In the story, we see good communication between family members. All questions about self-esteem, personal responsibility and making the right choice are conveyed with simple and relaxed stories.
After many years, it still looks quite educational.
Especially how to deal with children's mistakes, I think this practice of parents is worth learning.
Nowadays, many parents are afraid that their children will make mistakes, and they always want to kill any signs of mistakes at the beginning. Actually, this is really unnecessary. In this world, who can not make mistakes? Even parents make mistakes, let alone children.
Many education experts have said that it is not terrible to let children try and make mistakes and bear the consequences of their actions within a safe range.
In an episode of Growing Pains, dad agreed that Mike and his friends would go to bars, thinking that only when children enjoy more freedom can they learn to take responsibility. This truth is certainly true, but the problem is that children are not always strict with themselves, which is also an objective fact.
Freedom may bring a sense of responsibility or recklessness.
When the father knew that his son had betrayed his trust, he dared to drive a driving without a license car and hit a police patrol car. He flew into a rage and threw his clothes all over the room.
At this time, the mother stood up to comfort her father, and her son was only 15 years old. It is normal to make mistakes. Even adults are making mistakes, how can children be perfect? There are no perfect children.
Father slowly calmed down. He remembered that when he was 15 years old, he was also arrested in the police station for doing absurd things. I also understood and accepted my son's apology, and the father and son shook hands and made peace.
This story shows that everyone has youth and everyone makes mistakes.
The writer romain rolland once said, "To do something wrong in life is to learn."
When you don't make mistakes when you are young, when will you wait?
Making mistakes is not terrible. Every child's growth is a process of constantly making mistakes and correcting them at the same time.
Making mistakes does not mean failure, nor is it that parents are not strict enough and punishment is not strict enough, which leads to children becoming more and more naughty.
In the story, his father's tolerance and sharing not only didn't make Mike feel that he was doing the right thing, but made him reflect and analyze himself more deeply.
He admits that he knows what to do, but in front of a group of girls, he just wants to be a hero. I just didn't expect to be brave and send myself to the police station. He learned a profound lesson from this mistake.
Accepting children as independent individuals and allowing them to make mistakes may be the first step to encourage them to grow up.
There is a story, the father's birthday is coming, and three children want to express their love to their dear father. But their pocket money is limited, and they are all worried about what gifts to prepare.
Finally, the younger son thought of a tricky way. He ran to knock on his neighbor's door and asked them to donate to charity. Then he used the money raised to buy a new camera for his father.
The whole family was shocked by Ben's behavior.
Father knows that such behavior is absolutely not allowed. He returned the camera with Ben, and then took the money to make his son knock on doors, apologize to his neighbors and cheat them.
When my father announced this decision, my mother couldn't bear to say that Ben was still so young, so let her go.
Dad resolutely refused, and must let the children realize how big a mistake they have made. He used people's sympathy to satisfy his own selfish desires, which is absolutely unforgivable.
The father and son didn't go home until late at night. Ben was so tired that he fell asleep on his father's shoulder and muttered, "I'm sorry I lied to you."
I believe after this profound lesson, Ben will never do the same thing again.
It is not terrible for children to make mistakes. The key is to teach them how to face it. Because making mistakes is actually the best opportunity for children to learn and grow. Instead of physical abuse, it is better to teach them how to take mistakes and save the situation.
Who can't make mistakes in life? But not everyone can bear it bravely after making mistakes. A child who dares to take mistakes is undoubtedly responsible.
Only responsible children can achieve a career and a happy life.
In another episode, in order to make quick money, the flexible Mike took his younger brother Ben and put his pocket money into betting on horses. My parents were worried when they found out, but they didn't stop it immediately, but sat and watched.
Dramatically, the children really won the first bet, and 20 dollars became 65 dollars. They were so excited that they put all their money on it again, intending to make a big one.
What will we do if our children do the same behavior? Can you watch your children go astray in gambling?
In the story, the father not only didn't stop it, but also watched the live horse race with his children, cheering and shouting.
Finally, no accident, the two children have nothing, nothing. And the father seized the opportunity to educate.
After great sorrow and great joy, parents don't need to make a long speech, and the two brothers have learned a lesson from practice.
As the author mentioned in the book "The Model of Parents": "Let children stay in mistakes for a while."
It's like mobilizing the body's immunity when you are sick, instead of using antibiotics when you have a fever. The result of abusing antibiotics is that bacteria develop drug resistance, and finally superbugs appear.
The same mistakes made by teenagers and those made in their twenties and thirties have completely different results. The same is "gambling". As a child, pocket money may just disappear, and as an adult, it may be ruined.
Therefore, children are allowed to try and make mistakes and mobilize their inner strength to correct mistakes, rather than parents quickly and accurately eliminating all opportunities for trial and error.
It is very important to allow children to try and make mistakes within an acceptable range, and then guide them to sum up experience from practice and bear the consequences of their own mistakes, which is very important for cultivating responsible children.
In this world, it is impossible not to make mistakes, and there are no perfect children. Instead of trying their best to ensure that their children don't make mistakes, parents should give their children a chance to try and let them make mistakes within an appropriate range. Let them learn to face their mistakes, learn to take responsibility, and constantly improve.
After all, the time parents spend with their children is limited and they can't protect their children for life. In the end, they have to face this complicated and multifaceted world alone.