In the documentary "Chinese Tiger Mother in Britain", children like Matthew are not alone, and the efforts of China children far exceed those of British children.
A British Chinese mother named "Vivian" pursues tiger education. She is extremely strict with 10-year-old son Nansen and 6-year-old daughter Natalie.
There are clear restrictions on the time for them to eat, drink and take a bath, and there are clear regulations on what kind of training to do at what time. A very strong concept of time was planted in the hearts of the brother and sister long ago! Nansen said: Sometimes he doesn't wake up voluntarily after falling asleep, but he can fall asleep with his eyes closed, just because he is too tired.
The same is true of a British Chinese mother named Kate. When my daughter Juliet was 5 years old, she planned the direction of study and work. Juliet is very clever, in order to make Juliet an all-round girl.
Kate has been teaching her to read and play the piano since kindergarten. Every day, her schedule is full. Although Juliet will rebel, she will return to school after rebellion, because she has developed a good habit of consciously studying in the busy day after day.
These tiger mothers don't simply teach their children to read and read. Their tiger education is "all-round development". They should not only let their children learn cultural lessons well, but also let them become talents. They must study hard and practice hard if they want to overtake in foreign corners. Facts have proved that the education of these tiger mothers is successful.
Matthew is not only excellent in school, but also excellent in physical fitness. He ranks first in skipping rope and long-distance running. The serious tiger mother always rewards his favorite toys when he makes progress, which makes Matthew always have a steady stream of learning motivation.
Matthew successfully entered the university. Without background and background, I developed smoothly among my peers, probably thanks to my mother's strict education.
Although Nansen resisted his mother's "oppression" extremely when he was young, he also grew up rapidly in this oppression and received admission notices from two famous universities with excellent results, one of which was the famous Eton College. Nansen is not as tall as everyone thinks. On the contrary, he is lively and cheerful. He plays the piano well and gets excellent grades at the same time!
Juliet lived far ahead of her peers in her early childhood. While other children are watching TV and playing with toys, she is learning formulas and math. When other children started reading and writing, she was already able to work out complicated mathematical formulas. Juliet was finally admitted to a famous university to study for a master's degree. She became an equipment management consultant and finally married a gardener in England. Her marriage is happy, her job is stable, and she is a small winner in life.
Third, parents should cultivate their children rationally, and it is best to teach them in accordance with their aptitude.
China has a large population, and the college entrance examination has become a platform for many students to leap into Longmen. In order to let their children have a good future and win at the starting line, many parents have started the education mode of "fierce competition, no progress, no progress" since childhood.
This educational model makes many students miserable, parents' anxiety gives their children, and children's pressure is not released, which leads to some students with weak psychological endurance falling into depression.
In order to cultivate children's growth, old mothers are heartbroken. They are rational in everything, but irrational in parenting. On the one hand, they hope their children can grow up carefree, on the other hand, they worry that their children will be discouraged when playing with things. In all kinds of contradictions, they buy a lot of educational books and learn the history of "Harvard girls and Massachusetts boys", hoping that their children can stand at the peak to meet the future one day!
Compared with the mother's anxiety, cat fathers seem to be much more calm, and they are more inclined to give their children a free space. However, in the fierce roar of the tiger mother, many cat fathers choose to read newspapers and watch TV to give their children spiritual guidance as much as possible.
There is no right or wrong in this model. Not every tiger mother's education is suitable for her children, not every child can be as self-disciplined as Matthew, and not every tiger mother can be as proper as Chua Meier. What suits her is the best. Simply copying will only make education self-defeating.
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Education has been a topic pursued tirelessly by Chinese and foreign people for thousands of years. Children are the armor and weakness of the family. They influence or even influence the development direction of a family. Raising without teaching is doting. But children are the crystallization of love and the bond between husband and wife. It is harsh to teach children not to raise children. Finding a balance between doting and being strict, and discovering the advantages and highlights of children may have a multiplier effect.
Tiger mother or cat father, all for the children to have a good home in the unknown world changes. In the rapidly changing modern society, knowledge will not disappear with the passage of time. How to acquire knowledge depends on one's ability.
Rousseau once said: We should respect children and don't rush to make good or bad comments on them. Both quality education and exam-oriented education have certain disadvantages and advantages. Rational treatment of this gap is the practice of qualified parents, and rational reference to the excellent experience of "tiger mother" is the correct way for mothers to raise their children!