65438+February 10, the teaching paper "heterosexual communication should become a landscape on campus" written by Zhang Lin, a middle school teacher. As a teaching achievement, she was recommended to attend the seminar "Rethinking Educational Habits and Deepening Respect Education" in Dongcheng District, Beijing.

Zhang Lin's thesis is part of the research project of 17 1 middle school "Emotional communication and respect education". Teachers divide high school students' heterosexual communication into entertainment, self-demand, society and love. In view of the relationship between men and women in love, Teacher Zhang Lin treats those students who are prone to puppy love with respect. In the paper, Zhang Lin said frankly: "I asked myself: Do I want to be close to the person I like, and do I want to observe him often?" Therefore, when I arranged the seating chart, I arranged the classmates with good relationships in the left and right or front and back positions. " This is what she has done in the past three years. Under her special arrangement, three pairs of students who are prone to puppy love spent their senior high school life safely.

(For details, please refer to Jinghua Times, February 27th, 65438. )

Opinions vary: heterosexual communication is different from puppy love.

Indeed, "puppy love" is an objective and realistic problem, but what is "puppy love" may be unclear to many teachers. Teenagers enter adolescence, because of the rapid changes in physical and mental development, their emotions tend to fluctuate, their activity ability is enhanced, and their independent personality requirements are improved. At the same time, they have the idea of being willing to associate with the opposite sex. Therefore, both parents and teachers should not worry too much about their children's contact with the opposite sex, and teachers should not artificially label the opposite sex as "puppy love" for "new tricks".

Wang Zhi: Puppy love can easily lead to mental illness.

Puppy love not only affects school work, physical and mental health, but also easily leads to mental illness, which must attract wide attention from the whole society. Therefore, teenagers who fall in love before the age of 17, whether they really have a specific love object or are infatuated with idol stars or other members of the opposite sex, may be unable to cope with or do not know how to deal with this emotional distress, leading to behavioral problems or mental illness such as smoking, alcoholism and depression in the future. According to the data, emotional entanglements can increase the probability of girls suffering from depression 1/3, while boys are more likely to turn to alcoholism, smoking and crime than girls. Some people say that "danger 17 years old" has some truth.

Confrontation of views: the new trick of seating arrangement is a bad idea.

First of all, the influence of this row of seats on classroom order deserves attention. Arrange "close" students to sit next to each other. If the two of them inadvertently "perform", I am afraid that many students will be distracted in class, because middle school students are at the age of the strongest imitation and curiosity, and the shift of attention is an inevitable result. This trend is getting more and more serious. I'm afraid that one day, teachers can't control the temperature of their love, and they can't control the order of the classroom, and the quality of teaching will decline, which will eventually lead to misunderstanding.

Secondly, this row of seats has a "demonstration effect" on other students, which may encourage the atmosphere of puppy love, thus bringing worrying effects on students' physical and mental health. The success rate of students' love is extremely low. Puppy middle school students often plant hope but reap pain and suffer jealousy or failure. This is an "overload" for middle school students who are inexperienced, weak-willed, emotionally unstable and impulsive. This kind of load, coupled with the pressure of falling grades, can easily lead to psychological problems.

Third, the "opportunity cost" of puppy love should be calculated well, and teachers should not rashly "encourage". A large number of facts have proved that there are few cases where puppy love will not affect learning. The so-called "feelings plummet and grades plummet" is a true portrayal of puppy love families.

In addition, puppy love is often a manifestation of students' unsatisfied spiritual world. For the puppy love caused by this situation, if the teacher is still "tolerant" or "respectful", it is actually an irresponsible performance of the teacher.

Therefore, although puppy love is inevitable in the bud of youth and cannot be rigidly suppressed, all attitudes including "tolerance" must be based on the general tone of "restraint". We need to make it clear to them that this is not good and we don't support it. However, this "new trick of arranging seats" is just the opposite.

Guo Zhichun: Let "puppy love" develop normally.

When children grow up, some emotions will naturally breed. With the physiological and psychological needs and social influence (enlightenment), it is inevitable to have a "love affair" with the opposite sex. Every adult has experienced the special feelings between boys and girls, because it is more of a "natural attribute", which is also the reason why makarenko, a Soviet educator, pointed out that "love cannot be forbidden". Respect is undoubtedly the best choice for the needs of this "person" in the process of growth.

Education is an activity to cultivate people, and the center of education is "people" rather than "things". As a student, people's needs are manifold, not only knowledge and morality, but also rules and further studies. More importantly, the influence of "people's" normal emotions will affect students' life. Good emotional education benefits a lifetime, while bad emotional education misleads a lifetime. As a systematic school education, we should do more work in this respect. If you respect the "love" of students, that is another matter. Let three pairs of students who are prone to puppy love sit together. Teacher Zhang provided an opportunity to get to know each other. Didn't he also spend his high school life safely without many "stories"? Teacher Zhang's practice is worth thinking about.

There are love poems in the Chinese textbook of senior one, which shows that the thought of compiling the textbook takes this factor into account, so as to meet the emotional needs of children of this age and guide them to know the opposite sex, love and think about life from an aesthetic point of view. Then, practice to keep up.

The key to the problem is not that shadows do not affect learning, but how to guide and cultivate their correct view of love, which is an extremely passive and side-effect strategy. Teacher Zhang's "amazing" approach lies in seeing this and showing the education of "people" with concrete actions. For the sake of children's life, let "puppy love" (the word itself is unscientific) develop normally and get reasonable guidance from educators! Education that respects "people" is a good education.