Parents always care about the best way to educate their children, and they will try their best to give them the best education. However, there are also right and wrong educational methods. The following is the best way for parents to educate their children.

The best way for parents to educate their children 1 First, make friends with their children and don't take drastic actions.

To educate children correctly, we should put down our posture and take the initiative to be friends with them, instead of always condescending. Parents should often have in-depth and intimate conversations with their children to convey their love for them.

In addition, when a child makes a mistake, parents should first appease the child's emotions, avoid taking excessive actions against the child, help the child calmly analyze and solve problems, and do not indiscriminately stick education.

Rough treatment of children can not only make him realize his mistakes and correct them, but also leave a shadow in his heart and his personality becomes extreme.

Second, spend more time with your children.

No one can replace the love and companionship of parents. Only with the careful teaching and companionship of parents can children get better education and form good habits.

However, in real life, many parents have to ask their grandparents to come over to help look after their children, or just leave their children at home.

In this case, parents can't give their children enough company, which will have a bad influence on his growth.

Therefore, parents should treat their children more attentively, communicate with them more, or make more videos and phone calls to keep abreast of their children's life and study, so that children can feel that they still care and love themselves even if their parents are not around.

Third, parents should set an example.

Parents are their children's first teachers, and their words and deeds will have a subtle influence on their children, so parents must set a good example for their children.

There are many scholarly families, parents with high quality and good virtue, and their children are naturally educated.

On the contrary, it is difficult for children to develop good behavior habits when they grow up in a smoky family environment.

Fourth, learn to respect children.

Although children's growth depends on their parents, they are also independent individuals and need the respect of others, such as:

Respect children's interests-interest is the internal motivation to constantly stimulate children's creativity. When children show interest in a certain aspect, parents should not stifle it, but encourage them and help them learn a new skill.

Respect the child's personality-when the child makes a mistake, parents should not scold him too much, but help him realize the mistake, guide him to correct it and avoid making it again;

Respect children's opinions-when important decisions need to be made in the family, don't forget to ask children's opinions, especially those that affect them. In this way, children can feel respected and grow more confident and excellent in the future.

Children are like a blank sheet of paper, and they can only grow up with the careful education and training of their parents. Parents learning the above four points can not only make their children develop physically and mentally healthily, but also establish close parent-child relationship and grow up in a warm and harmonious family atmosphere.

The best way for parents to educate their children 2 How to educate their children correctly?

Third-rate parents are nannies, second-rate parents are coaches, and what about first-rate parents?

No matter whether this sentence is right or wrong, no matter what kind of parents, "role models", "coaches" or "nannies", there is a common problem to face, and that is how to deal with their own emotional problems.

For the father, what the father takes to educate his children is to use his own demeanor. The qualities a father must show in front of his children, when to show his grace, especially when he encounters adversity, people he can't accept and people who make mistakes, and how to show his grace are a kind of strength for his children's hearts and a space for them. A mother's mood is more important to her children.

Mother's personality and temper will directly affect children's psychological development. The mother is gentle, the child's temperament tends to be peaceful, and the inner world is stable; If the mother is grumpy and moody, the child will be impetuous and emotional, and it is easy to do things. Therefore, controlling emotions is an important lesson for modern mothers to learn.

The first word my mother wants to learn is "virtual"

Many mothers are very smart, they can see their children's problems at a glance, and soon they can't help but point them out. This is not the connotation of mother. When a mother sees her child's strengths and weaknesses, don't react immediately. Why don't you move? Because children need space to grow up by themselves. Random and excessive evaluation of mothers often makes children lose their inner motivation and pay more attention to their mother's reaction. Some parents are puzzled that their children are very good in front of others. As soon as I got home, I saw my mother and became a different person, impatient and incomprehensible.

Why is this? Maybe this "virtual" is not done well. A mother who can't keep a straight face and be empty can't provide space for her children's emotions. The child's emotions are not tolerated by the mother's emotions, or become cautious or antagonistic, making it difficult for the parent-child relationship to be smooth.

The second word my mother wants to learn is "weak"

Mothers should learn to show weakness in front of their children. It is difficult for a child with a strong mother to be self-confident, and the child's self-confidence will be weakened little by little when the mother has been strong. A mother who can show weakness in front of her children actually helps them by showing weakness, and their hearts will gradually become confident and powerful. Therefore, if you want your child to be confident, you must learn to show weakness in front of your child. Parents who have always been strong to their children are actually suppressing their growth and development.

The third word my mother wants to learn is "soft"

In the process of children's growth, a mother's real educational strength lies in "softness". You will find that the softer a mother is, the stronger her ability to control her children is sometimes, and it is often difficult to be competent to guide and control her children by yelling at them all day.

Every parent attaches importance to children's learning, but where should parents' mentality be? Please don't rush to sign up for classes, find a tutor, or find something at the methodological level to solve your child's learning problems.

Family education focuses on nurturing, not teaching. We need to interpret the following two words in particular: one is heart and the other is emotion. Education needs affection and courtesy, which is the principle that parents must abide by when educating their children. There is no fixed method for teaching, and the methods needed to treat children from different families and children at different growth stages are definitely different. But there is a common principle to pay attention to, that is, to be affectionate and polite, and to value affection over courtesy.

What is the current situation of family education? That's rude. Parents' love for children is endless. When they care about their children, they even have to put on socks and wash them (children old enough). Is this called love? This feeling has lost the value of education.

Another status quo is politeness and ruthlessness, especially when parents reason with their children, there is no emotional bedding. Education at any level should first convey the true inner feelings of educators to the educated. Feelings are enough, and parents will point out the truth when children are eager for us to say something. It must be a certain degree of emotional communication before the child will take the initiative to say, "Mom, what should I do?" At this time, a little truth in the past may realize a guiding ability for children.

Parents' inner anxiety and impetuousness are more terrible than children's learning problems.

It is not terrible for children to have learning problems. What is terrible is the interference source that causes children's inner anxiety. In other words, the most terrible thing is that the basic support within the children is chaotic. Parents must have the ability of emotional self-control. When a child has a problem, don't be impatient, calm down first, adjust your emotions, and then face the problem.

How to realize the self-regulation and management of emotions is a deep-seated problem for parents. Only a calm heart can precipitate and absorb the rational thinking of education. Only when our parents' hearts calm down can educators' rational thinking on education settle into their hearts and become their own state. Without this process, you can't internalize into your own state, and it is invalid for you to read any educational concept. Because you can't internalize and precipitate, you can't have the capital to implement education, and you can't realize it in your own home with the things of education experts.

The best way for parents to educate their children 3 How do parents educate their children?

First, help children to establish good habits.

Many parents work hard all their lives just to leave a fortune for their children and protect their lives. But I didn't expect that money, a valuable thing, would be squandered by children sooner or later.

Children who are used to daily luxury can change from frugality to luxury, and from luxury to thrift. Once the high-quality life is disrupted, it will only leave them with degeneration and endless regrets.

Therefore, it is better to teach people to fish than to teach people to fish, and it is better to give children several good habits than to give them millions of wealth. Good habits can broaden children's future life pattern and are very important for their life growth.

The habit of reading

Reading is very important for children's growth and plays a great role in learning and life experience.

Children have the habit of reading, which will not only greatly increase their writing vocabulary, but also lay a solid foundation for the expansion of knowledge and scope.

A habit of suffering hardships

I don't know if parents have this feeling: when we give our children a good material life and learning environment, children often don't cherish and squander.

Such children are selfish and arrogant, unable to sympathize with their parents' hard work, and have no gratitude and filial piety.

Therefore, parents should give their children a chance to suffer, let them know that life is not easy, and let them understand that survival is not easy.

Second, cultivate a good parent-child relationship.

In pedagogy, it is better to establish a good parent-child relationship than to persuade children to study hard. If the atmosphere of a family is harmonious and friendly, the education of children can achieve twice the result with half the effort.

Parents and children have a harmonious relationship, and the education of their children is easy to succeed; The relationship between parents and children is tense, and the education of children is easy to fail. The key to establishing a good parent-child relationship lies in identity positioning.

Learn to be a "coach" instead of a "leader"

For children's education, parents always like to pave the way for their children as "experienced people", telling them what to learn and what books to read are useful …

Although the starting point is for the good of the children, they have not considered their ideas at all, nor have they been consulted. In the long run, children will be afraid of you, stay away from you and won't talk to you. Naturally, what they say to you goes in one ear and out the other.

There will be many problems in the growth of children. At this time, they need someone to give them advice, help them point out problems and then overcome difficulties together. What they need more is a close coach, not a superior leader who demands obedience and obedience.

Learn to be a cheerleader instead of a referee.

The referee on the sports field has been staring at the athletes. Once a foul is found, it will be warned to leave immediately, and it will be handled without mercy. Cheerleading, on the other hand, is always full of energy, cheering for the athletes and bringing them confidence and motivation.

In the process of growing up, children will have many firsts, such as learning to walk for the first time, holding chopsticks for the first time, riding a bike for the first time ... Maybe they will fall down many times in the process of learning and will keep repeating mistakes. At this time, parents must give their children a chance to buffer, and don't say, "Why are you so stupid? I can't learn after a few times. "

As the saying goes, "a good word warms three winters, and a bad word hurts the cold in June." Parents' criticism of children will not only make children feel uncomfortable, but also widen the distance between parents and children, which is not good for parents and children.

No one is born with the ability to do something, and adults are bound to make mistakes, let alone children. When children don't do things well enough, we should give them more encouragement, protect their self-esteem and help them correct their mistakes.

Education is not as difficult as imagined, but "doing something and not doing something". Children are the center and focus of the family. It is understandable that parents want their children to succeed and their daughters to succeed. But how to realize these beautiful wishes scientifically in family education? It is imperative to get out of the misunderstanding of family education.

Seven misunderstandings in education

Myth 1: Parents love their children and are best at treating others according to their own needs.

The child is thirsty and wants to drink mineral water, but parents think abalone is nutritious, but the child doesn't like it.

Parents buy high-end toys for their children, and children just like to play with some worthless gadgets.

You spend a lot on purpose, and the child is unhappy, because these are not what the child needs. What you don't need can't reflect its value.

Myth 2: After attending a cram school, your grades will definitely improve.

Nowadays, cram schools, with all kinds of names, are like mushrooms after rain, surrounding children layer by layer. Parents spend money, as if they were comforted. Do they think about their children's hard work and depression? Is the child's usual academic burden not heavy enough? The heavy schoolbag bent their backs.

Scientifically speaking, the cerebral cortex is not used for thinking, but is controlled by the body and emotions. When people are in a state of fatigue and emotional distress, their abilities of memory, analysis and judgment disappear. Will produce anger, anger, fear and other emotions. Not only will health be affected, but it will also be manifested as weariness, procrastination, self-isolation, and no communication with others. There may even be extreme phenomena such as sudden death or suicide.

Myth 3: if you don't do anything, you always look for external causes.

Some parents, like their children, understand their children's sufferings and often criticize China's current education. Let the children complain, too Complaining is not a positive way to solve problems.