He is not only an ordinary father, but also a teacher for 30 years. My daughter was admitted to Tsinghua and my son was admitted to Peking University. Many people will ask him, "How do you educate your children?" His answer is: "I basically don't care much about their studies, but I always take them to play."
There is a saying: "Interest is not discovered, but created." Both interests and hobbies are gradually produced in the process of contact and deepening. "
Why is this father so successful in educating children? Everything stems from his understanding of how to cultivate children's interest. Yes, you heard me right. This is a simple thing. Then let's see how this father succeeded in such a simple thing.
The father likes to play with children when they are very young, and he also tells them stories. Of course, children especially like to listen to his stories. When many parents tell stories to their children, they just read with story books. But when he tells stories, he is different from many of us. He can make up his own stories, and he can say whatever the children want to hear. He is very imaginative and attracts their attention.
Besides telling stories to children, he will also tell them history books. When talking about the first two chapters, he didn't say that they were all based on this book, but added his own emotional color to make history very interesting. For example, Pangu's creation myth and Nu Wa's creation legend.
Because it is interesting, children especially like to listen. Then when the child was very eager to hear the next story, he threw the book on the table and said, "Look for yourself!" " "Then the child" stupidly "took the book and read it by himself. Later, children began to like history.
When children are still wearing open-backed pants, he often buys a bunch of electronic components. For example, a circuit board circuit, etc. Put a floor at home and let the children help him measure the voltage or something. On one occasion, he specifically told the child: "Son, don't pee when the electricity is on." . In this way, when physics and electricity were taught later, his children could understand all the circuit diagrams almost without spending any time.
When others teach literacy, they usually tell their children directly what the word is, or teach it with vivid words. However, his teaching method is different from many of us. When he teaches children to read, he comes straight up and uses four-corner numbers to open words. Formula for word separation: press two or three points horizontally and insert five squares and six forks. Seven, eight, eight, nine is small, and there is a change under the point. Is to break a word into four numbers, and then take this thing to the dictionary to find the pronunciation and meaning of this word.
Later, he threw a bunch of particularly interesting ancient books to the children. And tell the child, "Look at what happens at any time of the year." The child felt particularly funny and gradually fell in love with ancient Chinese.
Ushinski, a famous educator, said: If you form a good habit, you will never enjoy the interest it brings you; If you form bad habits, you will never be able to pay off your debts.
Father's success stems from his cultivation of children's interests into a habit.
Curiosity and playfulness are children's nature, but they are all human animals, eager to learn and curious about knowledge. The existing human nature and the inner human nature are the deepest and truest, which are hidden in people's hearts and shaped by effective methods. It is the easiest to awaken him and this layer of humanity, and the intelligent character will grow silently.
When children were very young, crops were also planted at home. When he was doing farm work in the field, he took his children to cut wheat together. Children from other people's families are usually dismissed if they make trouble around: "Go, go, stop it." But he will take the children with him to catch the fruit.
After catching the slug, tell the child: "You take it, and I will make a slug cage for you quickly." Then he quickly cut the straw and quickly made a delicate pagoda-shaped cage for the children with straw. Put the slug in, the child carries the slug cage, and all his friends run after him. The child can be proud!
Releasing the child's "nature" does not mean letting the child go with the flow, but not being suppressed when the child should be happy.
Of course, he is not completely indifferent to children's learning. When my son was in junior high school, the whole class went to play games. My son was addicted to playing video games and went out to play games every day. The teacher caught him! The teacher told him about his son. If other people's parents encounter this situation, they will generally scold their children, but he doesn't. He just had a serious chat with his son that day and said to him, "son, learning is like sailing against the current." If you don't advance, you will retreat. " Did you see the result of this exam? You must study hard and try to catch up, but you can't steal laziness. "The son was very moved after hearing this sentence. Then his son caught up with his grades and often took the first place in the grade.
As a result, there was a unit exam, and his son had a particularly annoying classmate (a classmate who was hated by the whole class). That classmate did well in the exam, so he gave his son a pass. Then he came to his son every day and said, "Look, you are the first in grade!" " I have surpassed it this time! "The quarrel for several days in a row bored his son. When his son came home to complain to him, he comforted his son and said, "Do you know? Chickens sometimes fly higher than eagles, because eagles sometimes land. But a chicken can never fly as high as an eagle, so if you can constantly improve yourself and fly higher and higher, you can finally say, "You can't love a toad when you fly." It is such a sentence that has always inspired him. He has been trying to improve himself and strive to fly higher and higher.
Yan Yuan, an educator in Qing Dynasty, once said, "Counting over ten is not as good as winning prizes." . Praise children often, give them positive hints and encouragement, and their performance will get better and better. In psychology, there is a word called "pygmalion effect". In other words, praise, trust and expectation have an energy that can change people's behavior.
When children are encouraged by their fathers, they will feel the support of their fathers and society, thus enhancing their self-worth, becoming confident and self-respecting, gaining a positive motivation and trying their best to meet each other's expectations.
On the grassland, a little fox walked carefully with big watery eyes. Sometimes it turns around and finds that mom and dad haven't kept up, so it complains a little: "Let me hunt by myself at this juncture."
That's it. In the morning, father fox said, "When you grow up, you will hunt by yourself." So it complains here and goes hunting. Fortunately, my father has been playing games with him some time ago. It learned how to catch prey, how to hide itself and how to avoid enemies. Then it used all these methods, and as a result, it was difficult to catch rice several times, and at most it took a few bites of rabbit hair at a time. Later, I was lucky. It caught a lame rabbit and had a happy meal. After a few days, it got better and better, and gradually the fox learned to live independently.
But what it doesn't know is that in fact, father fox has been quietly following him not far away, being careful not to be found. Besides, the biggest danger and fiercest enemy around the fox were driven away by his father. After the child was hungry several times, Father Fox quietly crippled a rabbit and put it next to it, so that it could have a relaxing and delicious meal. After a long time, the little fox gradually became a big fox and began to raise his own children, but what he didn't know was that the old fox never went far.
What have you gained after reading such a short story? If a child wants to learn to grow up, then we must let him be independent. But before he became independent, we could unconsciously teach children life skills by playing games or in life.
Just like this father, although he doesn't pay much attention to teaching children to read, he is accompanied by parents and children to guide them how to read and how to fall in love with reading. When a child deviates from the track of learning, he will be strict and timely. Get the kids back on track.
This is the story of his growth told by Peking University Man Ge. He said that although his father always said that he didn't educate his children to study or even tell them a question, in his heart, it was always his father who had the greatest influence on his academic performance. Although his father was always busy when he was a child, the time spent with him was not much, but the happiest time in my memory was: "You were not old then, I was still young."
Seeing this, do you know why his daughter can be admitted to Tsinghua and his son can be admitted to Peking University? In fact, the reason is very simple, that is, to give children proper education or guidance at the right time. (The pictures in the article are all from the Internet. If there is any infringement, please inform us to delete it. )