1. Look at the problem from the child's point of view
Put yourself in the child's shoes from another angle. For example, parents want to go to the mall, but children don't like it. He feels that there is still a long way to go and he can't keep up with the pace of adults. He was in a hurry and his feet were sore.
The child wants to play in the park. You're afraid he'll get lost and say it's too messy and noisy. In fact, the children want to enlighten their artistic cells with the grandmothers of the square dance. If you criticize without knowing the reasons behind it, the children will definitely not listen to you.
2. Learn to approach children actively.
Sometimes children are reluctant to communicate with their parents. Parents can recall whether they often talk to their children with a condescending attitude, instead of communicating with their children as friends on an equal footing. This "dislocation communication" itself is a way of communication that cannot last long.
No matter how busy you are at work, you should take some time to spend with your child, play games with him and exercise. You should learn to approach the child actively and be his bosom friend.
3. Let the children do things by themselves as much as possible.
Children live in an orderly way, have strong self-care ability, and often have unique thinking ability. Children's qualities will be displayed in their studies, and their unimaginable potential will be exerted. Therefore, parents should let go of their hands and feet as much as possible and let their children do their own things independently, which is very beneficial to their growth.
There is a saying that you can help a child walk for a while, but you can't help him for a lifetime. Parents will get old one day, and there is always a way for him to go alone.
4. Give children free space
If parents want their children to develop a unique personality, they should give them enough independent space. Children in the developmental stage are gradually maturing in psychological and physical age and constantly enhancing their self-awareness. Children need more independent private space and the right to make their own choices.
Therefore, parents can't do everything for their children, they need respect, leave him private space, and let him have the right to arrange and choose his time freely. This is the idea of many parents, who think and arrange for their children everywhere, but the children do not buy it, but gradually drift away from their parents.
Parents should give their children more respect and give them enough free space. The responsibility of parents means respect and freedom. A responsible person must have strong self-control, and so must a child.
5. Treat children as teachers occasionally.
Confucius said: In a threesome, there must be a teacher. No matter adults or children, as long as there is something better than themselves, they can become teachers. In family education, parents can occasionally treat their children as teachers and learn from them.
Children also have the ability to observe things quickly and a good memory, and some of these advantages you don't have. So don't take "shameless questioning" as a sneer. If education is used properly, it will have unexpected effects.