Death in the hospital is like a common occurrence, and it happens every day. According to statistics, about 50 million people die every year, which translates into 1 sec, and 1.8 people die. Maybe 10 people have died by the time you read this passage.
However, in the traditional culture of China, "life" and "death" are rarely mentioned, and people often avoid its "unlucky". "The Analects of Confucius Eleventh Advanced" said: "If you don't know life, how can you know death?"
None of us has escaped the shackles of cultural genes and has been avoiding the topic of life and death.
So when a 4-or 5-year-old child asks, "What does it mean to die? Will I die? " Parents always rudely interrupt their children, "bah, you can't say such unlucky things in the future."
But don't you have to face it if you don't say it?
Bai once said: "China people are simply primary school students when they talk about death, because China has never really been educated to die."
Death education-this word may not be familiar to many people. It's not in our primary and secondary school textbooks, nor has it been told by parents, nor has it been taught by teachers. Death education seems to be a neglected blind spot, but it is full of everyone's life. It is not only a theory about death, but also an analysis of the essence and truth of life.
The philosopher Sabat said: Only by knowing death can we know life better.
0 1 Death education should be started at an early age.
One day, there was a dead cat lying on the lawn of the community, and there was foam on the corner of her mouth. Because the property was not handled in time, it was inadvertently seen by the daughter who was walking. She hugged my leg in horror and asked me, "What happened to the cat?" I said it might be dead. "Why did the cat die? What do you mean, dead? Are you sick? " In the face of her questioning, I realized that I had never talked about death to my children.
Maybe many parents do the same as me. When they see the dead animals, they will make a detour blindfolded. She is too old to attend the funeral, so that we all ignore the child's understanding of death.
This time, faced with this very shocking picture, I decided to discuss with her what death is.
So I squatted down to face her and said, "Death means that this cat has left this world and can no longer run and meow." Mom and dad will die one day, and so will you. Death is a process that everyone has to go through. Don't be afraid. Although people are dead, they live in our hearts. "
My daughter still doesn't understand, but this scene and this conversation are the first time in her life to face death.
The knowledge of death instilled in children during childhood will affect their attitude towards life all their lives.
Writer Yu Hua grew up in a hospital. The mortuary is gloomy to ordinary people, but Yu Hua regards it as a summer resort, especially boldly lying on a concrete bed symbolizing death to sleep. "Feel the trace of death in the time of life, and feel the time of life in the trace of death." This is his unique childhood, and it also makes his experience of life and death more profound and concrete than ordinary people.
The so-called death education is to help children face the death of themselves, their relatives, others and other creatures correctly, understand that life and death are an inevitable part of natural life, establish a scientific, reasonable and healthy view of death, and eliminate fear and anxiety about death. Only when teenagers really realize that life is limited by time can they cherish and appreciate life better.
However, in the face of death education, parents always consciously avoid it, which leads to children's lack of correct understanding and concept of death and even disregard for life.
In recent years, the cases of juvenile suicide and homicide in China have increased year by year. According to statistics, China is the country with the largest number of child suicides in the world. The survey shows that 24.39% of primary and middle school students in Shanghai once had the idea of "ending their own lives", 15.23% seriously considered this idea, 5.85% had attempted suicide, and 1.7 1% of primary and middle school students attempted suicide.
Juvenile delinquency is also increasing year by year. Dalian 13-year-old boys killed 10-year-old girls, Sichuan Dazhu 13-year-old boys killed their mothers, Hunan Hengyang 13-year-old boys killed their parents with hammers, and Guangxi Hechi 13-year-old girls amputated their classmates ... More and more juvenile crimes occurred in various regions, and the means were cruel to people.
Why are children so indifferent to life and so inhuman? The study found that the causes of teenagers' despair include psychological barriers, physical diseases, competitive pressures, emotional setbacks, family changes and so on. But the fundamental reason is the lack of necessary life and death education in the process of spiritual growth, and the failure to respect and cherish life.
Yue, a senior family education tutor and national psychological counselor, said: "Death education is basically to let people know and love life, and will not choose suicide or suicide, which is also its significance."
In many other countries, death education has been integrated into the classroom and life.
In the United States, "death education" is included in the curriculum, and some areas have also set up "suicide prevention courses" to educate children to cherish life.
In Britain, in 20 13, 550 kindergartens in Britain have been doing death education, and teachers have used animal deaths to let children know about death.
In Mexico, "Day of the Dead" is interpreted as "a festival about love". When the festival comes, it welcomes encouraging celebrations and the reunion of the living and the dead. The film Dream Journey shows different definitions of "death" in Mexico.
In Japan, death education is linked with life education. The effect of death education has been shown in the 20 1 1 great east Japan earthquake and tsunami.
In Germany, "death preparation education" was implemented and professional teaching materials were published.
But at present, there is no death education for children in China. As parents, we should not avoid it, but realize the importance of death education, so that children can know death as soon as possible, understand the meaning of life and learn how to say goodbye.
Learning to say goodbye is also an important part of death education.
Tagore said: "Life is like the beauty of summer flowers, and death is like the beauty of autumn leaves." There will be farewell at the beginning of life, and it is a natural process from "gorgeous" to "quiet beauty". Learning to say goodbye is also an important part of death education.
In the movie Little Wish, Gao Yuan, a high school student who suddenly suffered from muscular dystrophy, was told by the doctor that time was running out. "Do you have any wishes?" Around the realization of Gao Yuan's last wish, the film unfolds a series of ironic but tearful pictures. May, in order to let you leave without regret; May, in order to make you forget the pain I am leaving in the process of being busy for me. "I don't want to see you stay in the ward with a sad face for the last time."
"Say goodbye to me and write your blessing carefully behind the photo!" Farewell is mutual. The best farewell we can do to death is to live every day with awe of death and a positive and optimistic attitude to meet the arrival of death.
Hino Hiroshi, the author of "Live a Good Life", left this book through an interview when he was 105 years old. As a doctor, he witnessed the death of countless patients; As an old man, he faced the departure of many relatives and friends. This gave him a deeper understanding of life. The centenarian told us that death may be frightening, but it is not the end of life, but another new beginning.
Mr. Hino Yuan said that since my wife died, some relatives and friends have left this world one after another. Although they have gone, I feel that they are more profound in my memory than when I was alive because I often recall their voices and smiles. This makes me understand that people will not disappear after death and will not disappear completely from our lives. On the contrary, they can be imprinted in our lives in a more profound way through memories from time to time, just like now I feel that my wife has never left.
Only by accepting that life will eventually leave and learning how to say goodbye can we live to death in a society that talks about death.
Learn to talk about death, learn to say goodbye and learn to live a wonderful life. This is the real "life".
Live a wonderful life and live up to my life.
Professor Richard, the hero of the film Professor, was diagnosed with advanced lung cancer, and if he was not treated, he would only live for half a year at most. Facing the countdown to life, he was unwilling and could not accept it, but after experiencing the process of struggle, decadence and self-abandonment, he suddenly "survived". He began to think about how to spend the last stage of his life.
As a university professor, Richard returned to the classroom and really started his first class. He wants to teach the children something real in his last days. In introducing himself, Richard asked, "Why do we know you? What is your life plan? " He told the children: "No matter what age you are, you should understand why you live and what attitude you should live with."
Richard discussed life and death with the children and admitted that he was dying soon. After these moments of collision, children gradually understand what Richard means by "life planning"-they must know what they want to be, and the life of "dying at the age of 25 and being buried at the age of 70" is meaningless.
He encourages children to think independently, because the world needs people who love thinking. Don't choose mediocrity, life is a bird song, live wonderfully and profoundly.
Let yourself live a wonderful life, so that I can live up to my own life.
Guangming Daily said in the article Life and Death Education: Let Life Bloom More Gorgeous: We should not only desensitize to the fear of death, but also make our limited life more valuable, because every day in life is a meaningful day for us. We don't have to avoid discussing the topic of death, but we should actively understand "life" in the process of discussing "death"
The first large-scale pre-hospital medical emergency documentary "Life Speed: Emergency Rescue 120" in China, once broadcast, Douban scored 9.2 points. From this film, we can see that life is impermanent, and the story of life and death is being staged every minute. You never know which comes first, tomorrow or the accident. Only by living, cherishing life and loving life will we not disappoint those warm people who run for us in life.
In the movie Dead Poets Society, Teacher Keating told the students: "Seize the day" (seize today).
Only by understanding death can we have a deeper understanding of the meaning of life-to live in the present and enjoy life, so that we will not come to the end of life and find that we have never really lived.
Live wonderfully and die calmly!