Second, environmental edification: parents should consciously create a good living environment so that their children can be infected and edified. Family is the main place where children live. Parents should organize their own lives, handle the relationship between members, adhere to the correct moral behavior as the criterion, form a United and harmonious family atmosphere, establish an orderly life order, and cultivate children's beautiful sentiments.
Third, criticism and punishment: both criticism and punishment are negation of children's bad thoughts and behaviors, but the latter is an educational means for serious bad thoughts and behaviors. When criticizing and punishing, we should first fully understand the situation, grasp the specific situation and severity of bad thoughts and behaviors, and proceed from the wrong reality. Criticism means pointing out the harm and ideological roots, denying their thoughts and behaviors, making them feel ashamed and miserable, and then generating the motivation to correct their mistakes. When criticizing, don't be sarcastic, sarcastic or abusive. Punishment is mainly deprivation of certain rights, not corporal punishment, not insulting personality and destroying body and mind.
Fourth, guide the arrangement of life order: a good life order is an effective way to cultivate children's good habits. Guide children to arrange their daily lives, arrange their living environment, and teach them to study and use their time in an orderly way. Let the children make their own arrangements, and parents can give directions.
5. Persuasion education: the specific methods of persuasion education: First, talk, parents put facts and reason according to their children's thoughts, so that children can understand a certain truth. Speak with pertinence and flexibility, and have an amiable attitude. Don't be condescending and cynical. The second is discussion, where parents and children discuss together. When discussing, we should respect children, listen to their opinions patiently, have incorrect opinions, reason patiently, and let children distinguish right from wrong. Parents should have the courage to admit that their views are incorrect.
Practical exercise: The content of practical exercise is quite extensive, such as adapting to the surrounding environment, exercising, self-care, housework, working independently, being polite, socializing and so on. To carry out actual exercise, we should first let the children know the purpose (why), put forward specific requirements (how to do it), and encourage them to overcome difficulties and stick to it. The content of exercises should be suitable for children's age characteristics and personality characteristics, and the tasks and requirements given should be based on children's actual ability and appropriate. Children should be allowed to make mistakes in practice and not be too demanding. Parents can't stop exercising because they are afraid of their children suffering.
Seven, praise and reward: praise and reward is to give affirmation and praise to children's thoughts and behaviors. Through affirmation and praise, strengthen children's enterprising spirit and sense of honor, and strive for greater progress. Praise and reward should be realistic, timely and explain the reasons, and should be based on spiritual rewards, supplemented by material rewards.
Eight, guide extracurricular reading: guide children to read books, newspapers and magazines, and learn useful spiritual nutrition from them. Parents should master the content of children's reading, discuss with children, and guide children to increase their knowledge, broaden their horizons and get spiritual cultivation through reading.
Nine, the use of home TV: TV into the family, children can get a lot of knowledge from watching TV, increase their knowledge, and make full use of it. But be careful: you can't have no choice and don't spend too long. After watching TV, you'd better talk to your children and discuss the TV content.
10. Lead children out to contact with society: lead children to parks, scenic spots, shops, factories and rural areas, or visit classmates, relatives and friends for social interaction, so that children can broaden their horizons, get in touch with society and get to know society.
Most parents pin all their hopes on their children. Whether this hope can be realized requires a lot of efforts. Family is the first "school" for children, and parents are the first "teachers" for children. The success of family education will inevitably become the key to the healthy growth of the "only generation".
Education should start with understanding children, strengthen emotional communication with children and establish good family relations. Understanding is to understand the child's personality, interests, hobbies, what he is thinking, what he usually does and what kind of people he associates with. Understanding means not to ignore the role of children in the family. Children have something to express their opinions in the family, and don't say "what do children know". We should listen to their opinions in major family affairs and build a democratic family, that is, the rights and status of every member of the family are respected. Respecting children's rights and status at home is not blindly doting on children and putting them in the position of "little emperor". Obedience to children is not respect, but doting.
Teaching by example is more important than teaching by example. In the family, children grow up under the influence and education of their parents and know the world around them. Parents' attitudes towards life, career and life have an important influence on their children. Therefore, parents should constantly improve their own quality.