There are four kinds of pains in life: the pain of giving birth, the pain of aging, the pain of getting sick and the fear of death. Buddhism tells us that the true meaning of life is not the phenomenon, life is the law, death is inevitable, and birth, aging, illness and death are the laws of nature. Montaigne, a French writer, said: The purpose of life is not length, but how we use it. Many people only live for a few days, but they live for a long time. ?
For us, parents are always in our hearts. Without the gift of parents, we wouldn't enjoy the beautiful life in spring. It is extremely precious to live for life, and it is extremely precious to live as a person with cognition, feeling and consciousness. It is not that wealth is called life, but that suffering is a disease created by desire, which is used to cultivate our normal mind. It can be seen that it is worthwhile to live our true colors and do meaningful things.
It is not easy for a mother to conceive in October. Fortunately, it is a precious gift, and it is not easy for parents to bring us up to adulthood. Because of our innocence and lovely love, parents are also happy, and happiness can be transmitted and infected. Family happiness is the happiest of a family. Writer Bi Shumin said in his speech:? I am on the Ali Snow Mountain in Tibet, facing the vast sky and the standing glaciers, thinking about this problem repeatedly like a primitive man who eats and drinks blood? The result of my thinking is that life is meaningless. ? There was a silence, followed by a storm of applause.
She went on to say: However, each of us should establish a meaning for ourselves! Many sayings, because of familiarity and repetition, have made us turn a blind eye to boredom, but this is not the real problem. The truth is that the meaning imposed on you by others, no matter how correct, will always be external if it does not enter your psychological structure. For example, we have been instilled with the answer to the meaning of life by our parents since childhood. In the long years since then, teachers and all kinds of education have also continuously distributed supplementary versions of the meaning of life to us. But how many people regard this external framework as their internal benchmark and make up their minds to fight for it all their lives? ?
How many times do we have to revise the meaning of life in our life? Children with high IQ may not have a bright future. Our parents have no academic qualifications, and many rural people can't read, but our natural ability to imitate and learn also makes our parents live well. Some parents regard themselves as authority, regardless of their children's growing needs for childhood happiness, and always think that they are right. Children who are not sensible push their children to the opposite side of mistakes, either criticizing or beating, being tough or authoritarian, being empty or nagging. All these make parents very tired, and they blame educating their children as the most difficult thing in the world.
Children need supervision, not control. Parents supervise, protect and help children grow up. They have not lost their nature and freedom, and they also need the parent-child relationship to grow together in intimacy. People are growing all their lives. Parents inherit and inspire their children's growth, and they are also their role models. Words and deeds are mainly about dealing with people. Children's growth is to climb their own steps, not the steps of other children. Teaching children to compare is teaching them to compare.
Don't use commands (do your homework quickly), blame (the more disobedient you get, the more stupid you are), warn (be careful), cheat (tease you), compare (much worse than others), ridicule (how to tell you), hint (only delay), label (my child is stupid) and nag (say 100) that the three-year-old child has established self-esteem and property rights.
Parents spend most of their time sleeping, working, communicating and cooking. Some parents even prefer their own interests, really set an example, and spend too little time caring for and accompanying their children. Let the child become an accessory of the family and forget that the child is also an independent individual. When children establish property rights, self-awareness begins to develop.
People's life is very hard, and they don't spend it in the ordinary. They will not choose to back down because of embarrassment. Maternal love is the greatest love, and the world is of great significance because of love. What we pursue is physical, mental and spiritual health. Compared with happiness, suffering is what we challenge, and life has connotation.