1, look on coldly
Have parents noticed a phenomenon? Children are often bullied by a child here, tears are wet, there has been a smile through tears, and the two children have made up again.
Children's world also has its own rules, and it is normal to have a little friction with each other in the process of communication. If it is not serious, parents can stay out of it and let the children handle it themselves. On the one hand, it avoids the amplification of contradictions between children, on the other hand, it can also cultivate children's interpersonal skills-contradictions between people are normal, let bygones be bygones, and how to get along with each other is the same.
2. Not afraid of losing money
Some parents meet children who love to beat people and can't see their children being bullied. They rolled up their sleeves and stood in front of their children to help their parents "educate" their children. Or take the child to his home, have a big fight with the parents of the other party, go online, make a big fight, and resolutely don't suffer a little loss. Parents are afraid that their children will be beaten far more than their children. Life is very long, once it doesn't hurt, it makes children unreasonable, refuses to suffer a little loss, but doesn't lose big because of small.
China's traditional wisdom of "losing is a blessing" is regarded as a philosophy of life, and it is not to teach children to submit to humiliation and compromise. Instead, teach children to face everything with an open mind and take a step back and say "it doesn't matter" to themselves. Of course, you can't go to extremes. Disputes between children are mostly about grabbing toys or trivial things. Parents can't force their children to give up their interests.
Step 3 stay away from danger
When children grow up to a week and a half, they especially like to hit others; Or some children not only like to hit people, but also lay heavy hands on them. When encountering such a child who loves to hit people, parents had better teach their baby to stay away from such "dangerous people".
As the old saying goes, "if you harm others, don't harm others, and if you prevent others, you can't prevent others." There is no conflict between telling children the beauty of the world and telling them the basic common sense of safety precautions. Parents should positively tell their children about the potential dangers that may be encountered in interpersonal communication. For example, if the child is particularly aggressive, parents can tell the child realistically, "When touching this aggressive child, he may be rude and arrogant. We'd better stay away from him and protect ourselves. "
4. Self-defense
Venus said in an interview program that "if people don't attack me, I won't attack;" Someone committed me, and I gave three points. If someone commits another crime, get rid of it! "When the child who loves to hit people repeatedly infringes on the child, the child has tried the first three methods, but it is still ineffective. Parents can persuade their children to defend themselves properly-"If this child hits you again, you will fight back bravely", and at the same time, teaching them some skills of hitting people will get twice the result with half the effort.