1. Set an example: Example is more important than words. Parents should first pay attention to their own cultivation and establish their own prestige. A parent who doesn't like learning and only cares about eating, drinking and having fun, a parent who knows nothing, a parent with bad conduct, vulgar behavior, selfishness and disrespect for the elderly, will not cultivate good children.
Example is an important way to influence and educate children with other people's good thoughts and behaviors. For example, classmates, neighbors, teachers, heroes and model figures, positive figures in literary and artistic works, and excellent qualities of revolutionary leaders are all objects for children to learn and imitate. No matter what parents say or do is right or wrong, it has a profound influence on children. Therefore, parents should always show themselves everywhere in their daily lives.
2, environmental edification: children should have a good learning environment, not high-end, but atmosphere, students should avoid unnecessary family gossip, friends gathering and so on. When studying, try to tolerate shortcomings and look at children with a magnifying glass. You should know that there are no perfect children in the world, even perfect children have their own shortcomings. Parents' unconditional trust in their children is an important basis for communication with their children.
Parents should consciously create a good living environment for their children to be infected and edified. Family is the main place where children live. Parents should organize their own lives, handle the relationship between members, adhere to the correct moral behavior as the criterion, form a United and harmonious family atmosphere, establish an orderly life order, and cultivate children's beautiful sentiments.
3. Criticism and punishment are the negation of children's bad thoughts and behaviors, but the latter is the educational means of serious bad thoughts and behaviors. When criticizing and punishing, we should first fully understand the situation, grasp the specific situation and severity of bad thoughts and behaviors, and proceed from the wrong reality. Criticism means pointing out the harm and ideological roots, denying their thoughts and behaviors, making them feel ashamed and miserable, and then generating the motivation to correct their mistakes. When criticizing, don't be sarcastic, sarcastic or abusive. Punishment is mainly deprivation of certain rights, not corporal punishment, not insulting personality and destroying body and mind.
A good life order is an effective way to cultivate children's good habits. Guide children to arrange their daily lives, arrange their living environment, and teach them to study and use their time in an orderly way. Let the children make their own arrangements, and parents can give directions.
5. The specific methods of persuasion education: First, talk. Parents should put facts and reason according to their children's thoughts, so that children can understand certain truth. Speak with pertinence and flexibility, and have an amiable attitude. Don't be condescending and cynical. The second is discussion, where parents and children discuss together. When discussing, we should respect children, listen to their opinions patiently, have incorrect opinions, reason patiently, and let children distinguish right from wrong. Parents should have the courage to admit that their views are incorrect.
6. The content of practical exercise is quite extensive, such as adapting to the surrounding environment, exercising, taking care of yourself, housework, working independently, being polite, social interaction and so on. To carry out actual exercise, we should first let the children know the purpose (why), put forward specific requirements (how to do it), and encourage them to overcome difficulties and stick to it. The content of exercises should be suitable for children's age characteristics and personality characteristics, and the tasks and requirements given should be based on children's actual ability and appropriate. Children should be allowed to make mistakes in practice and not be too demanding. Parents can't stop exercising because they are afraid of their children suffering.
7. Appropriate praise is a stimulant and lubricant for parents to communicate with their children. Parents always understand, appreciate, praise and encourage their children, which will enhance their self-esteem and self-confidence. Remember: praise and encouragement make children progress, and criticism and complaints make children fall behind.
Praise and reward is to affirm and praise children's thoughts and behaviors. Through affirmation and praise, strengthen children's enterprising spirit and sense of honor, and strive for greater progress. Praise and reward should be realistic, timely and explain the reasons, and should be based on spiritual rewards, supplemented by material rewards.
8. Guide children to read books, newspapers and magazines, and learn useful spiritual nutrition from them. Parents should master the content of children's reading, discuss with children, and guide children to increase their knowledge, broaden their horizons and get spiritual cultivation through reading.
9. When TV enters the family, children can gain a lot of knowledge from watching TV, increase their knowledge and make full use of it. But be careful: you can't have no choice and don't spend too long. After watching TV, you'd better talk to your children and discuss the TV content.
10, lead children to parks, scenic spots, shops, factories, rural areas, or visit classmates, relatives and friends, and make social contacts, so that children can broaden their horizons, get in touch with society and get to know society.
The above is a summary of ten methods of parental education.