1, stabilize the child's mood. When children and parents are arguing, their emotions are the most exciting. At this time, reasoning with children or strict discipline will only make children disgusted and make them more excited. Therefore, parents should first calm their children down and divert their attention. You can take your children to the park and go out for fun. This is a very good way to deal with it, which can alleviate the bad emotions of both sides and then discipline them so that the children will not be too rebellious.

2. Teach children to vent their emotions reasonably. In the process of arguing, parents and children may say something hurtful, which will seriously affect the feelings between parents and children. But when the child is rebellious and in a bad mood, parents will not allow the child to lose his temper, which will only make the child in a bad mood. Therefore, parents should let their children vent their emotions reasonably and look at the problem from the child's point of view, so as to prevent children from keeping their emotions in their hearts and causing a series of psychological problems.

3. Calm down before communicating. Quarrel is easy to cause bad feelings, and it is common for rebellious children to talk back to their parents. When you are in a bad mood, any communication will only increase contradictions, but if you don't educate your child, you are afraid that your child will not learn well. Therefore, after the children and their emotions have calmed down, it will be better to communicate and solve the problem, and the children will be easier to understand. In this process, parents can properly guide their children and teach them how to properly argue with others and what attitude they should adopt to solve the problem.

4. Don't interfere with children's privacy. Eavesdropping on a child's phone, peeking at a child's diary, or reading a child's message on the Internet is a good name to know the child's behavior, but it is very undesirable. In fact, this is the primary killer who destroys children's trust in their parents. Wise parents can negotiate with their children, sign an agreement similar to the "family convention", write down their secrets that parents can know, and implement them according to this agreement.

5. Help children reduce their burden. Parents all have the idea of "expecting their children to succeed and their daughters to succeed", and even some parents impose their unfinished wishes on their children, and their children have to attend training classes they don't want to attend when they come back from school, so that their children don't relax well. This brings great mental stress to children, which leads them to hate life and advance the rebellious period. Parents can take their children out to relax and play in their spare time.