This phenomenon does exist, so why do some children listen to the teacher and the teacher can control it but the parents can't?
I think there are three reasons:
First of all, for children, the identity of teachers and parents is very different. Parents are parents and relatives of children. The first thing that maintains the relationship between children and their parents is blood, affection and affection, followed by management and education. So children and parents are closer and closer. Compared with teachers, parents and children are closer and closer. Therefore, children are more casual, easy-going, spoiled and willful in front of their parents. But teachers are different. Teachers are educators and absolute authorities. Children have a certain sense of distance, strangeness and awe towards their teachers. When a child meets a teacher, he must behave himself and obey absolutely.
I am a teacher, but my children never regard me as a teacher. When I told him that I was a teacher, he didn't care: "Hum! You are my father! " So although I am a teacher, it is sometimes difficult to manage and educate him. Sometimes he dawdles, talks seriously and even talks back to you. But what the teacher said to him, the homework assigned, and the things arranged, he absolutely obeyed and did it completely, and did not dare to slack off.
It's like the old saying: "Children have to go to school and women have to marry." When the child met the teacher, he ran smoothly and obeyed the rules.
Secondly, teachers and parents have different positions and images in children's minds. Because of their different identities, parents and teachers have different positions and images in children's minds.
Generally speaking, teachers are sacred, lofty, inviolable and must be obeyed in the eyes of children, which parents can't compare with at all. Therefore, the teacher can control the children, and the children completely listen to the teacher; Parents may not be able to control their children, and children may not completely listen to their parents.
In addition, in some families, the children are the father of the emperor, and they have food, clothes and hands, while the parents become servants and slaves, serving their children wholeheartedly. How do parents manage their children with such an upside-down positional relationship?
Third, it is caused by improper educational methods. Some children don't listen to their parents at all. Parents' management and education are too hard, and sometimes they even exist in name only. I think it is mainly caused by insufficient demonstration and guidance by parents and improper educational methods.
For example, I never play mobile phones, so when I stopped my son from playing mobile phones, he immediately put it down. The wife criticized her son for playing with his mobile phone, and the son immediately went over and said, "You talk about me with your mobile phone all day." When a wife is angry, she scolds her mouth, and sometimes she even gets angry because of it, and raises her hand and hits. As a result, the more she scolded her son, the less she listened to him.
Insufficient demonstration of parents and improper educational methods will lead to alienation or even opposition with children.
Teacher's suggestion: Parents must set a good example for their children, respect their children, establish a healthy relationship with them, have an equal mentality, communicate democratically and get along well. Having done this, children will certainly listen to their parents, and parents will certainly be able to control their children.
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