Looking for hope on the internet can help you reverse your psychology. It is a stubborn and extreme thinking habit, which makes children not only unable to objectively and accurately understand the true colors of things, but will take the wrong methods and ways to solve the problems they face. If rebellious psychology appears frequently and repeatedly, it will form a narrow psychological formula, which runs counter to common sense whenever and wherever. Rebellious psychology is a negative psychological quality, which is not only harmful to children's study, but also extremely unfavorable to their physical and mental health development. Tracing back to the source, rebellious psychology refers to a psychological state in which children take the opposite attitude to the demands of their parents or teachers in order to maintain their "self-esteem". In the preface of the book Interesting Psychology, Platunov, a psychologist of the former Soviet Union, specially reminded readers "Please don't read the story in the fifth section of Chapter 8 first", but most readers took the opposite attitude and read the contents of Chapter 8 first. This is called psychological inversion. Teenagers often have the phenomenon of "disobedience", "competition" and "opposition" with others, especially parents and teachers. This kind of behavior, which is contrary to common sense and displays as "brilliant" and "brilliant" in a abnormal psychological state, often comes from "rebellious psychology", which is quite similar to creative behavior in form. Therefore, some teenagers with serious rebellious tendencies often relish it, or look for a "scientific" basis for their strange behavior psychologically. However, rebellious psychology is fundamentally different from creative quality, which is often the product of ignorance, arrogance, extremes and simplicity. Extreme "rebellious psychology" will lead to the morbid personality of teenagers, such as being suspicious, paranoid, indifferent and unsociable, which will make their beliefs waver, their ideals vanish, their will decline, their work and study become negative, and their lives become depressed. Further development may also be transformed into criminal psychology and morbid psychology. Psychologists believe that adolescent children have "rebellious psychology" for the following reasons: First, subjectively, when teenagers reach adolescence, their thinking mode gradually changes from childhood thinking in images to various thinking modes based on abstract thinking. A special change that accompanies these changes is the gradual clarity of "self-consciousness" and the increasingly strong "independent consciousness". They are eager to get rid of the guardianship of adults and embody the existence of "self" everywhere. They object to adults treating themselves as children and pretending to be adults everywhere. However, after all, their world outlook is still immature, lacking self-restraint and the ability to distinguish right from wrong. Therefore, they will express their "self" and their "sense of adulthood" by "opposing" their parents. When they feel or worry that the outside world ignores their independent existence and their desire for self-expression is hindered, in order to show their uniqueness, they often criticize everything, produce rebellious psychology, and express their opposition to the outside world by various methods and means. Secondly, objectively speaking, the generation of teenagers' "rebellious psychology" is also caused by improper education. The concrete manifestations are as follows: ① the educational thought is "rigid". Some teachers or parents do not attach importance to the study of educational theory, do not study the physiological and psychological development characteristics of the educated, and have poor psychological knowledge. They don't know the educated, they can't master the laws of education, and they haven't learned to educate people scientifically. ② The form of education is "closed". Some teachers or parents sit and preach, which is neither fresh nor targeted, and teenagers are not interested in it. The stereotyped reports and irrelevant conversations are not attractive to teenagers, and often fail to receive the due educational effect. ③ "injection" of educational methods. Some teachers or parents are used to understanding ideological education as a simple supervision of students. Starting with the word "Guan", we put the children under our own control, instill truth in them unilaterally, and even put pressure on them in a simple and rude way to force them to submit. Some parents and teachers have made many prohibitions, requiring children to completely obey their own arrangements and indoctrination. This is a kind of supervised and injected ideological education. As a result, some students will only act according to the eyes of educators, and they will not walk without the indicator light. On the other hand, some children who advocate self-reliance, self-care and autonomy have a tense relationship with their parents, teachers and classmates, and their emotions are antagonistic or even antagonistic, resulting in rebellious psychology. ④ The educational content is "single". There should be different requirements for different levels of children's code of conduct, moral level and ideological depth. The level requirements of ideological education content are not isolated from each other, but related to some extent. Low-level needs to develop to high-level, and high-level contains low-level content. It should be a hierarchical, phased and organic ideological education for teenagers, which is a process from quantitative change to qualitative change. However, the current educational content is unified. It is not conducive to the development of children's personality and specialty to frame people with a unified model, educate from a starting point and adopt a general education method. The core of Marx and Engels' educational thought is to make people's intelligence develop freely and fully, and this practice of shaping people's ideological education according to a model runs counter to Marx's educational thought. This can't be said to be one of the factors that produce children's rebellious psychology. In fact, many children have this experience. When they are twelve or thirteen years old, they often have contradictory emotions with their parents. Children don't want to say anything to their parents. Their criticism and persuasion are not as obedient as before, and they even have the feelings of "disobedience" and "impatience". Faced with this "rebellious mentality" of children, many parents and teachers are impatient and impatient, and often adopt rude attitudes and repressive methods. The more annoying teachers and parents reprimand, the more disgusted children will feel, which will not only fail to restore the relationship between parents, teachers and children, but also aggravate children's rebellious psychology. Model charm Qin Xiaoli, female, a junior one student, is the class leader. Qin Xiaoli's mother said that Qin Xiaoli used to be clever and obedient, and her academic performance has always been good. But recently she found Xiaoli "more and more disobedient" and "full of ideas". She often seems to deliberately "oppose" her parents, and she is very stubborn, refusing to admit mistakes and failures. Once there was a sad thing for mom and dad: one of Xiaoli's classmates had a birthday and was going to invite several students to KFC to celebrate. Xiaoli's parents don't want her daughter to associate with those classmates, thinking that those classmates are not motivated. Moreover, they have always been thrifty and can't accept children's birthdays like this, so they are determined not to let Xiaoli participate. Xiaoli thinks that her mother is biased against her classmates, calling her parents "old-fashioned" and insisting on going to their classmates' birthday parties. Mom and dad were angry when they saw their daughter refused to listen, and threatened her, "You can go, but you can't enter this house again after you leave." Unexpectedly, my daughter actually said, "I will go. I don't want to see you again. " Although Xiaoli didn't go to the party in the end, she was always angry with her parents. Xiaoli's mother saw it in her eyes and was anxious in her heart. She didn't understand how her obedient daughter became more and more disobedient. Xiaoli's mother consulted an education expert with anxiety, and learned from the expert that the child is now in a rebellious period, so she will have these performances. Experts reminded Xiaoli's mother that parents should not oppress their children to give in at this time, and taught her many effective measures to deal with rebellious children. After returning home, Xiaoli's mother abides by the law. Soon, the relationship between Xiaoli and her parents has been greatly improved. Solution The reason why children have rebellious psychology and are against their parents everywhere is that a large part of the responsibility lies in their parents' improper educational methods and behaviors. Once you understand the source of rebellious psychology, mom and dad should "clean up the roots" and resolve the rebellion in their children's hearts with a spring breeze attitude and way. Sometimes, rebellious behavior is related to age and is a "compulsory course" in children's growth stage. Parents don't have to make a fuss about children's slight rebellious behavior. Don't think that the child is not good at school, but care for him and educate him as before. At a certain stage (such as children reaching a certain age), this rebellious behavior will gradually disappear. However, once the child's rebellious degree is beyond the normal range, we should pay attention to it, and eliminate or alleviate the child's abnormal psychology through analyzing the reasons and clever communication and guidance. To do this job well, we must first find out the reasons why children have rebellious psychology. (1) carefully analyze the relationship between children's rebellious psychology and family, and you will find that the formation of children's rebellious psychology has a great relationship with family: ① improper family education methods. Under normal circumstances, children don't often act very rebellious, but when children say or do something wrong, parents are dissatisfied and loudly accuse or scold, children are psychologically stimulated, and then they fight loudly or express their resistance with silence. In this way, children will gradually form a rebellious mentality. It is not feasible for parents to discipline their children in an authoritarian way. ② Children are dissatisfied with their parents' behavior. Many times, children are dissatisfied with their parents' quirks, words and deeds, but they dare not tell their parents, so they vent their dissatisfaction by not listening to adults. ③ Develop habits from childhood. Educate children from an early age, don't spoil them because they are young, and let them not correct their mistakes. Children grow up, habits have been formed, and it is too late to change. 4 family relations are not harmonious. If mom and dad are nervous and often quarrel, the child hates their behavior, but he has no choice but to escape. (2) Ways for Mom and Dad to help their children eliminate their rebellious mentality. Mom and Dad should start from the following aspects: ① Equal communication. Many times, parents have to analyze the reasons for their children's rebellion from the standpoint of a third party. Many parents always feel that they are right, and children should listen to their parents. However, children have their own ways of thinking and dealing with problems, so parents should put down their airs, listen to their own ideas patiently, reach an agreement with their children emotionally and on specific events, and make some appropriate concessions. 2 Set an example. Some parents are strict with their children, but their behavior is very casual. Children feel that when parents themselves fail to do it, why should they be asked to do it? So I don't listen to discipline. Therefore, parents should set an example. Example is better than words. Once mom and dad do it right, children will be influenced by mom and dad and naturally listen to their parents' teaching. 3 Enter the inner world of children. When children's interests affect their academic performance, most parents will rudely stop it, but it often backfires. If parents quietly observe their children's interests and understand the situation, such as discussing their idols with their children, and then making appropriate reminders, when their interests are clear at a glance, children can accept suggestions. In fact, every child wants to live in harmony with his parents and get their understanding and respect. ④ Art criticism. Some parents blindly criticize their children's mistakes, which will hurt their self-esteem and make them rebellious. If mom and dad give affirmation and praise to their children's advantages first, and then point out their shortcomings and mistakes, their self-esteem will be satisfied and they will be willing to accept it. ⑤ Be persuasive. For some problems, such as puppy love, parents should convince their children with affection, reason and evidence, respect their feelings and personality, and let them think for themselves. At the same time, use concrete examples to change children's naive idealized thinking, and exchange their calmness and reason for children's wise choices.