First of all, playing hard to get.
This is an era of individuality, especially represented by today's students, who don't like too many constraints. Teachers like students who obey the rules and try to keep them disciplined. This contradiction also puzzles many teachers, some rely on majesty to curb students, and some rely on personality charm to convince students. Here I will tell an example of my favorite teacher, which can be summed up in four words-"playing hard to get".
There has always been a problem in our class-too many people like to talk in class. But in the class of biology teacher Chen, few people talk. In the first class, teachers and students chat with each other for hundreds of miles. In the second class, we were told some "truths"-you studied hard in high school, and everyone wanted to sleep as soon as the sun shone at noon. Moreover, "spring sleep" is a natural reaction of biological groups. Moreover, now is the time to have a good rest, in order to earn the capital of the revolution. Therefore, students are encouraged to sleep if they want to sleep in class, but those who want to read newspapers and care about state affairs cannot. Let's think about it. This kind of treatment is hard-won, so many students laughed at the beginning and said that the teacher was too good to us! I remember a buddy in our dormitory once said it many times in class. Teacher Chen just got angry in class and criticized it badly. He just let that classmate go out and enjoy his freedom. Finally, the head teacher came to relieve the teacher's anger, but when he returned to the dormitory, the classmate kept talking about what he had done. I'm really sorry that the teacher spoke in his class. We can feel from his words that we were all caught by Mr. Chen. By indulging students to speak freely, Mr. Chen achieved the goal of catching us who love to talk. Of course, even if it is not unrestrained indulgence, it has its bottom line and its firmness in principle. He knows that there are several people sitting in this classroom to grow and cultivate interest! That's a good idea.
There is a saying in Sun Tzu's Art of War that "if you push, you will retreat, if you go, you will be weak, and if you don't push, you will be yourself". What a difficult game!
Second, if you catch a thief, you get the king first.
As the saying goes, "bending a bow is strong, using an arrow is long." The application of this strategy in our life is to grasp the main contradiction of the event, and other minor contradictions will be solved automatically.
People who work may always feel that they have been busy all day, but they never get things done. If we often use the strategy of "winning the king" to deal with things in our life and work, we may get twice the result with half the effort. We always have a lot of trivial things to do in a day, always busy doing this and that. Finally, we found it a little difficult to come back and do what we did. But in the end, some important things are not finished, which often leads to overtime. If the first thing we do when we come to the office every day is to make a list of things to do today, and then prioritize, which are major and which are minor, so that we can know fairly well, plan and arrange, and then try our best to do important things well according to the plan, so that we will not toss and turn. As for work, the most important thing is not to put off important things. First, "Capturing the King" and other things will be handy!
"Make them firm, take away their shame and solve their problems" is the truth.
Third, fish in troubled waters
The original intention of fishing in troubled waters is to touch its fish when it is mixed with water, or to make mixed water to achieve the purpose of fishing. This strategy is often seen in business.
I remember once listening to an elder who said, "At the lowest point in the industry, it is the' best time' to really distance yourself from your competitors. At the peak of the industry, everyone can make money in it, and there are not many winners and losers. However, at the low tide, many people will feel that this industry has no future, and they have no confidence to fight for it, either changing careers or sitting at home blindly waiting for the market. People who truly understand the laws of the market will seize this opportunity to enrich themselves and prepare for the next opportunity. Let's look back at those big international enterprises, which did not strengthen themselves through mergers and acquisitions at the lowest point of the industry. We don't advocate creating "mixing" to achieve our goals, but we can completely save ourselves with "mixing". The stock market is like this: "Thirty years east, thirty years west". If the stock falls for several years in a row, there will be an upward momentum one day. If you are good at finding high-quality company assets at the lowest ebb, you can earn your share. Of course, "touching" fish requires a certain direction and vision, which requires us to strive to improve ourselves, grasp the essence of things, and have unique thinking and opinions, otherwise "fish" will only become a floating cloud and disappear!
As the saying goes, "taking advantage of its chaos will benefit its weakness and ownerless." I just took it. "
Fourth, throw a brick to attract jade
Sun Tzu's Art of War says, "Class is bait." Hit yemeng. "Confuse the enemy with similar things, but in life, we use it to guide something than a good thing with similar functions.
This is a good way to educate children. We may have talked a lot about the truth, but we haven't seen much effect. However, the role of life and learning model is indispensable and instructive. The child's mind is simple, but our educational methods can give him insight and direction from the people or things he can see! Instead of just talking about sages, children may grow up more easily and get a good education more easily.
V. Anti-customer orientation
Slaves are driven away by others, guests are respected, temporary guests are unable to stand on their own feet, and long-term guests are able to stand on their own feet. A guest who can't master for a long time is a cheap guest. If you master it, you can gradually master confidential information and give priority to it! At first glance, it's quite illusory, but relative to our study or work, it's an anti-customer secret everywhere.
There may be too many things that we can't leave the campus. We all learn from others at first, and then grow up independently. Therefore, we should all have the idea and motivation of "opposing customers first" in our posts. The starting point is not high, but we must be based on being a real master, learning from teachers, learning ways to do things, and then being good at thinking, finding problems and solving them. Some colleagues have been promoted quickly, and some colleagues have been mediocre, all because of their reasons. Most of them don't have the initiative and autonomy to be masters. In fact, as long as we study hard and do it seriously, most of us can do well and make a difference. Attitude is everything. With the attitude of being a master, you can be a master and have the opportunity to be a master.