," she nodded heavily. In the following days, our teachers and students always discuss in the office at noon. In class, I often design some simple questions for Jing according to the teaching content, so that she can answer them, constantly exercise her courage and strengthen her thinking consciousness. In order to further help them build their self-confidence, I also specially held a theme class meeting to "find advantages" so that every student can fully find the advantages of himself and his peers. At that class meeting, when it was Jing's turn, Jing was still a little confident and silent. I was the first person to break the deadlock, and I was the first person to point out the benefits of studying hard. Then, some friends pointed out her advantages such as being helpful, caring and skilled, and I encouraged her even more. Finally, my little girl tearfully thanked everyone for their affirmation and said that she would try to do better in the future. Faced with a little progress in children's growth, I often report good news to parents in the form of notes, and recommend good stories to children, such as "beautiful butterfly knot", "You can clap your hands" and "Please raise your right hand bravely". Gradually help her build confidence. Under the breeze, the beautiful little girl began to be cheerful and began to talk and laugh with everyone after class.

Second, wake up the people in the nightmare.

When the wind of self-confidence quietly blew into the child's heart with the child's growth and change, I did not relax, but continued to prescribe spiritual prescriptions to help the child heal. At this moment, God really loves me, and the efforts of a semester have not been in vain. On the basis of improving nearly 30 points in the middle period, Jing actually improved again at the end of the period, with 60 points in Chinese and 70 points in mathematics. "60 points, 70 points" may be nothing to many children, and even some top students have to be punished by their parents, but for Jing, it was once a dream that was out of reach for three or four years, and now it has really come true. You can imagine how touched it is. At the moment when the test paper was handed out, I couldn't wait to dial Jing's father's mobile phone and was the first to report the good news to his father. After more than two hours on the phone, we are all happy and proud of the changes in our children. When * * * came to this long-term melancholy little girl, it also brought her happiness and confidence. At the beginning of the new semester, I was surprised to find that the little girl's face was no longer full of melancholy, but began to be full of sunshine, and her head was no longer habitually drooping, but held high, and the beautiful ponytail at the back of her head seemed to sway playfully behind her head as her master changed. It seems that the wind of self-confidence has awakened the little girl. In order to make children more cheerful, I have prescribed a new prescription to fully "show themselves" on the basis that children face up to themselves and affirm themselves. I remember that it was 1 1 months ago. Our school asked all classes to hold a squadron meeting with the theme of "I present a gift for National Day". Knowing that silence is sweet, I decided to invite silence to appear in the first poetry reading program. When I told Jing my private thoughts, the child was a little timid, but I always encouraged the girl, "My child, the teacher believes that you can do it, and so can you." Challenge yourself bravely. " With my repeated encouragement, the squadron will stand in the middle of the team that day and read aloud with its partners calmly and confidently. I smiled, and the child defeated himself again. Jing's handwriting is very beautiful. Don't forget to tap this advantage of her, and let her and her partners participate in various handwritten newspaper competitions in the school to help them build their confidence. Now when I wake up from my dream, my face is sunny.

Third, blow a new life.

One day during the holiday, I took my little daughter to catch a big local episode. A strange and familiar figure came to me from a distance. "Teacher, I miss you so much." I rubbed my eyes hard and looked at the slim girl in front of me. That familiar and beautiful oval face. Aren't those familiar watery eyes quiet? For three years, for three years, our teachers and students met unexpectedly in the street. Now Jing, with short hair, wearing a short T-shirt and denim shorts, introduced her companion to me gracefully. "This is what I say to you the most, my dearest teacher Cao, the most important person in my life." "Hello, teacher, I'm so happy to meet you. Old Jing told us how good you are. I finally met you today. " "How can I be so good?" "Who said that you are good everywhere?" Jing actually hugged me and kept saying, "In my mind, you are good all your life." During the exchange, Zhongjing also told me her new plan again and again, preparing to study technology well in the technical school after graduating from middle school next year and become a self-reliant person in the future. "She also said that although Gong class is very tired now, I still have a hard time studying, but I have confidence in myself. There is no hope for the senior high school entrance examination, but I learned a good craft in a technical school. All roads lead to Rome, and the teacher believes I can do it. " "I believe the teacher is waiting for your good news." Just then, the girl half a head taller than me hugged me affectionately again. "Teacher, if only I could hold you like this all my life." "Girl, this is a big episode, don't cause traffic jams." The girl couldn't help giggling, and I laughed happily.

Now the silence in front of you, can you sit with the person who stayed in Lacrimosa almost all the time three years ago, always with his head down, not knowing the sound of silence? I think if no one saw the story of Jing, this decision is impossible! The growth and change of Jing once again tells us the fact that it is the wind of self-confidence that blows away her pain, loneliness and despair and brings her happiness, self-confidence and happiness. After experiencing layers of metamorphosis like a silkworm moth, this little person is now performing a colorful butterfly dream that belongs to her more. We are quietly looking forward to the excitement of her new life! So please let's work together to let the "inferiority complex" in children's hearts drift away with the wind, let self-confidence stay in this special group that has been shrouded in inferiority for a long time, and help them realize their beautiful dreams in life!

Thinking after the case happened:

As an educator, I think it will never be possible to help students get out of the shadow of inferiority. We need to persevere in the spirit of "sticking to the castle peak and not relaxing" and need to prescribe the right medicine. The following is my analysis of my 10% Gong case. To help students build self-confidence, we might as well work hard in the following aspects:

1 urge children to learn to face themselves.

2 Guide children to fully affirm themselves.

Let children learn to show themselves.

Help children practice a good attitude.

5 Guide children to seek new development