Many times our definition of EQ is not clear, just like a video we saw before.

Boys send flowers to girls on Valentine's Day, and girls say, "Send flowers every Valentine's Day! Send flowers every Valentine's Day! You don't know how to deliver wine. You won't have a chance if I'm not drunk! "

Some netizens commented: This is so helpless. This man really has no emotional intelligence.

To be fair, he is not without emotional intelligence, just honest. When you get along with people who have no emotional intelligence, what you feel is not helplessness, but anger.

I don't know that adults with low emotional intelligence are really terrible.

I saw a lady complaining about her husband's low emotional intelligence on the Internet.

They went to visit a woman who had just given birth. When chatting, the woman complained to the lady: "The postpartum care of caesarean section is too troublesome. Now I'm a burden to my family. Everything depends on my husband, or you were fine. I can get out of bed two days after delivery. "

When others laugh at themselves or blame themselves, they actually hope that the chat partner will comfort her.

But at this moment, the lady's husband said, "That's right. My wife was relaxed. She gave birth naturally. "

When the lady heard her husband say this, she quickly said, "If you don't know anything, don't talk nonsense. Look how cute the baby is chubby. Our baby was only 6 kg when he was born, which was too thin. "

On the way back, the lady complained that her husband's emotional intelligence was low and he couldn't speak. She also scolded, "Does it hurt to have children?" If living doesn't hurt you, do you still have a conscience? "But the husband said," What's the matter? Isn't that what she said? I am telling the truth. "

The lady's husband is telling the truth, but he didn't consider the pregnant woman and his wife.

What would he think if he had just given birth and all his visiting friends were cynical?

The pain of pregnancy and the risk of childbirth that a woman has to experience when giving birth to a child can be summarized by his sentence "It's easy". What should the wife think?

Everyone has encountered the human nature of saying and doing wrong things. As long as you pay proper attention to it in your life, you can still change it slowly.

But people who don't know their EQ will not only isolate themselves, but also bring trouble to the people around them.

A mother will be angry for a while at most, while a wife will be angry for a lifetime.

People with high emotional intelligence can always make people bathe warmly.

A netizen shared the story between her and her parents.

Once she went out to play and wanted to take a train to another city to transfer planes. The timetable is good, but she ignores the problem that trains are often late.

At that time, the train was 40 minutes late, and because I bought a special ticket, I couldn't return it, so I was likely to miss the plane.

Her mother has been criticizing her at the station for being careless and not knowing how to arrange the time in advance.

"Don't you know that the train will be late?"

"Do you need me to teach you to reserve buffer time in advance?"

The train was late, which made her very upset. Coupled with her mother's criticism, she felt that she was on the verge of breaking out.

At this time, the father on the side said, "didn't you pay more than 300 yuan for the plane ticket?" Don't worry, I'm going out to play anyway. If it is really late, change to the next flight. "

After listening to his father's words, the mood of netizens suddenly relaxed.

In a word, a personal mistake missed the plane, and only 300 yuan was converted into a loss. What seemed like a great loss became a loss only worth 300 yuan. People with high emotional intelligence can always make people bathe warmly.

People with low EQ always put themselves in an awkward position, while people with high EQ always optimize the situation and make everyone feel comfortable.

Tolstoy once said: People who only have flaws in their eyes can't find anything else.

In life, we are always used to criticizing and educating others with a superior attitude of making mistakes.

But in fact, many times, this practice can't recover the loss, and people who make mistakes don't want to listen.

"If you hadn't done that, this wouldn't have happened." This kind of criticism is really unreasonable.

Regarding emotional intelligence, the basic requirement recently is not to blame others easily when they make mistakes.

It is not difficult to let your emotional intelligence "fly".

Many people think that emotional intelligence is innate and cannot be changed, but in fact, it is not difficult to make your emotional intelligence "fly" as long as you pay attention to these five points in your life.

Many people think that those who are "indifferent to emotions" have high emotional intelligence, but it is not entirely true. High EQ is not "pretending".

People with high emotional intelligence don't mind showing their true selves.

We should understand that people with high emotional intelligence do not wronged themselves to help others, but choose appropriate ways and occasions to express themselves.

The most important thing in managing emotions is not to be angry with anyone. After all, Confucius said: How can we repay evil with good? Deal with complaints directly and repay kindness with kindness.

Managing emotions is not to lose control of one's emotions because of external influences, but to take the initiative to take the most appropriate actions, such as breaking out at the slightest point. This is a negative example.

Most of us like to be with people with high emotional intelligence, because we can feel relaxed, warm and happy in them.

It's not that these people are naturally optimistic, nor that they can't meet difficulties, but that they are resistant to pressure, know how to motivate themselves, and can turn their shortcomings into motivation.

If you want to speak in time and do it in time, you must first know how to recognize the emotions of others.

Although there is no empathy in this world, there is mutual understanding.

The purpose of improving EQ is not to expand the circle, but to make the existing interpersonal relationship more harmonious.

In fact, emotional intelligence is not necessarily related to the circle. There are generally two ways to maintain interpersonal relationships, one is through feelings and the other is through interests. People with super-large circles may actually have higher self-worth.

? The man in the first story made the fourth mistake and didn't recognize other people's emotions. Although what he said is not wrong, the time and place are wrong.

Now in the second story made the second mistake, and it was difficult to manage his emotions. It is true that the train is late, but she shouldn't keep nagging, because no one wants such a thing to happen.

But the good news is that there is always another person in both stories who can recognize other people's emotions and manage them. Their high EQ makes things change, which is what we expect to see.

It can be seen that high EQ is very important for interpersonal communication, which can solve most anxiety in our lives, make us feel happy and live comfortably.

In the relationship between husband and wife, two people with high emotional intelligence or two people with low emotional intelligence may not be happy, but a person with high emotional intelligence and a person with low emotional intelligence will not only make life interesting, but also make marriage happy.

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