Ni Meiqi 1955 entered the Education Park. Before, she always thought she was a competent educator, but that summer, she was scolded by the students for the first time. That student was punished by Ni Meiqi, then director of education, for being naughty. After graduation, he was recorded in the file and has been discriminated against and not reused in the unit. So as soon as he saw Ni Meiqi, he couldn't help venting his resentment. Ni Meiqi was deeply shocked. She feels that the correct education method she thought before seems to be no good, and she has to find a better educational breakthrough. At that time, she read the Italian novel The Education of Love translated by Mr. Xia Gaizun. This book about what love is, why and how to love has influenced Ni Meiqi for the rest of her life.

1980, Ni Meiqi gave all teachers and students a lesson with the theme of "love" for the first time. It was a school conference class, and it was an original cable broadcast. Ni Meiqi, who was carefully prepared, told many love stories that happened around her. Finally, she asked, why don't we love each other? Is there any reason not to love your campus or your home? Is there any reason not to love life and love life? In the past, school meetings were equivalent to students' "free activities" time, with all kinds of people throwing notes, whispering, pushing around and reading picture books. But this time it was unexpectedly quiet and was shocked by Ni Meiqi's heartfelt question. After class, many class teachers gave her thumbs up and said, well said, well said!

A few days later, it happened that the school held a blackboard competition. Almost all the blackboards are painted with the word "heart", all of them are written with the word "love", and all of them are telling stories about love. Ni Meiqi shed tears and tried for the first time to let her know how much students need love education.

A few years later, Ni Meiqi was transferred to Hongkou Experimental Middle School as the vice principal. Her position has been promoted, but it is difficult to carry out "love education" because it does not conform to the syllabus. When she is in class, it will affect other subjects. She didn't have a chance to attend class, but Ni Meiqi didn't give up. She offered to some class teachers: "Let me help you with your class."

She walked into the classroom and wrote seven big characters on the blackboard, "Learn to love in life".

She told the students that the essence of love is active dedication and dedication. One can't just enjoy being loved with a clear conscience, but should learn to love actively. She told the story of the Happy Prince and the story of Liu Qi, an iron warrior. She took everyone to the welfare home to visit the elderly, enjoy Beethoven's music, listen to patriotic old people telling stories about their childhood, and sing Su Wu Shepherd, Man Jiang Hong and Descendants of the Dragon. She often says to her students affectionately, I love you.

This is incredible in the eyes of many teachers. They are worried that teachers often say love to their students. Will they still have the dignity to be teachers? Is the student union "thin"? But before long, they were persuaded.

In the past, it was common for senior students to bully junior students. Now, the campus atmosphere is harmonious. If you accidentally hurt your classmates playing football, you will come to the door to express your condolences and apologize.

I used to be a "three-good student", canvassing, snitching in private, and even treating guests and giving gifts. There are phenomena in society, and there are also phenomena on campus. Now we know how to be humble before honor, recommend each other, and see the good in others.

To everyone's delight, the grades have improved. In an exam in senior three, students' grades actually rose sharply.

What Ni Meiqi gained was the notes given to her by countless students and the trust of the children.

The children told her poetically that Teacher Ni's teaching was like a key, which opened his locked heart. Teacher Ni's story is like a handkerchief, wiping away her tears of inferiority. They also told their teachers that they learned to love in life, washed vegetables and cooked for their tired mothers, handed a cup of tea to their elderly grandfathers, and sent help and comfort to their sick classmates.

Up to now, Ni Meiqi has compiled hundreds of thousands of words of love-related teaching materials, and 250,000 students have participated in love education reading activities. With the joint efforts of Ni Meiqi and others, thousands of students have learned what love is.

Lesson 2: Teach the society to understand love.

Love is responsibility. Responsibility is not only one of the elements of love, but also a higher level of love.

—— Excerpted from Ni Meiqi's teaching notes

"It's easy to say now, but it was hard to be understood when love was publicized in a big way." Speaking of the long and arduous road, Ni Meiqi has some feelings.

In the early 1980s, love was still a sensitive word.

The pressure comes from all directions.

The authority said, why do we have to call love education? Don't you just say patriotism education?

The education department says that taking up too much teaching time will affect the completion of the syllabus.

Parents said, why do you educate our children all day to love and give, and then you will suffer as soon as you step into society?

Ni Meiqi did not refute. She struggled under pressure and felt responsible.

1986 One day, the education of love was interrupted. In the last class, every student was in tears. Teacher Ni stopped giving them classes, and they didn't know why. Each of them wrote a letter to the teacher and begged the teacher with tears: "Teacher, don't go, we will be obedient in the future." Ni Meiqi also shed tears. She can't tell her children why, but she can only hide her love for her students and her belief in love education in her heart.

Soon after, Ni Meiqi was transferred to the Moral Education Research Office of the District Education College, and the environment was relaxed. Ni Meiqi started a new attempt. She is no longer confined to a class or a school, but has turned her attention to more schools and a wider range. Classes are all in my spare time, free of charge, and I volunteer. As long as any school needs it, she will give it. Some schools had the idea of giving it a try, and the result was unexpectedly good, so Ni Meiqi began to get busy, from Hongkou District to Yangpu District and from Yangpu District to Gao Qiao. A primary school principal listened to her class and said that she would go back and tell her daughter. Ni Meiqi thought, this is a good thing. After all, a person's strength is limited, so she found the headmaster of 17 primary and secondary schools and the director of the Political and Educational Affairs Office, and started a training class.

The pressure still exists. But now the pressure no longer comes from social disapproval, but from the lack of theory. She used to rely on years of teaching experience, and now she has come to this step. She must build a theoretical framework for the education of love.

Ni Meiqi, who is over half a century old, has started a new Long March.

She began to study day and night, reading Marx, Tao Xingzhi, Suhomlinski, Freud, Maslow and Bascaglia. Psychology, sociology, ethics, philosophy, education ... she reads, thinks, compares and draws lessons from. Finally, she read nearly a hundred books, wrote hundreds of thousands of words, formed a theoretical framework of love education, and published works such as Warmth-the Flower of Love Education, Learning to Love in Life, What is Love, and Reflections on Love.

Teacher Ni Meiqi said humorously that she prefers to "pull the banner to make tiger skin". There are many such examples:

When there is no justifiable reason for the education of love, with the support of a psychology professor at Shanghai Normal University, she hung up a sub-topic under the topic of "Children's Emotional Education". In this way, she can do research in the name of the subject and attract more primary and secondary schools and even kindergartens to participate in the practice of love;

1990, she held a large-scale educational briefing on love. From kindergarten to senior three 17 experimental class, she held 13 class meeting with the theme of love education. There are theoretical reports at home, including speeches by representatives of parents, students, class teachers and principals, and a TV series "Special Squadron" and a documentary "Teaching Love with Love" specially filmed by china welfare institute. The briefing was a great success. Hundreds of celebrities, leaders and education experts, such as Lv Xingwei, attended the meeting. They unanimously affirmed that the education of love was successful, which undoubtedly made a living advertisement for the education of love.

When the idea of selecting "Golden Love" teacher first sprouted, Ni Meiqi had retired. In order to get support, she wrote a letter to Chen Zhili, then deputy secretary of the Shanghai Municipal Committee, expressing her wish. Unexpectedly, Chen Zhili really replied, so this "Golden Love" teacher selection initiated by non-governmental organizations for the first time was supported by the government;

The support of the media is also what Ni Meiqi has been working hard for. After the broadcast of "Wei Lan Nighttalk" by Oriental Radio Station, Ni Meiqi provided material for the column every day for half a year. Those stories about love entered thousands of families with the radio waves.

Lesson 3: Teach children how to love.

Love is an ability acquired through acquired learning. With the ability to love, you can love not only one person, but also all people, the world and mankind.

—— Excerpted from Ni Meiqi's teaching notes

Ni Meiqi married late and gave birth late. The couple had a little daughter named Dong Rui at the age of 40.

Because she is an elderly woman, the child is very weak from birth, introverted and doesn't like noise very much, so for a while, Ni Meiqi even worried that her daughter would have intellectual problems. Rui Rui was very young and was often bullied. In the kindergarten, all the children in the class went to the movies, but the teacher left Rui Rui alone. When asked, it turned out that it was the teacher who didn't want to take her because she couldn't walk. For such a weak and sensitive child, Ni Meiqi's only magic weapon is love.

When the child was seven or eight years old, Ni Meiqi had a heart attack and was taken to the hospital. After her illness, the neighbors told her that your daughter is really filial. When you went to the hospital, she cried bitterly. Ni Meiqi thought happily that her love had finally paid off, and her daughter already knew that she was worried about her mother. But later, her daughter's answer disappointed her, because her daughter was crying only because she was afraid of the dark and cockroaches and mice. Oh, my God, I can't believe it. Later, after reading some books by psychologists, she realized that people are not born to love, and there is a learning process from being loved to actively loving. Studies have confirmed that children generally remain at the level of being loved before the age of eight.

Ni Meiqi has confidence in the education of love again.

When children were in junior high school, they were often laughed at by boys because they were short, and they always came back crying. So Ni Meiqi chatted with her every day and told stories about Napoleon and Deng Xiaoping. Their height did not prevent them from becoming great men. Slowly, Rui Rui gained confidence. Later, she went to a technical secondary school. Because of her good writing style, she published a book in her childhood and became the editor of the school newspaper. At the same time, the daughter also learned active love from her mother's subtle behavior. When Ni Meiqi is ill again, she always goes to the drawer anxiously to find first-aid medicine and keeps asking, "Never mind, are you better?" Whenever Ni Meiqi does heavy housework, her daughter will rush to do it, go out together and help her mother carry her bag. Ni Meiqi is pleased to think that the effect of education has already appeared in her daughter.

Later, my daughter took the self-study exam at the University of Finance and Economics. After getting the diploma, she went to England for three years and got a master's degree. After spending so much effort, my daughter finally became a talent, which made Ni Meiqi very pleased.

Rui Rui once worked as a small white-collar worker in a foreign-funded enterprise, but she resigned soon. Ask her why, saying that foreign-funded enterprises are impersonal, leaving things in the office, and checking the bags of every employee. Water dripping from the air conditioner damaged the fax machine. The boss accused them of poor management and deducted their bonuses. Doing the same job like a machine every day, Rui Rui doesn't want to spend his life like this. She said to Ni Meiqi, "Mom, I'd better help you."

Ni Meiqi is really embarrassed about her daughter's choice. She thought, she is old and a teacher, so it's just to make some sacrifices. But my daughter is still young, and she still has to live and support her family. She only has the same allowance as other retired teachers. What can she do in the future? But I also think that only what you like can do best. Since my daughter likes it, let her be.

Rui Rui has now become the real backbone of the Love Education Research Association. She is in charge of the volunteer service team of more than 200 people, serving the poor and sick children and the elderly; Referring to the model of "Student Leaders Summer Camp" in Hong Kong, she designed her own training model and organized 150 students to participate in activities every year. She took foreign volunteers to aids village, a famous city in Henan Province. After coming back, she initiated two donations and sent a lot of materials and social care. She led a team to Qinghai to investigate poverty alleviation and helped compile the newspaper Education of Love. Because she studied accounting, she had to rely on this computer-savvy person to solve her financial problems. After a busy day, in the evening, she has to contact with foreign charities and volunteers. Not long ago, she signed up for a course of a psychological counselor, because she felt that psychological knowledge was crucial to her love career. ...

On Dong Rui, the daughter of Ni Meiqi, what we see is the transmission of love.

Lesson 4: Teach your husband to love because of love.

Understanding is another name for love, because it is really not easy. Need great tolerance and broad mind.

—— Excerpted from Ni Meiqi's teaching notes

Ni Meiqi's husband is not a teacher. He retired early after a major operation due to illness, and has been involved in the whirlpool of love ever since.

When Dong Xingmao came, Ni Meiqi was relieved.

Ni Meiqi's evaluation of her husband is: this is a very hard-working person.

On March 27th, 1993, "Love Education Research Association" was established. The day of the inaugural meeting was very lively, and the relevant leaders of the Regional Bureau came to show their attitude and said a lot of words of support. However, after the meeting, the couple found that the seminar had no venue and no funds, and they were completely poor.

At that time, the canteen of the experimental middle school was contracted out. As soon as the couple discussed it, they contracted the canteen. Not only is the money available, but the dressing room upstairs can also be used as an office. But for two old people who have never been exposed to business, they need to find a chef to manage, attract customers, deliver meals and provide a free lunch for more than 0/00 teachers in experimental middle school. I am really busy. Dong Xingmao always appears where he is most needed. Sometimes, he even rides a "yellow croaker car" to deliver meals everywhere. After a year, alas, I really earned 5 thousand yuan, which made the couple extremely happy. At first, they thought it would be a reward for years of social support to give the money to the district education bureau and let them reward the caring teachers. Liu Haisheng, director of education, said, "You are a non-governmental organization, so it is inappropriate to use your money. Besides, can our education bureau lack this money? " Later, under the care of Chen Zhili, the problem was solved, and the money was used to start the selection of "Golden Love" teachers.

Dong Xingmao writes very well. He worked as a reporter, editor, proofreader and publisher in Education of Love and Golden Magazine. He is in poor health. A stone blocked the common bile duct. He had a high fever of 465,438+0 degrees. He's in a coma. After waking up in the hospital, he remembered that the newspaper was going to be published, and he was lying in his hospital bed and struggling to compile it. On another occasion, he suffered from stomach bleeding, but there was activity in the Second Affiliated High School of China Normal University that day. The Second Affiliated High School of China Normal University is far away in Zhangjiang. Others advised him not to go, but at the beginning of the activity, he got sick and rushed to the scene. And everything he does comes from his understanding and love for his wife.

Ni Meiqi had a serious heart attack when she was young. Later, she installed a pacemaker. Now, she has hypertension. She is always worried that many things will be done too late, so she gives up.

She thinks she can find a successor from those retired principals in the future. Those principals have supported her for so many years, and they are all loyal educators of love. Give them a seminar, don't worry.

She also thought that after making some money from running magazines and newspapers, she would quickly set up a foundation and attach it to the Shanghai Charity Foundation, which could help more people in the future.

She said to herself, people are like dust. I have done a meaningful thing in my life, realized my own value, and my heart is peaceful and happy.

This is the disseminator of love.

Bing Xin once wrote Education of Love for their newspaper. After listening to their report on love education, Ba Jin wrote this passage: "Each of us has more love, more sympathy, more energy and more time. Much more than you need to survive. We must spend them on others, so that our life will blossom and bear fruit. Morality and selflessness are flower of life. "

Now, Bing Xin and Ba Jin, two venerable old men, have gone, but the handwriting of love is still there. Their affirmation and appreciation of love is still there.

May love last forever!

Mei woke up and didn't find it.