In the topic of life education, we invited Little Tadpole, the sister of Little Light Bulb, to talk with us about her views on the death of Little Light Bulb. Before watching the animation "It's too late to say goodbye", little light bulb mother Wang also has something to share with you ~

This week we are going to talk about a difficult topic: "death". When someone around you has experienced bereavement, you can comfort him. "People will leave one day, you have to learn to let go." But before you let go, there are actually many things that need to be practiced ... First of all, you should bravely coexist with your emotions, whether it is anger, missing or sadness.

Little light bulb mother's words

"When I was a child, there were always some fragments in my memory. Adults will say,' You will know when you grow up.' When I grow up, especially after having children, I always wonder why children are not sensible. Or why can't children know?

Wang Jingyu killed the little light bulb because he wanted to carry on the family line, so that Sichuan women would come to him to carry on the family line. From the expert's report, I can see that he asked his parents about having a girlfriend or carrying on the family line, but their parents didn't give him enough response. I can't help but speculate that if adults talk about love and sex with their children seriously, is it possible to save two families?

Birth, aging, illness and death are inevitable processes in everyone's life, and life is always inevitable and unnecessary. So after having children, my husband and I always discuss repeatedly how to face the children's various problems and curiosity. Finally, we want to tell the truth. Maybe the children will understand, maybe not, maybe just a little, but at least we won't have the wrong imagination.

As for death, the tadpole (nine years old) has experienced the death of his great-grandfather, great-grandmother, aunt, uncle and great-grandmother since he was over one year old. Some walk slowly, some walk suddenly, and the aftermath is different, but as long as he is curious, we will never avoid it.

As long as he has questions, we will answer and discuss them in detail as much as possible. Face death again and again, understand death again and again, participate in the process of dealing with the aftermath again and again, see the emotions and reactions we may have after the death of our loved ones again and again, and discuss what will happen after death again and again.

After the light bulb leaves, the mood will of course fluctuate, but at least the child has no resistance and no fear. I don't think except the adults at home, they are never shy about talking about such things. (For example, help yourself prepare a shroud and tell the younger generation how to handle your own affairs. )

Children's real experiences in the past may help them understand death more or less, so it is relatively easy to accept and face the death of a small light bulb, which may also help children deal with emotions. You can say it when you are sad, have a good talk, and then continue to work hard to live a good life.

Birth, illness and death, especially death, is still a topic that many people can't talk about and touch, especially when facing children. Therefore, when Gong Shi asked me to talk about this project, I was very willing. I have always been concerned about education. I deeply feel that this society is too easy to have a single value, and it is impossible to imagine and understand dissidents. If such programs and stories can bring different faces to children and parents, that would be great! 」

Recommended reading: Discuss death, thank you for teaching me to be braver.

Film source: less public vision

It's really distressing to hear tadpoles trying to stop their tears and finally choking ... As mothers, we try to give our children a safe world, but in the adult world, there are many things that run counter to what picture book stories teach us. Whether parents learn how to talk about sex, sex and death with their children in advance, and teach them to relax properly instead of being suppressed by authority, the importance of life education is definitely not naturally understood by children when they grow up!

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