1. Communicate more and give positive feedback.

In reality, many parents are not good at parent-child communication, and children do not like their parents' nagging, which has become a common phenomenon. Encourage children to express their inner feelings and listen patiently to their judgments about things around them or events that have happened. After they talked,

Try not to interrupt during the journey, and don't rush to criticize or evaluate. After that, you can make a simple summary of what they said. This not only won him respect, but also helped them find out their own ideas in mutual understanding and communication, and enhanced their respect and trust for their parents.

2. Improve the art of speaking

In reality, many parents often scold their children with orders, or keep repeating simple language, such as whether they have done their homework or not, how about their exam results and so on. Many parents think that only by repeating simple language can they fulfill their parents' responsibilities, but in fact, this monotonous method of stimulation and preaching can easily arouse children's disgust and thus produce rebellious psychology. Always say things like "I hope you will/won't …" and "I hope you will/won't …", with a little more discussion in your tone.

Although exhortation is very important, it should be to the point. Let the children feel at ease to do it. If they do something wrong, learn from it. Management should put forward specific ideas and requirements, do a good job of post-inspection, affirm achievements and correct deficiencies.

3. Be brave to admit your mistakes to your children.

In reality, many parents criticize, accuse and abuse their children with strong self-emotion, and then avoid the contradictions and conflicts between parents and children, and as a result, the children are very hurt. When parents lose their children's trust, children's words gradually lose their authority, and children are no longer willing to listen to their parents' arrangements seriously.

Parents should listen to their children's criticisms and suggestions properly, be honest with each other, dare to admit mistakes and reflect, and communicate with their children on an equal footing, so that parents' "self-reflection" can be the best frank demonstration.

4. Teach children to appreciate and accept themselves.

In reality, many children care too much about others' negative comments on themselves, and their hearts are fragile and their complex fluctuates greatly. No one is perfect and no one is useless. If you shake your emotions because of a compliment from others, you will easily fall into the "emotional whirlpool", sincerely encourage your children and help them gradually learn emotional independence. Let children dare to show their advantages and have the confidence to catch up with their shortcomings. Encourage children to associate with others, eliminate loneliness, and learn to appreciate others before they can appreciate themselves. Believe that you must be a valuable person.

5. Make and abide by family rules

In reality, many parents neglect to make family rules, which is very unfavorable for guiding their children to abide by the family education order and cultivating their good living habits. Without rules, there would be no Fiona Fang. In family education, we must pay attention to the rules and let the children know that the rules are shared by everyone, not you alone. After the rules are formulated, they should be strictly implemented and parents should abide by them, otherwise they will leave the impression of "dishonesty" for their children. When both parents are models of obeying the rules, children are used to obeying the rules.

6. Help children solve negative emotions.

In reality, many children don't know how to solve it when they are depressed, either in their hearts or in extreme ways. It is necessary to cultivate children's good psychological quality, especially to stand the test of competition and setbacks, and not to get into trouble because of a little thing. When a child has bad emotions, help him learn to vent: run in the playground, sing loudly, or talk to someone he trusts. These are all to make children clear that they should choose a suitable environment and the right people to vent.

7. Seriously cultivate special skills

In reality, some parents will arrange several special classes for their children at the same time, such as piano, dance and calligraphy. Don't blindly give children extra-long classes with various interests, which will only make children gradually lose their curiosity, followed by conflicts, and even erase their anger at one of them. Parents can pay attention to observation and focus on cultivating a child's passion. Free choice may be more effective than meaningless intervention to explore the child's potential.

8. Don't give up self-growth.

In reality, many parents always use their own experiences or opinions to discipline their children, sometimes ignoring the progress of the times. Some problems cannot be generalized. New things emerge one after another. If parents fail to keep up with the times, accept new things and update their ideas, there may be a "generation gap" in parent-child communication. ... the ideal state is: children understand, parents understand; Parents understand what children don't understand, at least parents should have an intersection with their children. The kingly way to educate children is for parents to constantly cultivate themselves and let them grow up with their children.