If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn. If a child lives in hostility, he learns to fight. If a child lives in fear, he learns to worry. If a child lives with irony, he learns to be shy. -(American child education expert) Dorothy Lowe Nolte

Creating a good environment is particularly important for children's growth.

Because the influence of environment is very important to the formation of children's character. Therefore, we should constantly encourage children from the perspective of benign development, let his heart be full of care and warmth from an early age, let him look around with goodwill eyes, face the future world, and let his life be full of love and sunshine.

The child's mind is very fragile. If there is too much contact, it may develop in the opposite or more extreme direction, lasting for a long time, and eventually form a habitual reflex and develop bad behavior.

Children's education is the most basic and basic. The form of education we give them should be peaceful and patient, and we can't beat and scold at every turn. If a child lives with criticism, hostility, fear and satire all day, then his personality will not develop soundly, his thoughts will become extreme and narrow, and he will be full of hatred and hatred for society. What about love, hope and desire?

Some children are so stubborn that they are indifferent to their parents' or teachers' education and go their own way that they eventually fail because of their own defects.

Case:

Liu Wei's father is the boss of a certain group and has a bad temper. Liu Wei's mother works in a foreign company. She is very busy and hard every day. Little Liu Wei's daily life depends on the milk and bread stored in the refrigerator every day, which are prepared by his mother in advance. Dad just keeps asking Liu Wei to get better grades. If his grades are not good, he will add sticks or severely reprimand him. Liu Wei grew up in fear under the care of his parents. If you are a little unhappy, you will see your father's angry expression, and there are some unsatisfactory situations in Liu Wei's study. I worry about what will happen if I can't be a good father every day. What will my father do if I don't do well? I always feel like my father's punching bag. When you see something unpleasant, you can't escape a storm. So later, Liu Wei gradually didn't come home from school on time, and wandered outside every day, carrying a tired schoolbag and returning home with a nervous heart. It was already dark, because maybe his father went out for some entertainment, and he could escape again. One day, it happened that Liu Wei didn't come home until after dark. As soon as the door opened, he smelled the smell of home and thought it was over. What ... what should I do? Crustily skin of head walked into the house. "You still know to come back!" If nothing else, Liu Wei received a good training. Liu Wei tried not to tell his father where he had gone and what he had done. Dad didn't say anything and was tired, so he ignored him. That night, Liu Wei cried for a long time. In the middle of the night, he secretly packed some luggage, angrily left this "warm home" and really went wandering. The next day, the Public Security Bureau immediately dispatched all police forces to look for Liu Wei. When they found Liu Wei in the corner of a wall not far from home, he was already unconscious with cold. He was taken to the hospital and finally got out of danger after being rescued. But when people heard his first sentence, they all understood the child's difficulties. "I don't want to go home, I'm afraid ... I'm afraid of my father ..."

The Liu Wei incident may be just one of thousands of cases, but it implies that many families did not give their children a good education, but caused their children to be displaced. He sounded the alarm for us, and parents should let their children grow up healthily in real family happiness.

We suggest that:

Parents should treat their children's words and deeds calmly when they come home from school.

Learn more about children's school life and study.

Don't be unrealistic and demanding, too blind, and children are more likely to have rebellious psychology.

Even if the child is really dissatisfied with his parents, he should understand why he did it and where the root cause lies. Before criticizing children, we should first reflect on whether we have done our duty to educate children in our daily life.