Some children make mistakes repeatedly in school, deliberately attracting attention, and become the most troublesome students for teachers. How to change the behavior habits of these children and cultivate them to develop better behavior habits? How to make children's moral words and deeds live in harmony with life and society? First, we should know the situation of children in detail, including their behavior habits, emotions, friends, family background and so on. For example, Xiao Bin, a child I once told, is smart, quick-thinking, stubborn, irritable, aggressive, extremely active, inactive in learning, lazy in behavior, often knowingly and often doing things that violate discipline. Children are stubborn, often deliberately violating discipline, playful, lazy, aggressive, talkative, undisciplined, and have poor self-control, which has a great influence on students around them. No matter where he sits, he affects everyone, and the students don't want to be close neighbors with him. Xiao Bin's father is a veteran of his family. He works in villages and towns. He is strict with his children and often exercises military control over them. My mother has a junior high school education, works in the city, and has a little tutoring ability. Grandpa is a retired cadre and is more patient. The different educational methods of mother, grandfather and father lead to internal contradictions and disharmony among adults in the family. Both parents and grandparents complained to the teacher that it was difficult to discipline their children. Second, face the problem and carefully analyze the reasons. According to the problems, carefully analyze and compare, and find out the crux of the problem. A family, society, school education and individual children who have failed in their education all have the responsibility to analyze it fairly and treat it correctly. For example, this child's problem, I think the reason is 1, adults have different educational concepts, which leads to the child being at a loss. Adults often make a hullabaloo about their children's education and even fight for divorce. The child was at a loss in the quarrel between his parents and grandfather, and he felt a little bit like watching a good play and stealing fun. Adults are busy arguing, shirking their responsibilities, and pushing children around, but they have no time to discipline them and let them secretly be presumptuous. 2. Too harsh education makes children feel depressed and psychologically distorted. Fathers ask too much of their children and always punish them severely. If a child writes a wrong word, the child has to write it again 500 times, and the child is often beaten black and blue. However, the children are still giggling at school, not ashamed, but also show their injuries to their classmates and go their own way. In the fourth grade, children hate their parents very much, and the relationship is incompatible. Time at school is his happiest and most relaxing time. 3. Children's concept of honor and disgrace and moral consciousness are distorted. At school, children hide their sense of shame by attracting classmates' attention and making them laugh. Ignore the teacher's reminder and punishment, and live freely. He often threatens to kill his parents and wants to be an orphan. 4. Parents can't supervise their children well, and children have more independent time. Because of work, parents can't pay close attention to their children's daily life, so the cultivation of various habits seems sloppy. When problems arise, they will be disciplined and educated in a simple and rude way. Children spend more time alone, and often ignore the words of adults and indulge themselves. 5. The child is in the independent growth period and has a rebellious tendency. Children's self-awareness is enhanced, they are self-centered, they contradict the discipline of parents and teachers, and they don't realize the concern of adults. They only remember their dissatisfaction and are full of resentment. 6. The way of teacher education is improper. The teacher pitied the child and indulged him too much, which contributed to the formation of his bad habits. The parents of the children are strict with their children, and the teacher sympathizes with the children's situation and feels a little pitiful. He doesn't want to be too harsh on the children. Children push their luck, and when they reach the middle and high school learning stage, their words and deeds are even more presumptuous. Teachers sometimes hate iron for children, which is irritating to children and hurts children's self-esteem, resulting in children's bad impression among classmates. Third, try to find countermeasures, change children 1, learn more about the educational ideas of educational members in children's families, strive for the active cooperation of parents, and try to unify educational ideas, educational strategies and educational behaviors. Teachers actively communicate with parents, understand parents' educational concepts, analyze the causes of children's behavioral language with parents, discuss how to educate children, discuss countermeasures with parents, and try their best to cooperate with each other to strive for consistency in education. 2. Understand the various behaviors of children at home and at school. The teacher has a detailed understanding of the child's current situation. By communicating with parents, teachers and neighbors can learn about their children's performance at home. Teachers can learn about children's behavior, language and thinking in and after class by talking with classmates and teachers in various subjects. Teachers create opportunities to contact children, observe their performance, analyze their words and deeds, and dissect their psychological status quo. 3. Pay attention to gratitude education for children, guide children to discover love, experience love, and strive to return love. In view of the hostile consciousness of children and their parents, they complain to their classmates knowing that they have violated the teacher's education, and focus on thanksgiving education for children. According to the characteristics of humanities education in Chinese, teachers actively carry out gratitude education, seize the opportunity of classroom learning to let children talk about ideas, guide other children to correct his misunderstanding, and let him feel the care of parents, teachers and classmates through different forms. Cooperate with teachers in various disciplines, focusing on timely gratitude education for children. Teachers actively cooperate with all kinds of gratitude education practice activities carried out by the school, carefully organize activities, encourage children to discover and experience love in practice, experience happiness and happiness from it, learn to understand the love of parents, teachers and classmates, try their best to let Xiao Bin participate in the experience, let him feel love in the experience, let him live in the atmosphere of collective gratitude of children, gradually change his concept, learn to be grateful, be grateful with his heart, make efforts to repay and pay kindness. 4. Cultivate children's correct concept of honor and disgrace. Xiao Bin loves to show off, often knowingly committing crimes, damaging class honor and attracting classmates to laugh at him. The teacher guided the children to treat Xiao Bin's words and deeds correctly and encouraged everyone to help Xiao Bin together. As long as everything related to everyone's honor can involve him, give him the opportunity to show as much as possible, discover his little progress, and praise him for his correct outlook on honor and disgrace and behavior in time. 5. Cultivate children's self-discipline ability. The teacher privately agreed that Xiao Bin should give him time and degree of self-discipline, with flexible space and gradual progress; Help restrain Xiao Bin with his classmates; Xiao Bin was trained alone in his spare time. 6, grasp education, appropriate punishment. Teachers and parents give appropriate rewards and punishments to children's behavior. Xiao Bin's performance is very good, and he has made progress. He deserves proper verbal praise and certain material rewards. He reported his good grades to his parents and changed his classmates' views on him. Children should be punished when they break their promises and have weak control, which affects others' study and causes serious adverse consequences. Fourth, pay attention to children's changes and adjust strategies in time. Children's behavior is unstable, which is a normal phenomenon in the process of human change. Teachers should pay attention to observing and adjusting strategies at any time. For example, the process of children's ideological transformation is a bit slow, their self-control ability is weak, their words and deeds are capricious, and their time difference is short. Parents don't know how to grasp the scale, and family conflicts are still sharp. Children often steal fun at will, be lazy when they can, be presumptuous when teachers don't pay attention, occasionally make trouble, lie and refuse to accept the management of class cadres. Occasionally, there will be fierce contradictions with parents. The child has made progress. Adults should have a correct understanding and be patient. To cultivate a person's good behavior habits, we must first help him to have a grateful heart. With a grateful heart, we can change and control a person's words and deeds and gradually form good behavior habits. It is a difficult process to change children's inherent moral consciousness and behavior habits during the rebellious period. Abnormal behavior stems from different ideas, and abnormal words and deeds will only be triggered when the child's abnormal moral consciousness has been formed. We should put children's ideological and moral changes in the first place, make children's ideological and moral changes correct, and let children guide and control their future words and deeds with consciousness. Cultivating children's sense of gratitude is the internal cause of changing children's words and deeds and being grateful for their behavior. It is a long, slow and painful process for children to change and form a correct moral consciousness and a correct concept of honor and disgrace. Adults should understand the law of gradual progress, allowing children to behave differently temporarily, repeatedly, but too hastily. To change children, adults must first change. Parents and teachers should change their awareness of education, re-recognize children, know the success or failure of adult education, deeply reflect on it, and appropriately change their educational strategies. Only by properly controlling and changing adults' improper thoughts, words and deeds can we lead and guide children to gradually change their behavior habits and change to a healthy and correct direction. In the process of education, educators and guardians should keep consistent in educational ideas and behaviors, and jointly urge children to grow up. Adults must grasp the scale of education, appropriate rewards and punishments, so as to urge children to preserve self-confidence and hope, self-reflection, self-education, so that children can slowly change and make continuous progress.