After all, Chen Niu spent more time with her grandmother than with me before going to kindergarten. I went to work during the day and stayed with her for a few hours after work. Grandma was worried that I wouldn't have a good rest at night, so she took Morning Girl away and let Morning Girl sleep with her.
However, every Spring Festival, when relatives give lucky money to Chen Niu, she will give it to me, not to grandma.
Chen Niu's aunt saw it next to her and joked, "It seems that your grandmother hurts you for nothing."
I know, this is inseparable from my frequent interaction with Morning Girl and frequent meeting with Morning Girl.
If she lives in her hometown with her grandmother from birth to kindergarten and rarely sees me, I am a stranger to her.
Feelings need to be cultivated. This sentence applies to lovers, friends and parent-child relationships.
This is why some children are abandoned by their parents and raised by adoptive parents. Finally, even if his biological parents recognize him, it is difficult for him to establish feelings with them.
Teach children that without the length of time together, there is no emotional depth.
American psychologists have done an experiment on macaques.
The staff made two artificial macaque mothers, one made of hard steel wire and the other made of soft velvet. Mother macaque has no bottle.
The staff put some young macaques and these two artificial macaque mothers in the same cage, and something strange happened.
When the little macaque is hungry, it will approach the macaque with a bottle. After eating, they will go to the velvet macaque and sleep next to it.
The experiment is not over yet.
The staff scanned the brains of these macaques and found that cortical neurons were sparsely connected. They not only have psychological problems, but also walk unsteadily, and even make abnormal noises.
When these macaques grow up, they lose interest in their partners and the opposite sex. The staff artificially impregnated the female macaque. After the baby macaque was born, the mother macaque did not show love and protection to the baby macaque, but showed indifference to her children, and some even killed her children. ...
Macaques are 94% similar to humans. It can be seen that those children who have not been nourished by maternal love since childhood, and those children who have not been spoiled by their parents since childhood, have planted abnormal seeds in their psychology.
Even if the child's guardian is kind to the child since childhood, it can never replace the love of the biological parents for the child.
Parents' waiting and persistence are children's courage and armor against this society.
After World War II, Romania experienced economic depression and a sharp drop in population.
The government encourages married women to have children, so as to increase the population and strengthen the national strength. Moreover, married women are required to have at least four children. If the family is difficult and can't afford it, they can send their children to state-funded educational institutions, and the state will pay for raising them.
To this end, more than 60,000 babies were sent to nursing homes and raised in batches. Most of these children are abnormal in the end, such as slow action, slow response, mental retardation, emotional dysplasia and so on. They are not afraid of strangers and have no communication skills.
Later, some children were sent to Detroit Children's Hospital for brain tomography, and it was found that many parts of their brains, such as hippocampus and amygdala, were abnormal.
Neuroscience has confirmed that:
Early emotional dysplasia will directly damage the normal development of the brain, make its structure abnormal and cause irreversible lesions.
These children lack the infiltration of maternal love from childhood, lack communication with their mothers' feelings and needs, are emotionally exhausted in the initial stage of life, and are mentally and psychologically deficient in adulthood.
A child can develop a higher level of self-discipline, cooperation and altruism only when he has obtained the natural needs of love, affection and security.
If a person can't even take care of himself and handle it well, how can he live in peace with the people around him and the world?
Suhomlinski, an educator in the former Soviet Union, said: "The best boarding schools can't replace mothers."
Some parents send their children to boarding schools in order to cultivate their independence. This is also very inhuman and unscientific.
Children who have been boarding for a long time are subconsciously afraid of being abandoned by their parents and have resentment towards their parents, so they will show injustice, exclusion and excessive lingering or unreasonable troubles.
The mother of a child who has already entered junior high school said, "The child's school is at my door. Neither her father nor I want her to live on campus, but the child refuses to live on campus. Think about it carefully, because children hate me too much and are too strict. "
Yes, which child doesn't love home? What child is not attached to his mother? Unless the family brings trouble to the child, the mother brings trouble to the child, which is unbearable for the child.
We have never seen any animal entrust its children to the care of its own kind. If the mother cat will not entrust the kitten to other cats, the sow will not entrust any piglets to other sows. Humans are often confused by simple facts that animals still know.
Nature is the most correct. Anyone who violates the laws of nature is bound to be punished. Children's upbringing should also return to nature and instinct, and should not be interfered and hindered by external conditions, otherwise it will be a lifelong regret.