Parents are "indispensable" when children skip classes. In the face of children's truancy, the most common mistakes parents make are preaching, preaching, preaching, accusing and accusing. After preaching and accusing, some form of punishment is added: "This truancy is a warning. If you skip class next time, all your electronic devices will be confiscated and you will not be given pocket money for one month. "

The correct way for children to skip class:

Step 1: Change the attitude towards children's truancy.

When you learn about children playing truant, you should first refrain from accusing and preaching. Re-look at children's truancy. Children are not fools, they must know that skipping classes is not good. There must be an important reason behind "knowing that there are tigers in the mountains and leaning towards the mountains"

Step 2: Understand the reasons behind children's truancy.

As mentioned above, there are six reasons for children to skip class, and the reasons for children to skip class are obviously more than these. As parents, we should understand the feelings of children skipping classes and the motives behind skipping classes.

You can use heuristic questions to communicate with children and understand the ins and outs of children's truancy. When using heuristic questions, you should follow the following three principles:

1) Do not default the answer. If you presuppose the answer to the question of how children should explain truancy, then you can't enter the inner world of children and understand the real reason for truancy.

2) If parents and children are upset, it is not suitable to ask questions. Because only when both sides calm down is a good time to solve the problem of truancy.

3) Parents' heuristic questions should come from parents' hearts. Parents express their feelings, sympathy and acceptance, which is conducive to inspiring children to open their hearts and tell the real reason for skipping classes.

Step 3: Negotiate a solution instead of playing truant.

Parents and children discuss how to solve the behavior of skipping classes together, instead of parents unilaterally stopping and punishing their children for not skipping classes. Let children really participate in the discussion of improving their bad behavior, which can stimulate his initiative and reflect his sense of self-worth. Children's ability to solve self-problems often exceeds parents' imagination.