The study on the correct education methods for girls before the age of 6 found that 1-6-year-old girls were not well educated, and the adolescent education of 12- 18-year-old girls became a big problem. Girls who lack fatherly love from childhood are prone to puppy love when they grow up.
On the issue of girls' education, Li Meijin, a professor of criminal psychology at People's Public Security University of China, thinks that if the education of girls aged 1-6 is not good, the adolescent education of girls aged 12- 18 will become a big problem. Girls who lack fatherly love from childhood are prone to puppy love when they grow up.
Because? Love your father? Plot, some girls who have no father's love are easy to enter adolescence? Love? Some old people in the world. Because children's psychological attachment is very serious before the age of 6. During adolescence, fathers should communicate with their daughters more. Girls' value judgment of the opposite sex often begins with knowing their fathers. Parents must set an example and teach their daughters some skills of interacting with the opposite sex. Experts suggest that if the family has children under the age of 12, parents had better not work or transfer from other places.
Parents should intervene as soon as possible after discovering that girls have puppy love, but it is best to write letters instead of asking questions in person. Parents might as well write a letter to congratulate her on growing up, or tell her their first love story. Then tell the child what true love is and the responsibility that love needs to bear. Finally, we should fully trust the child and let her master the sense of proportion.
There was once a girl who fell in love with a boy in her class, and as a result, her academic performance dropped. Later, my mother found out her secret. Instead of scolding her face to face, she signed up for a summer camp. After her daughter came back, her mother asked her if she saw many outstanding male students of the same age at the summer camp. My daughter said yes, and my mother told her that I would have more friends when I went to college. If I gave my youth so early, I missed a forest. Mother's advice was very effective, and her daughter resolutely decided to bury this hazy feeling in her heart.
○ Use TV, newspapers and scenes in life for natural and appropriate education, and you can also influence your friends and children by telling stories that happen to you.
○ Full guidance and care. The physiological changes of adolescent men and women, the structure of reproductive organs and health care are all difficult for parents to talk about. Parents can buy a popular science book suitable for teenagers to read and put it on the table for their children to learn to protect themselves.
○ Be alert to changes in your daughter. The following phenomena of children deserve parents' vigilance: playing truant and not returning late at night; Contact with people who are no three or four outside the school; Class look trance; Excited, suddenly ecstatic and sad; Sneaking, whispering; Excessive pursuit of dressing up; Sudden luxury; Suddenly I don't like to talk, and my eyes are stunned; The results have dropped significantly; Eating and living are not normal, and I often look out.
○ The father should take responsibility. In fact, the daughter's initial view of the opposite sex came from her father. Fathers should teach their daughters how to treat boys and their children. Show? .
○ Be a role model for children. Parents should have a healthy attitude towards life. If adults behave casually in private life, speak freely and say some vulgar and low-level words, it will have a negative impact on children.
○ Written conversation. Written language leaves children with a philosophy of life that they repeatedly appreciate, for them to think and remember, and often becomes a powerful assistant in interviews, especially when they encounter things that are difficult to say in person.
How are girls educated 1 and rich? Girls have good temperament.
As the saying goes, there are never many rich women. China has paid attention to training girls since ancient times. From the perspective of behavioral psychology, what is a girl? Good stuff? I've seen it all, equivalent to? Desensitization therapy? Let children grow up not easily confused by the prosperity and vanity of the floating world. Parents can take their daughters to various occasions and travel from childhood, which can broaden their horizons and increase their knowledge. At the same time, let them feel the warmth and affection of the family and have the capital worthy of being loved.
However, to enrich girls is not to wear gold and silver, nor is it a docile pet, but to give spiritual enrichment and eventually cultivate girls with noble temperament. Otherwise, no matter how rich a girl is, she may be killed. Poor heart? And hardship.
2. Girls should grow up in soft language.
Treat girls with the gentlest heart, just like those delicate flowers, delicate and elegant, and can't tolerate roughness. As parents, we need to understand the psychological needs of those little girls, including their petty actions and vanity. Mom should be her natural friend and comrade-in-arms, and work together to cope with this patriarchal society.
3. Courage is not cowardice.
Girls are inherently fragile and need a call to grow up? Courage? Parents must give them food in time. When the above situation occurs, parents should learn to guide the girl's behavior with a correct attitude, and must not scold or blame with emotion, otherwise the child will become more and more timid. Parents should also understand the psychological needs of their daughters, such as the small means of getting love and the small vanity brought about by age.
4. Family harmony is not lonely
Some educational psychologists conducted a 10-year follow-up study on children from 30 families, with half men and half women. Expert research has found that some children who have experienced parents' divorce and family changes will gradually degenerate because of the disharmony of family environment, most of whom are girls. This is because girls have higher requirements for family happiness than boys. When she can't feel the warmth of her family, she is likely to subconsciously ask for it from the outside world and others, and it is easy to enter an extreme, violent and withdrawn state, falling into puppy love and bad schools. Therefore, raising a daughter should be more patient and caring, create a warm environment for children to grow up, and let our girl grow into a happy princess in a harmonious and happy family atmosphere.
5. Mom is the girl's mentor.
Mother-daughter relationship often looks closer than father-son relationship. In fact, this intimate relationship is very beneficial to her growth-the intimate mother-daughter relationship brings the girl the experience of communication and exchange, which is conducive to developing her intimacy and sensibility and making her feel more emotional support. Who can meet her psychological needs better than her mother? It is the commonality with her mother that gives her an example to learn and let her develop herself from it. If the mother is confident and decisive, the daughter will often have the same quality. It is a mother's blessing to have a daughter, but it is her responsibility to bring her up.
6. Both mom and dad should have love.
As the saying goes, a daughter is a mother's intimate little cotton-padded jacket, which means that a girl is gentle and considerate and can connect with her mother. Compared with the father-son relationship, the mother-daughter relationship is often more intimate, which can bring girls the experience of communication, help girls establish intimate relationships and make her feel more emotional support.
Father has a great influence on the girl's body and mind. A joint study in the United States and New Zealand shows that a good father-daughter relationship will not only have a huge psychological impact on girls, but also affect girls' development through nerves and endocrine. Psychologist Freud believes that the father is the guide, supporter and prover of his daughter's femininity, which plays a great role in the differentiation of children's gender roles.
The correct way for parents to educate their children and truly respect and understand them.
The premise of educating children is to understand children, and the premise of understanding children is to respect children.
Relax.
Many parent-child conflicts are often caused by parents? Work hard? . For example, it is easy for parents to let their children learn the piano, but the children just don't want to learn it? Work hard? First, you spend so much money on a piano and hire a teacher. Do you still want it? The dog bit Lv Dongbin. Second, all the other children are learning. If you don't study, what should I do if I go to school in the future? Extra points? Don't suffer? Thirdly, it is said that learning piano can improve intelligence and cultivate temperament. Anyway, learning piano is better than not learning it well. Having said that, children should of course be anxious with their parents.
Guide the maze: in the case of disagreement with the child, parents may wish to consider the child's opinion first to see if it is reasonable. Discuss with your child, you can compromise each other and meet each other half way. For example, say to children: I agree that you watch TV for a while after school, but if there are no special circumstances, you must finish your homework before 8 pm. ? If both sides agree, we should make a plan and follow it. If we still can't agree, let's put it on hold for a while. During the waiting time, parents can also take some measures? Seduction? Children? For example, if you really want your children to learn the piano, you might as well take them to a concert during this time, or invite a friend who knows music to play the piano at home.
Think less.
An educator said:? Mother had better have only one hand. ? In other words, let go of the other hand for the sake of the child.
Some parents also want their children to practice more, but when they say it, they are not afraid of their children making mistakes. Forget it. I will do it. ? In this way, children are deprived of many rights.
Guide maze: parents can think before their children do anything. If their children fail, what is the biggest harm? Don't worry if it won't do great harm to your child's physical and mental health.
That makes sense.
Children without secrets will not grow up, and secrets are the best nutrition for children to grow up.
As we all know, independence is one of the basic characteristics of modern people, and having personal secrets and handling them properly is the premise of independence. For individuals, secrets are often closely related to responsibilities, and they should bear the responsibilities independently. In this sense, there are no secrets? Crystal man? It will never grow up.
Guide maze: 1. Allow children to have secrets. Don't peek at children's diaries and letters, don't eavesdrop on children's phone calls, and don't force children to tell secrets they don't want to reveal.
2. Teach children about danger. Usually, you can talk to your children more and let them learn to recognize danger. For example, what harm may be caused by meeting netizens in private, and what may happen if you stay in a room alone with boys. Let the children understand what? Secret? Is harmful. Be careful not to target children when talking about these topics. Parents only need to tell the information they have learned and their own thoughts sincerely. Don't tell the children? You can't do anything. As soon as the child hears such words, he will be agitated and likely to refute them.