Parents in China are always used to crying to their children, mainly to let them cherish the fruits of their parents' labor, not to spend money indiscriminately, and to develop a frugal character.

As we all know, parents always cry for poverty, which invisibly labels their children as "I am poor", so that children gradually accept the concept of being born poor, so that they no longer actively pursue what they want, and they can neither see a broad future nor change the status quo.

2. Sacrifice education

In family education, many parents always put themselves in the victim's position, so they constantly instill in their children the concept of "I have done so much for you, how can you live up to me if you don't study hard", hoping to make their children obedient and grateful.

As everyone knows, the "sacrifice" of parents is like a "curse" for children, which knocks their hearts all the time, puts heavy psychological shackles on them and causes huge psychological burden. As a result, they became afraid of failure and lost the courage to explore infinite possibilities.

3. Guilt education

Some parents think that they have not provided their children with better material conditions, so they feel guilty and spoil their children in other ways, such as doing everything by themselves in life, thus losing the bottom line, leading their children to become arrogant and rebellious, and it is easy to cultivate their children into "baiwenhang".

4. Take the school as the only "springboard"

In the eyes of many parents, only reading is the only "springboard" to achieve a leap in life, so they set their children in a narrow space, even if they find that their children are really not the "dishes" for reading.

In fact, reading more books is indeed a good thing, but we should also pay attention to methods. If children are forced to study blindly and study hard, the efficiency will be very low, and their unlimited possibilities may be limited.

Family conditions are average, how to educate children? 1, face up to the child's qualifications

The road to success is usually not reading. If parents find that their children are qualified to read, they should cultivate their children's learning. But if they really can't read, why don't parents find another way?

Every child has different qualifications and talents. Parents should have a pair of eyes that are good at discovering, see the baby's potential, and turn it into an advantage to help them get out of their own road to success.

2. Cultivate children's courage and courage

A child who is timid and timid will often find it difficult to make great progress in the future. Even if a good opportunity is in front of you, it will slip through your fingers because of lack of courage and courage.

Therefore, on the road of educating children, parents should provide their children with more things to make their own decisions, so that children will not always be afraid when they encounter things, nor will they always stay where they are and dare not take a step forward.

3. Let the child's spirit not be barren.

Since it is impossible to provide children with a high-quality environment in material life, their spiritual world cannot be "barren". Parents need to enrich their children's hearts, teach them the truth of being a man, and get all kinds of positive energy, which can also be of great help to their children's future.

For poor families, poverty is not terrible. What is terrible is that they don't know how to be independent early, how to master the skills of making a living, how to be brave and persistent, and how to improve their pattern and ability.