However, not long after, there was a situation of "fleeing back to the north". Those families who "fled the North"? When they arrive in a comfortable small city, they find that they can't adapt to the confusion of doing nothing in the small city, the hidden rules of the acquaintance society and the cultural environment that is incompatible with it. More and more young people would rather live in the basement with cockroaches than go home and live in spacious villas to talk to their echoes. They would rather squeeze into the subway every day and work at night under pressure than live in old age for a long time. The reason is simple, one makes people have hope forever.
? When "Escape from the North to Guangzhou" became popular, I did escape from Shanghai, not because it was Shanghai, not because I was afraid of what others called the big city disease. Just like when I chose to go before, it was just pure passion and intuition. I went and left. I have no prejudice against big cities or small cities when I go or leave. I think every place is the same.
Later, it was discovered that people can do things simply and intuitively because they have not experienced enough setbacks, challenges to outlook on life and values, and the hard growth of playing games with heart and changing their mood.
In the past few years in Shanghai, I also have the hardships of finding a house, moving luggage and finding a job, the fatigue of squeezing the subway to catch the bus, the insecurity of living in a small shared room, and the pressure of not being recognized or even dismissed from my job. But after all this, I am as simple as ever. My conclusion now is that I can bear all those hardships and pressures, and I am willing to bear them. In line with my long-standing outlook on life and values: people just have to work hard, right?
After I arrived in a small city, I still tried to do my job well. Try to be a new person. I still remember when I first joined the work, I sat in the company for a few days with nothing to do, and everyone was busy with their own affairs. The teacher who took me will send me a message. Everyone is very busy. No one has time to teach you anything. I will take the initiative to learn more. It is good to have something to do. Only by doing more can we learn more and make more progress. This is my behavioral values when I enter the workplace.
However, in a small city, especially after I have done a stable job, I will find that the situation is completely opposite. Many different people will want to ask you to do something, once there will be a second time and a third time, until the day when you learn to refuse. An important skill you need to learn here is actually judgment, because the job itself is stable, and the salary is not linked to how much you do. Moreover, when you finally summarize the work, the protagonist is still theirs, even if the article is written by you but signed.
Therefore, if you want to integrate into this circle, you must subvert your values instead of finding something to do and learn something. You should learn to judge and show your advantages.
? Slowly, after a long time, I will find that I have changed slowly, and I also understand that some people keep saying that the so-called maturity and smooth edges and corners are actually subverting the outlook on life, values and world outlook that we have been educated, learning to take shortcuts and learning to be those smart people. It seems that a mature life is a truth handed down from thousands of years of human evolution. I spent my tuition and youth in school for the first twenty years. When we step out of school and step into the society, we should learn to return these truths to the school and subvert it: we don't need to work hard, because efforts are not as good as efforts to please leaders, and we can never be indifferent to fame and fortune, because ranking represents your position, and we don't need to abide by rules and discipline, because rules are made by people, and people are alive or dead.
We did find that a few smart people achieved their goals faster than we did by taking shortcuts, and even they mastered the right to speak earlier. They will praise themselves and continue to preach the truth taught by the school, but completely forget how they achieved their goals through subversion.
As a result, more and more people want to be a smart minority, until this minority becomes a majority, the shortcut is stopped, and even crowded, no one can walk.
The ancients said that those who know the times are heroes and those who don't know the times are sages. Indeed, those who stubbornly do not take shortcuts seem to be very ignorant of the times. But this society needs these people who don't understand current affairs, so that the bottom line of society can be adhered to and further improved. Jie Jun achieved his fame and fortune, while sages achieved social development and progress.
A small city is like a melting pot. It has great power to train all people to be wise. The narrow circle of acquaintances and the strong pressure of public opinion unconsciously transform you into someone who says the same thing, does the same thing and has the same idea, and then compares with them day after day. A big city is like an incubator, accommodating and encouraging the ignorant to become strong. He provides a broader and fairer platform for people who are different in small cities, so that they can stick to principles, show their thoughts, explore and release their nature.
In my opinion, many people "fled back to the north", which is a very important reason. ?