Krishnamurti is a famous Indian scholar. When Bernard Shaw mentioned Krishnamurti, he once said, "He is the most beautiful man I have ever seen." . The words in The Learning of Life are simple and eloquent, but the philosophy contained in it needs to be re-tasted. This article extracts a chapter about children's education: understand with patience, tolerate with love, and let children become the real him. The reason is easy to understand, but it is difficult to do.
The correct education lies in understanding the real child, not imposing on him what we think he should be. Besieging him in the framework of "theory" is to encourage him to obey. This will breed fear and create a constant conflict between "his true face" and "what he should be" in the child's mind; And all inner conflicts will be exposed to society. Theory is a realistic obstacle for us to understand children and children's self-understanding.
A parent who really wants to know his children doesn't look at them through some kind of ideal curtain. If he loves children, he will observe them and study their tendencies, temperament and characteristics. Only when a person doesn't love children will an ideal be imposed on them, because in this way, a person's ambition will be realized through children, because they are required to be one way or another. If a person loves children instead of theories, it is possible to help children understand their true self.
For example, if a child lies, what's the use of putting the theory of "honesty" before him? We must find out why he lied. In order to help a child, we must spend time studying him and observing him-this requires patience, love and care. However, once we don't have love and understanding, then we will force our children into what we call an ideal behavior pattern.
Theory is a convenient way to escape, and the teacher who follows it can't understand his students or deal with their problems wisely. For such teachers, futurism, "how" is more important than the children in front of them. The pursuit of theory excludes love, but without love, any problems related to people can't be solved.
The right teacher will not rely on a certain educational method, he will study every individual student. Our relationship with children and adolescents is not a machine that can be quickly repaired, but a living person, easily influenced, changeable, sensitive, fearful and affectionate. To deal with their problems, we must have deep understanding, patience and the power of love. When we lack these things, we turn to quick and simple remedies, hoping to get magical and inevitable results. If we are unconscious, if our attitudes and actions are mechanized, we will shrink back from those embarrassing problems that cannot be solved by mechanical answers, which is a major problem in our education.
A child is a dual product of the past and the present, so he is restricted. If we pass on our environmental background to him, we will make his limitations and ours exist forever. Only when we understand our limitations and get rid of them can we make fundamental changes. If we are still restricted, it is no good talking about what is the right education.
Author | Krishnamurti, a famous Indian philosopher, has taught mankind all his life to be completely freed from fear and ignorance, and to realize the realm of compassion and supreme happiness through lifelong learning.