As a middle-aged person, we should try our best to take care of and tolerate whether the family members' words and actions are in line with their own wishes. There are many "ignorant" and "disobedient" places in children's adolescence, and even various conflicts and contradictions will occur with me from time to time. This is a normal phenomenon, not surprising. I need to keep calm in all kinds of negotiations with my children in my life, adjust and lower my posture, and I can't always have the dignified and rigid appearance of a father. This dull impression often makes children feel bored and annoyed; Because his mental and physical development has reached a stage similar to that of an adult, he needs real respect from others (often starting from his family), and he also has the desire to share family rights equally. You can't always hold the idea of asking him for "good grades", which will make children feel the negative orientation of "humble and used" in the family. We should respect him as an independent individual, as a teenager with eight years of schooling experience, as a man who can shoulder the heavy responsibility of family in the future, and also respect his image as a brave man with a heart beyond his father's belief.

In short, after all, I am too obsessed with the image of "self" in the process of interacting with children; Losing his due responsibility as a son's "amiable and respectable father" is his own "impetuousness", which leads to various contradictions that are difficult to reconcile, and his narrow mind makes children have various emotional troubles due to nervousness.

Here, I want to say sorry to the children. Dad has always loved you in his heart, but love is sometimes too selfish, which makes you feel that you have lost your due consideration.

Confucius advocated "filial piety" in family life, telling us that only filial piety can be filial. With my parents and son, I can better appreciate the greatness and foresight of the most holy master of the Chinese nation.