Then what is frustration education?
Frustration education refers to letting the educated suffer setbacks in the process of education, so as to stimulate the potential of the educated, so as to enable the educated to master knowledge and enhance their ability to resist setbacks. Frustration education, like other education, needs to be educated according to the age of children. Psychologists divide the process of frustration education into the following four stages.
The first stage: 0 ~ 1 year, young stage. At this stage, children's main needs are physiological needs. Parents treat their children at this stage mainly by taking care of and nurturing their children and establishing a safe attachment relationship with them.
The second stage: 1 ~ 3 years old, infant stage. At this stage, children gradually learn to stand and walk. On the premise of ensuring safety, children can explore by themselves, and don't always hold or help him step on it. Sports development plays a decisive role in the process of personal thinking and governance.
From the perspective of individual psychological development, individual psychological development is gradually internalized from the outside, and action is the basis of individual continuous internalization. At this stage, we should also consciously cultivate children's self-care ability, so that children can gain self-control experience of the situation, thus improving their self-confidence, which is helpful for children's frustration education.
The third stage: 3 ~ 5 years old, kindergarten stage. When children enter kindergarten, they begin to contact another social place outside the family. When children explore independently, parents should give them enough space while ensuring safety. If you give your child too much unnecessary help at this stage, it will make your child feel dependent.
The fourth stage: 5 ~ 6 years old, preschool stage. Children enter the primary school classroom and begin systematic knowledge learning. This is a crucial period to cultivate his thirst for knowledge and his ability to think and solve problems independently. In the face of children's questions, parents should be patient. Even in the face of unanswered questions, they can directly tell their children that they are not clear, and consult the materials to discuss with them.
How can we educate children about setbacks?
1. Learn to wait.
Children will show strong interest in the things in life and are eager to have them. These foods can be food, toys or playgrounds. In the face of children's demands or even rolling, most parents may feel distressed or face-saving, and will immediately meet their children's needs.
This behavior has a reinforcing effect on children, who know that they can get what they want by crying. But there are many things in life that you can get from your parents without crying. After all, there are many things that parents can't give him, such as friends and grades. Therefore, in the infancy of a child, let the child learn to wait and let him know what he can get without crying, but he needs to rely on himself.
So how to do it specifically? Bian Xiao will give parents an example.
In daily life, we will meet when crossing the road. At this time, as parents, we can teach our children to observe the traffic lights and tell them the rules of crossing the road? Stop at the red light and go at the green light' is not only the teaching of social rules, but also a good opportunity to train children to learn to be patient. Or, we grew up playing big games? Woodenhead is also a good way to train children's endurance.
2. Cultivate children's positive and optimistic attitude towards life
A positive attitude towards life is an important condition for facing setbacks and solving problems. People's views on a thing will determine people's behavior. I believe everyone has heard the story of' half a glass of water'. In other words, two travelers who have been walking in the desert for a long time have different mentality when facing half a glass of water. Traveler a said, alas ~ what bad luck, there is only half a glass of water.
Traveler b said, lucky ~ there is still half a glass of water. We can imagine the next journey of these two travelers. Traveler A will walk slowly in the desert with a negative attitude. Maybe at some point, he will give up his miserable life. Traveler B can look at imperfect things positively and will go on hopefully until he walks out of the desert.
Then how to cultivate it? For example, teaching children to see both sides of things. That is "a blessing in disguise is a blessing in disguise". We should also create a good family atmosphere.
3. Create a suitable difficult situation
Games are the main activities of children of this age. We can create suitable difficult situations for children in the game and let them experience setbacks. For example, in the process of playing games with children, there is no need to keep letting children. Let him experience the experience of "failure" and let him face up to the setbacks in the process of life, so as to understand that the setbacks in life are inevitable, which is a common thing. In this way, in the process of growing up, when encountering setbacks, we will treat them with a normal heart.
4. Encourage and cultivate correct attribution
5. Encourage children to do what they can.
When children learn to take care of themselves, parents should give them enough space. For example, when children can dress themselves, parents can let go of their hands and let their children dress themselves. At this time, parents should also learn to wait, and it doesn't matter if they are slow. In these processes, let the children never attend the meeting, so as to gain confidence that they can complete one thing. While gaining self-confidence, it can also enhance children's courage and determination to face challenging tasks, thus achieving the purpose of frustration education.