1. Learn to listen and communicate with children on an equal footing.

There is always a generation gap between parents and children. From junior high school to senior high school, children are prone to rebellious psychology. Children begin to have the ability to think independently and receive a lot of information from various media.

Have their own opinions, but they are often too self-righteous. At this time, parents should encourage their children to express their opinions, and do not blindly suppress or oppose them. Through the correct guidance, let them find their own shortcomings in understanding, so as to consciously correct their behavior.

2. Learn to appreciate children and have confidence in them.

Especially in learning, we should encourage children to complete their learning tasks independently-don't act as crutches for children, and don't let children rely too much on their parents and elders.

Parents should create a more relaxed and free development environment for their children when educating junior high school students at home. Praise and affirm children's advantages and strengths in time, stimulate children's internal motivation, cultivate children's self-confidence, and make children form good habits of conscious learning.

3. Change your parenting role and be a partner for children's growth.

In the parent-child relationship in middle school, what parents need to do most is to change their roles, from the dominant educator to the auxiliary companion. When parents understand this, they can get out of the confusion of family education, stop controlling their children and force them to grow up according to their own designs and expectations.

Give priority to children, believe that children have the ability of self-growth, accompany their growth with a relaxed attitude, and reduce their anxiety and powerlessness.

4. Accept children's shortcomings and allow them to express negative emotions.

Allow children to say no and accept their parents' different views, opinions, feelings and demands, instead of being furious or indifferent when they encounter differences, objections, disobedience and embarrassment. Parents accept children's negative emotions, and children will also believe their feelings, accept their emotions, gradually get rid of negative emotions, actively seek solutions to problems, and be responsible for their emotions.

However, if parents refuse to accept their children's negative emotions and force them to suppress their emotions, then children will gradually stop believing in their feelings and will not accept negative emotions. Once you have negative emotions, you will feel nervous and guilty, even afraid to cry, try to smile and pretend to be strong, but you are in a helpless state inside.