In fact, the problem of family education in China is not an individual phenomenon, but also a topic that has been discussed all over the world. This year, a film about family education was shown in Taiwan Province Province, China. The plot of the work directly faces various problems and social phenomena existing in parents' education of children, which is very worthy of attention.
In this issue, we will also use this work to think with readers about how long the influence of family background on children will last and in what ways. Interested readers can reflect on whether these behaviors are also reflected in their own lives in this issue.
Your child is not your child, your child is not your child,
"Life" longs for children.
They came through you, but not from you,
Although they are with you, they don't belong to you.
You can give them love, but don't give them thoughts.
Because they have their own ideas.
You can cover their bodies, but you can't cover their souls.
Because their souls live in tomorrow's house, which you can't even dream of.
You can try to imitate them, but you can't make them like you.
Because life will not go backwards, nor will it stay yesterday.
You are bows, and your children are arrows of life on strings.
The shooter aims at the target at infinity, which fills you with divine power and makes his arrow shoot fast and far.
Let your "bending" in the hands of a shooter become joy;
Because he likes flying arrows and stationary bows.
? -Ji Bolun's "To Children"
The title of this TV work about family education is translated from this poem. The TV series is adapted from Wu Xiaole's novel of the same name, and even called China's Black Mirror. This is also an educational drama launched by public television after Dangerous Mind in 12. Five stories were adapted into five units, namely, The Last Day of Jasmine, Mom's Remote Control, Must Be Overactive, Peacock and Cat's Child, with 2 episodes each, with a total of 10 episode.
Rule 1
-Who decides the baby's life? -
Although TV works rely on surreal expressions, their profound meanings actually reflect many realistic social problems. In the "Must Move" module, the human embryo in the future society will be controlled by the government, and the children's academic performance will be directly linked to the family status and resources: if the children's academic performance is excellent, the family can sit back and relax and enjoy various social resources first. Once children's grades are poor or decline, they will be swept out of the house and can only live in pigeon cages and engage in low-end manual labor.
In such a society, the role of women is only the mother. Mothers will show their children's achievements through a gold medal on their chests, and their social obligation is only to help their children get high marks. "Education promotes class mobility, long live the mother!" Became their slogan. A more utilitarian and cruel rule is that if the mother issues a certificate to the government and judges that the child is defective, it can be replaced with a new excellent embryo. Children's interests and talents will be denied because they don't meet their mother's judgment, and even they will be cheated by their mother to do defective products because their grades don't improve.
Although it is an exaggerated expression, isn't it a satire on some parents' excessive pursuit of "perfect children" in modern times? Some parents are always eager to cultivate their children into what they think is perfect, so they have a grade judgment on their children's behavior. Children who do not meet their parents' expectations will be ignored or given up. At the same time, under the influence of the surrounding environment, comparison has also become a part of the judgment content. The sense of honor that children bring to their parents seems to be only reflected in things related to grades.
After reading this unit, people can't help but think deeply. Under such excessive pursuit, do parents really know what kind of life they want their children to have?
Rule number two
Hug is more important than control.
In addition to the unit "ADHD", the other four stories of this drama also show the distortion of parent-child relationship by the education system from different aspects. In the chapter "Mom's Remote Control", the child committed suicide endlessly, and only the mother replied, "Do you think I only have one remote control?"
Here, the remote control is just a metaphor of dramatic techniques, implying that parents have more than one tool to control their children: constant escort and meticulous care are both tools to control their children's life development.
In Cat's Child, the mother said to her son, "I'm alone, and I haven't achieved much in my life. I just hope that my children can achieve something. " This is a psychological state that many parents will have, but sometimes children really just want to say, "I don't want you to be wronged for me." What I want is always your warm hug. "
Rule 3
-Take off the mask and talk to your heart-
On Molly's last day, we paid attention to another family relationship. Lin Moli, a girl with excellent academic, family environment and her own conditions, chose to end her life. In the confusion of outsiders, the father who ignored his daughter's tutor, the stubborn mother who valued face, may finally understand her daughter's choice.
"You don't want to face us, you don't want to think about who your parents are? Your father is the head of the department, and I am a master in America. Without you, I would be a professor now. Why do I ask the professor not to do it and be angry with you here? "
"Then don't be angry with me. Do you think I want to be born by you? Have you asked me? "
Have such lines appeared in your family environment?
In the chapter Peacock, the peacock's gorgeous appearance becomes a reflection of people's desires. In the face of the psychological changes gradually produced by her daughter attending an aristocratic school, her mother always chooses to ignore the most important psychological education and pay more attention to those nominally "high-quality pedals" …
"If I can't get into a good university, will you still want me?"
"I won't let this happen to you! What your mother has suffered will never be eaten by you again. "
Children cannot choose their parents, but what if they can?
In last week's topic discussion, the editor intercepted several students' replies. Have they ever suffered some minor but heartfelt injuries without telling their parents?
L classmate
In junior high school, I had no concept of bullying. I was bullied by my classmates at that time. My parents can only say things like "it takes two slaps" or "I'm sure you're wrong, too" They don't understand that sometimes bullying in my student days is just pure one-way bullying. In fact, maybe I didn't want my parents to stand up for me at that time, but I just wanted to go home and have a gentle comfort after being bullied outside.
T classmate
When I was growing up, my parents quarreled more often. Although it is always said that parents in China generally don't like to express their love verbally, they love their children with actions. But what I want to say is that verbal encouragement is equally important to children. A warm and encouraging family environment will directly affect a child's growth. I warned myself several times not to become a person who likes swearing like my parents, until one day I realized that I had unconsciously become such a person …
P classmate
I hope all parents don't hurt their children with vicious words. Even if you tell yourself to ignore your parents' unintentional words when you grow up, those words in memory can still be like a sharp knife, drawing scars in your heart that will never heal.
Q classmate
I am grateful that I have grown into a good self today with the encouragement and care of my parents. I am confident, sunny and not afraid of difficulties. My growing process was not without setbacks, but my parents gave me the courage to start over countless times. I still share my troubles with my parents every day. I don't know if it is a commendable family relationship. In short, it is the best for me!
Although not every successful celebrity has a warm family like a shield, if there are these parents who set an example with kindness and self-confidence, maybe the hardships of each child's growth will be reduced!
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