Mr. Feng Zikai is a great and wise father.

Open the book "We Adults" and savor it. Whether it is a simple and natural cartoon or a flowing text, the pages are full of admiration, praise and love for children. "Back four months ago, I was like escorting a prisoner. Suddenly, I dragged a group of children like swallows out of the rented apartment in Shanghai, put them on the train, sent them back to the countryside and placed them in low-rise bungalows. I returned to the concession in Shanghai and lived alone for four months. Looking back now, I don't even believe myself. " "Tidy up the room in the evening, and hand over the remaining baskets, bowls, utensils, wages, rice and other household odds and ends in the past three years to the son of a nearby shop, who will help me with short-term work. There are only four pairs of worn-out children's shoes (I don't know why). I don't give them away and put them neatly under my bed. When I see them later, I often have an inexplicable pleasure. " Luxurious, only true feelings. A young father is so attached to his little children that he has reached the state of "infatuation". How can he not be admired, and how can he not let us young parents think? Anyone who knows Mr. Feng Zikai knows that he loves children, loves himself and loves everything. He believes that children's world is the broadest, and children's hearts are the most flawless, so he takes good care of this unrepeatable and irreparable purity, so that they can have an innocent and happy childhood. Childhood is not the time to prepare for the future life, it is a truly dazzling and unrepeatable period of life. And our children, their childhood, seems to have become "childhood, childhood" in modern Chinese dictionaries? It is true that they have advanced toys and food, but no one seems to realize that they are getting away from their childhood step by step while having these. "In China, I think there are too few children. Most adults are keen on fame and fortune, preoccupied with social, political, economic and industrial problems ... and have no spare time and energy to chew the flavor of life. Where are the children? Most of them are made into robots by competitions, exams, scores, etc. Lost the child's original truth and interest. In the long run, China will be all adults without children, and even babies are sophisticated old people. " Mr. Feng Zikai believes that children are cute because they are innocent and unpretentious. Once children are assimilated by society and adults, they lose their innocence and fall into a sad situation. Nowadays, children's daily life is often surrounded by various cram schools, remedial classes and super-long classes. Mr. Feng Zikai is very opposed to training children into "little adults". He doesn't agree with the way of education, and thinks that "little adults" are "putting wings on caterpillars and teaching them to fly with butterflies". "In the past, I once saw: a boy of six or seven years old was put on a small robe and coat by his parents and put on a small copper basin hat to teach him to walk like his father; The six or seven-year-old girl was taken to the barber shop by her parents to have her hair permed, her face powdered, her mouth painted with lipstick, and she was taught to imitate her mother. I once painted a picture for them called Little Adults. Now imagine the appearance of those two children, still feel terrible, this is simply a freak with abnormal development! " Without innocence, there is no complete life. Even some temporary glories have passed away in a blink of an eye, but they have lost precious time that can't be repeated all their lives. Mr. Feng Zikai said: "Childlike heart is the child's initial heart. There is no need for parents and teachers to teach him, as long as parents and teachers do not destroy it. " "The method of raising children is very simple. As long as you teach him to be a child forever, you will never lose his childlike innocence. " However, parents in reality often act as people who destroy childlike innocence. "What kind of person will children become today? This decisive role is how his childhood was spent, who led his childhood, and what things in the world around him entered his mind and heart. " Ms. Feng Yiyin said that his father was "particularly opposed to parents interfering with their children according to the concept of adults". "He never asked the children to do anything, but let us develop according to our own interests when growing up." Everyone who is determined to devote himself to education should learn to tolerate children's weaknesses. As parents, we may not have to devote ourselves wholeheartedly to the education of the whole society, but there is no doubt that we will devote ourselves wholeheartedly to the education of our children. Tolerance is a cliche, but Mr. Feng Zikai has a unique opinion on it. He believes: "Being in trouble and refusing to study hard is a sign of children's health. It may be possible for adults to work hard all day, but this is by no means the normal state of children. " He even thinks that those children who obey the rules and study hard are disabled children, and they will feel strong sadness when they see them. Childhood is a period of liberating nature and indulging oneself. Children's world is simple, easy to laugh, bored to cry, unrestrained, unrestrained. One day they will grow up, learn to control their emotions and understand human feelings. This is a moment that will come, so don't worry too much. Mr. Feng Zikai called his childhood a "golden age", so when his eldest daughter grew into a slim girl, he was both happy and sad for her growth, because that "old naive woman would never see her again". Suddenly, one day, my father found that problem children had grown up and knew how to share his chocolate with his brothers and sisters. He was "very happy" after the final split. Know how to "share the hardships of life" and understand my father's worries. This change happened quietly even when my father had no time to react. Even so, my daughter is still my father's child when she grows up. Father will still hold her shoulder in the spring breeze, brush away the catkins on her face, ignore the snickering of passers-by, and revel in this affectionate affection. I am very moved to read this. How long has it been since our parents were so close to their rebellious children? When we complain about their thoughtlessness, have we ever thought about our inhumanity from childhood to adolescence?

When adults talk to children, they must walk into their world. There is such a passage in the article: "Adults in the world, when you talk to children, you should go into the children's world and say what they say, that is to say, when you talk to children, you must become a child completely." Children's world is independent of adults. They have a brilliant perspective on the world scenery, and their language has its own system. To be a popular parent, you must integrate into their world, understand their system, put down your image as a parent and sit back in the position of a child. Even in your opinion, their actions or remarks are a little "stupid", but it is this stupidity that makes their world extraordinarily pure, kind and transparent. He thinks that all children are manly and real heroes, and he is willing to devote himself to their world and talk in their language. Throughout the book, Mr. Feng Zikai's core educational philosophy is nothing more than maintaining a childlike innocence. Parents should especially protect their children's precious nature, whether they are parents or children. Perhaps in the eyes of some parents, Mr. Feng Zikai's views are really shocking, and his sincere love for children is almost paranoid. But we must say that Mr. Feng Zikai is not an educator, but a successful practitioner. His three sons, four daughters and seven children have all become talents. Some are good at painting, some are proficient in languages, some are good at music, some are university professors, some are well-known editors, some specialize in research, and some are overseas patent representatives. It can be said that this family has made outstanding achievements in various fields, and Mr. Feng Zikai is a model of education.