For example, control bedtime activities, selectively tell him stories, sing children's songs to him, stay in bed with him for a while, or answer him a question! Give you some advice, I hope it will help you: how to educate children about sex? (1) In recent years, due to the improvement of nutrition level and the social and cultural impact brought by the opening up, the physical development, sexual physiology and sexual psychology of teenagers in China are generally advanced, and the ensuing sexual problems are becoming more and more prominent.
Therefore, it is imperative to carry out correct sex education in childhood. Sexual performance in childhood? Sex is one of the two great human instincts. Sexual desire is innate, not from adolescence, but it is beyond the understanding of adult sexual concepts.
Babies before the age of two instinctively suck or bite or chew anything or fingers they can put in their mouths. Although this is related to the instinct of eating and understanding the outside world through oral contact, it is also a manifestation of sexual needs, that is, babies can get sexual satisfaction through sucking.
It can be seen that breast-feeding can satisfy both food and sexual desire. This phenomenon is known by physiologists as the oral desire period of sexual desire. The mother is the first person that the baby trusts and satisfies everything. If it is not breastfeeding or premature weaning, it can't satisfy the baby's appetite, and there may be compensation in the future, that is, biting nails, sucking fingers or biting other items.
A little older children, from the beginning of being able to control defecation, change their satisfaction with desire from completely passive to partially active. At this time, the child's sexual satisfaction changes from mouth desire to anal desire, that is, through defecation and forbearance to get pleasure. In infancy, children's behavior is almost completely controlled by their parents. In infancy, children may partially control their parents' behavior by defecating or not, and obtain the satisfaction of "power" desire.
The psychological changes of urination are basically the same as defecation. By the age of four or five, the child's sexual desire gradually shifted to the external genitalia. Both boys and girls can get sexual satisfaction by touching the external genitals. But there are still some differences between boys and girls. For example, boys have a sense of pride and control over their penises being able to erect and urinate upright, from which they get greater sexual satisfaction.
Girls envy the ability of boys, and often feel inferior because they don't have the "little things" of boys, thus forming a docile and obedient character. Some girls even imitate boys to urinate standing up and get temporary satisfaction from it. The above phenomena are basically narcissistic manifestations and self-satisfaction of sexual desire.
But by the age of six or seven, this situation will change, boys will have Oedipus complex, girls will have Oedipus complex, that is, sexual objects will turn from their own bodies to others. "How did I get here?" This question has troubled countless parents, and I don't know how to answer the naive children.
A mother replied, "Father and mother fell in love and got married. Dad planted a tiny seed in his mother's stomach, and this seed grew into you. " Mother was complacent and answered skillfully. But one day when she saw her baby son holding a plant seed into a little girl's navel, she realized how ridiculous her answer was.
Some people scold their children's questions, such as "Don't ask", while others cheat, such as "You picked it up". Anyway, I dare not answer directly. This strengthens children's mystery and curiosity about sex. How to answer is quite difficult.
It is necessary to answer truthfully, but not directly. You have to use your head. I'll see if I can do this: combine the TV programs of Animal World to explain how small animals are born, and then tell children that people, like animals, are born by their mothers, and they will understand the details through learning when they grow up.
"Why am I different from her?" The strong yearning for the opposite sex, in addition to instinct, is not unrelated to the mystery of sex. And sexual mystery will affect children's sexual psychological development, and may also become the root of sexual crimes. At the age of two, children began to notice gender differences. By the age of four, almost all children know whether they are boys or girls, and they can tell the gender of others.
Children's interest in the opposite sex mainly focuses on the genitals of the opposite sex that are different from their own. "Strange, they are all people. Why am I different from her (him)? " Curiosity is also one of human instincts, and people are particularly interested in strange things. When children need answers, they often get reprimands, ambiguous explanations or silence.
Parents always take pains to teach the nose, eyes and other organs, but they take an evasive attitude or use alternative words to sex officials, which further increases the mystery of sex. If you don't point out the maze and let the children imagine for themselves, maybe they will come up with something. Psychologists and educators all over the world are trying to eliminate children's mystery about sex.
There is a kindergarten in the United States where boys and girls aged three or four are allowed to play naked for two hours every day, in order to make children turn a blind eye to the genitals of the opposite sex. Whether this practice is feasible or not can't be concluded until these children are adults. Although we can't copy foreign practices, parents should have a correct understanding of it in order to eliminate children's mystery about sex.
First of all, we should be calm, treat sexual organs like other organs, and tell our children the correct names. Answer the child's questions truthfully, but not in detail. Just give a brief answer. There is no need to make a fuss about children's "sex games" (such as playing the bride and groom when playing house, being a parent, even hugging and kissing, touching sexual organs, etc.). As long as it is not excessive, there is no need to interfere, but children of the opposite sex should be encouraged to play together and make them feel that this is a very common thing.
Because these games of children are not conscious sexual activities, they are just imitations and games. If parents make a fuss, children will panic and feel more mysterious about sex. We can use the gender differences between plants and animals, sexual activities and reproductive phenomena to tell children that almost all creatures in the world have gender. This is a natural phenomenon, and like other natural phenomena, there is nothing to be curious about.
How to educate children about sex? (2) Does the child masturbate? ? Perhaps people will think that masturbation is done by adults, at least after puberty, and never think that children will masturbate. In fact, children sometimes masturbate, which is often accidental.
For example, the penis will erect when the bladder is full, and touching the erect penis when urinating will produce pleasure; Genital inflammation or parasites cause vulvar itching, which produces pleasure when scratching; Tight underwear can also stimulate genitals. The pleasure caused by these reasons makes children form an experience, and they will take the initiative to fondle their genitals in the future to get satisfaction.
The form of child masturbation is to directly touch the genitals with hands, and sometimes rub the vulva on some protrusions; Sometimes the clamping thigh will move back and forth and left and right; Sometimes I put things on my penis or stuff them into my vagina. When masturbating, the eyes are wide open, looking straight ahead, the face is red, the whole body is sweating, and the expression is tense.
After masturbating, you look listless and tired. Adults are harmless as long as they don't masturbate frequently. Occasional venting can relieve tension and anxiety. It's no harm for children to masturbate. Not only will it not affect the sexual psychology and sexual function of adults, but it will also not cause damage and infection of external genitalia, so there is no need to make a fuss.
When you find a child masturbating, don't make a fuss and reprimand him severely, otherwise it will cause more serious consequences. The best way is to pretend not to see, don't ask them what they are doing, but try to divert their attention, such as letting them do what they have always been interested in. At the same time, we should pay attention to get rid of genital infections, dermatitis, parasites and tight underwear, establish a regular life, get up on time, participate in more meaningful activities, cultivate a wide range of interests, conduct correct sex education and eliminate sexual mystery.
It is not difficult to control or reduce children's masturbation through these methods. ? It will change. Little sparrow? The penis of a baby boy is often erect, and unlike adults, he has no sexual consciousness at all. Sometimes it is because the bladder is full of urine, which is involuntary and will contract quickly after urination.
Therefore, the baby's penis erection may be a signal that the child wants to pee. In addition, the penis will erect when it is mechanically stimulated, which is also a conditioned reflex and a completely normal physiological phenomenon, so don't worry too much. On the contrary, the healthier the baby, the more times the penis becomes erect. Adults should not pay too much attention to children's penile erection, nor use language that will make children shy, because it will hinder children's psychological development, especially sexual psychological development.
We should adopt a laissez-faire attitude. If the child asks, tell him it's urine, and it will be fine after urine. ? The cultivation of gender roles? Gender is the physiological difference between men and women, and gender role is the social behavior difference between men and women, that is, social gender.
Gender is completely determined by heredity, but gender roles are mainly formed in the acquired environment. Whether you can enter a normal sexual role has a great influence on your life. The cultivation of gender roles begins at the beginning of life. When they reach sexual maturity, gender roles are basically fixed, so it is difficult to reshape them.
The so-called gender role is the behavior that a man or woman should have in social life, or the behavior of keeping his gender consistent with social expectations. For example, a man should be strong-willed, generous, firm and confident, brave in dedication, pay attention to reality, and don't cry lightly; A woman should be kind, gentle, virtuous, affectionate and polite.
If this is not the case, it will not be accepted by society, and it will be laughed at and despised. For example, men are "sissy" and women are not feminine. As mentioned above, gender roles should be cultivated from an early age, which is not a simple language teaching, but through the subtle influence of daily life.
For example, in the cultivation of character, the boy cried and said to him, "You are a boy and a man. You can't cry." For girls, it can make her cry enough; In terms of interest cultivation, boys' toys are knives and guns, transformers and video games, while girls' toys are dolls and small animals. Telling stories to boys is often full of adventure and imagination, while telling stories to girls is inseparable from life and emotion.
If children's behavior conforms to their gender roles, they will be praised, otherwise they will be stopped. All of the above are positive effects. On the contrary, some parents don't know the importance of cultivating gender roles. Starting from the compensation of personal wishes, give children names that do not conform to gender, wear clothes that do not conform to gender, play toys that do not conform to gender, and play games that do not conform to gender.
Some parents' own gender role characteristics are not typical, which will leave a bad "role model" for their children. This will make it difficult for children to enter gender roles, which may affect their future love and marriage. In severe cases, sexual metamorphosis may also occur. Therefore, parents, as the most direct teachers to cultivate children's gender roles (that is, social gender), should correctly perform their duties.
What if a 5-year-old daughter is interested in heterosexuality?
If a five-year-old child becomes interested in heterosexuality. It should be normal, only that children are precocious now.
Children appear precocious, which is a common phenomenon in today's society. This is inseparable from our daily life. First of all, we should know that children may have realized the gender problem when they are about three years old, but many parents think that children are younger, so it is too early to have sex education at this time, and what parents do in front of their children will also have this effect on their children.
We often say that children are bad for their mothers and women are bad for their fathers. Maybe many people will say that these are all things after children grow up. In fact, these should be paid attention to when the child is about three years old. For example, mothers must avoid boys when changing clothes, and fathers must avoid daughters when taking a shower or changing clothes, especially when going to the toilet. Of course, it is more important to note that when children take a bath, girls must be brought by their mothers, and boys are over three years old. It is best for her father to take care of her in the future, otherwise the child will easily become curious about the human body and think why she looks different from her parents. These questions may be curious when children are young, some children will ask them, but some children may hide in their hearts and express them in different ways, but children are really growing up.
Five-year-old children began to precocious. In life, parents should pay attention to give their children correct guidance and pay attention to life. Most precocious children are given a diet because we give them a lot of nutrition too early. For example, there are many nourishing soups, and there are many so-called nourishing brains. Of course, many adult supplements are used too early, which will make children quickly enter the phenomenon of precocious puberty.
Parents should pay attention to their attitude when communicating with their children. Maybe a five-year-old child can't be reasonable just because you told her a lot of things, but he also needs to know a lot. Parents should not let their children stay together with strong curiosity, which may make him more likely to go astray. It is better to face up to the problem and clarify the difference between boys and girls. In this way, on the road of growth, we can have the right direction and not let the children have embarrassing things.
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What can a five-year-old child understand? Do you think a five-year-old knows what love is?
Children's thinking is different from that of adults, and they don't like what adults think. Some little girls will say when they are young that they will marry their father when they grow up. In fact, children simply don't understand the meaning of marriage. A child, like a father, wants to be with him forever.
Then a 5-year-old child's interest in heterosexuality is simply like it. For example, the child thinks that the boy is good-looking or that the boy is kind to her, just as his brother is kind to her like his father, so she likes him very much. Don't be surprised even if the child says he will marry him. There is no need to take it seriously.
If you really don't feel at ease, then you can search online for some sexual enlightenment books suitable for your baby. For example, where others can't see or touch, children are very simple, so don't feel embarrassed to give simple sex education to too young children. I think it is also very important to educate children about sex initiation.
This situation is actually very common. Many children will have similar behaviors at this age. Parents need not be too nervous, but they must pay attention to correct guidance. In fact, children began to have the consciousness and behavior of loving the opposite sex at the age of 3. When children are in contact with people around them at ordinary times, parents should let their children gradually understand what behaviors between the same sex and the same sex are inappropriate and bad, and let their children have gender awareness.
It is worth noting that if children are found to have some inappropriate sexual behaviors, they should not yell at them loudly, but should be calmly and patiently corrected and naturally guided, rather than cursing and threatening.
Usually, don't take an evasive attitude towards some sexual problems raised by children, but also actively answer children's questions and questions and popularize sexual knowledge to children in time!
Children's interest in the opposite sex is different from our adults' understanding of it. The baby knows new things in this world every day. At the age of five, many babies should be together in kindergarten. She will find that some babies are different from herself and will be curious, just like finding another interesting thing. First of all, don't make a fuss in front of the child, it will scare her, or make her feel that this thing is very strange, so as not to have a psychological shadow. Secondly, it is natural to guide children correctly and tell them that there are two kinds of people in the world, one is a boy and the other is a girl. Just like children often ask adults, where am I from? Some parents said that they came from the hospital or were born in their mother's stomach. This question is not embarrassing, sometimes adults think too much.
Thanks to Wukong for his invitation.
It is normal for 5-year-old children to be interested in heterosexual sex, because their sexual consciousness has awakened. For example, in kindergarten, I like to play with sunny and lively boys; Little brother, the childhood friend of the next-door neighbor, will be a little stiff when taking guests at home; Consciously avoiding dad from going to the toilet, etc., all indicate that the child is developing normally, and parents and friends can actually rest assured.
However, I wonder if your daughter is interested in the opposite sex. Apart from sexual arousal, what specific actions surprised you?
In fact, at the age of five, it is ok to do some useful sex education with children in appropriate environment and places.
There is a saying: "Bad people never think your children are small". There are always "demons" sexually assaulting girls in the news, and girls are getting younger and younger. It is suggested that parents should also do sex education in advance so that girls can learn to protect themselves.
For example, let children know that they are different from boys. There is a picture book that can be recommended to you: "Our Body", which uses interesting and vivid pictures to let children know what their body is like, and there are differences between men and women.
For example, after the age of 5, fathers are advised not to bathe their children, and parents should avoid suspicion in the same room and not be naked in front of their children.
Baby daughter has grown up and knows the difference between men and women. Parents should also learn quickly. Don't make her precocious for your own reasons.
I hope my answer can help you.
Five-year-olds and the opposite sex are just friends and partners. After studying in kindergarten, they have a certain understanding of gender and the physiological differences between the opposite sex.
In children's minds, we should play with our good friends and share delicious and fun things with our partners. The thinking mode of 5-year-old children is still very simple.
In fact, parents don't have to worry.
Children of every age have different performances. When children go to primary school, they will automatically alienate themselves and have different understandings of the opposite sex. Now children of this age are in a hazy period for the opposite sex. This is normal.
Even if you have a good relationship with a classmate of the opposite sex now, children will alienate you by choosing different schools or for other reasons.
The changes of children in every age group are different. Everything in the world is changing, and so are we. Maybe children like hamburgers now, but they don't like them when they grow up. This is normal.
Parents and friends must pay attention to:
1. Children should not watch adult TV with their parents.
2. Tell children some sexual knowledge with picture books. Now children of this age can access these contents. The difference between boys and girls, don't touch special parts of the body, is more profound, and you can tell your child how the child came.