Parents should think that "trust, patience, responsibility, self-confidence and devotion" are the five most important qualities of children. Acquired cultivation plays a very important role in the establishment of these qualities.
trust
Basic trust in others is the basis of interpersonal communication and other quality characteristics. If a child has no trust in others, he will encounter many difficulties and suffer a lot in the process of forming self-confidence and establishing communication with others. For children who are growing up now, the effective way to build trust is to pay more attention to them. With the development of children's body and intelligence, they are no longer satisfied with eating and drinking simple things, and begin to produce independent thoughts and behaviors. Parents should pay more attention to their children's emotional changes. Children have different personalities. If parents' behavior patterns conform to their personality characteristics, they will have more trust and attachment to their parents, and vice versa.
patience
Those children who are patient and tolerant have more chances of success than other children. Simple children have not yet established their own behavior patterns. He is a silent observer. The habit of parents doing things today is the standard for him to do things tomorrow. If parents do things irregularly, can you expect children to do things in an orderly way? You can also help children understand problems and cultivate patience by talking to them. Although children can't fully express their ideas, they can already understand what you mean. Don't think it's meaningless to communicate with your child. In fact, he can understand. Children have not yet established the concept of time, so it is really difficult for them to learn patience. For example, you are picking up the messy toys, books and other sundries, while the children want to go out to play. Don't say "wait 10 minutes" at this time. You have to tell him "Don't go out until I put all the toys in the toy box". Children will watch you put toys in boxes one by one, instead of pestering you to go out to play.
conscientiousness
Doing a thing well from beginning to end is the basic embodiment of responsibility. In fact, unconsciously, children have begun to observe and learn the sense of responsibility. To cultivate a child's sense of responsibility, we can start by letting him do something within his power. Many mothers think that children will be more and more busy. If they can do things well in five minutes and can't do them well in half an hour, they won't let their children do things. Actually, you might as well be flexible. If time is particularly tight, you can choose to let your child do the simplest things and do the rest yourself. However, if you don't want an irresponsible child, don't be a mother who does everything. When the child is young, he can pass the small paper to his father, and when he is older, he can pack the toys. These are trivial matters, but they play an important role in cultivating children's sense of responsibility.
be sure of oneself
The best way to build children's self-confidence is to let children do something suitable for their age independently. Pay attention to let him do simple things at first. Children can't do complicated things well, and continuous setbacks will hurt their confidence. At the right age, try to let children make their own decisions.
In the process of children's growth, parents should constantly adjust their mentality and behavior, and don't let themselves become obstacles to children's growth. The child was very dependent on his parents when he was a child. When he grows up, his parents should let go of the constraints step by step and let him be his own master. Therefore, with the growth of children's age, parents should gradually relax their hands and give their children a free sky like flying kites.
Feel the feelings of others
Perception of others' feelings is the basis of establishing good social relations. The key to a successful interpersonal relationship is to understand the feelings of others and then respond appropriately. Children before the age of 3 don't care about other people's feelings, they can only feel the world from their own perspective. Although children don't have the ability to perceive other people's feelings, parents can help them build this feeling. Parents can repeat others' feelings to him, and gradually he will understand others' feelings.
As a parent, maybe you can't give your child wealth, handsomeness and beauty, but you can give him a successful life. If you can start from small things and give him confidence, patience, responsibility, self-confidence and the quality of feeling others' feelings, then you will give him a successful life.
Expanding content: methods to cultivate children's moral quality
First, how to cultivate children's moral quality.
In life, whenever we find some problems with children's moral quality, we often hear parents complaining about their children, but rarely hear parents blaming themselves. This is actually unfair. People's moral quality is not innate, but acquired.
At the beginning of life, we can only inherit the genetic quality of form, structure, nerve activity and some functions from his predecessors, but moral quality, emotion, will and personality cannot be obtained through heredity. At the age of one, children begin to observe the world around them, imitate the expressions and actions of family members, and learn languages. Sometimes they begin to have some simple understanding of good and bad, but they are not completely conscious. When I was about three or four years old, my self-awareness began to sprout, and I was able to express what I saw and heard, dominate and regulate my behavior. From then on, children began to have a sense of morality. Therefore, moral quality education should start from this time. Childhood should also be the enlightenment era of a person's moral development.
Children's moral quality education should first adhere to the principle of gradual progress. The formation of children's moral quality is a process of gradual accumulation of quantity. The change of moral quality from scratch, from low to high, is the result of the development of children's life and game activities, from gold to qualitative change with time. Therefore, children's moral quality education should start from specific things, pay attention to the initial performance of children's moral quality, praise the good in time, and criticize and help the bad in time. At this time, the educational methods should be suitable for children's psychological characteristics, make use of people and things in daily life, conduct vivid example demonstration activities in time, and pay attention to the cultivation and education of children's behavior habits.
Deepening children's respect for their parents is the motivation for children to accept moral requirements. The more children respect their parents, the more willing they are to accept their demands. On the one hand, this sense of respect comes from the exemplary behavior of parents. The more virtuous and knowledgeable parents are, the more respected they will be by their children. This is the most effective educational force. On the other hand, it comes from parents' love for their children. This kind of love is mainly manifested in caring for children's growth in an all-round way, respecting and inspiring children's self-esteem and enterprising spirit. This is an emotional investment, which will make children have the psychological effect of listening to education. On the contrary, children are treated rudely, toys are confiscated, and punishment stations are made. It not only dampens the child's self-esteem, but also alienates the parent-child relationship, causing psychological scars such as jealousy, willfulness and selfishness.
Shaping is a very effective educational method. Shaping is to use the environment around children to influence them subtly. Moral quality education can't just stop at preaching moral knowledge and simply agree or forbid it, but make these unconscious educational factors play an educational role through the sentiments, manners, words and expressions of parents and teachers, as well as room furnishings, activity environment and toys. The reason why Ye Tao has educational power is that it influences children through emotional channels and causes them to have a happy and satisfactory emotional experience. For example, when children are young, they often show self-centered, unfriendly, rolling and other wayward actions, and sometimes they can realize that this is wrong. But if someone sympathizes with him, he can even get what he can't get at ordinary times, which will make willfulness a means to meet his personal requirements. Some parents adopt a coercive, sarcastic or laissez-faire attitude towards their children, which will solidify their wayward characteristics and produce defensive psychology. Practice has proved that setting an example among children is a good way to cultivate. By inspiring children to know themselves, guiding children to compare with children, let children learn to do things like, so as to promote the transformation of children's moral quality education from parents' passive leadership to children's motivation.
Second, children's common problems.
1. What if children love watching TV?
Communicate the advantages and disadvantages of watching TV with your child, and negotiate with your child how many times a week to watch TV and how long each time. After consultation, parents will help them to strictly implement and form good habits. Sometimes special circumstances can be flexible. If parents want their children to watch less TV, they should help their children have more activities to enjoy life and play.
2. What if children don't like going to kindergarten?
It is normal for children not to go to kindergarten and even to cry. In any case, they should insist on sending their children to kindergarten, which is the only way for children to get in touch with collective activities and society. Don't let children feel that they may not go, and don't use rewards and punishments. Let children know that going to kindergarten is normal and unchangeable. Parents can talk to their children about the interesting things that parents grew up in kindergarten when they were young.
In short, if you persist for a period of time, the child will always adapt.