For example, children want to integrate into the collective and need a sense of belonging, so they have to tie two braids, while mothers only tie one; For example, the child doesn't want to go to school, because the mother said that kindergarten can't cry, but she can't help but want to cry; For example, because of frustration in learning, he was criticized by the teacher; For example, because of lack of sleep, I am in a bad mood.
Therefore, when you only pay attention to children's behavior and don't pay attention to the reasons behind the behavior, the educational effect is often not good.
How to make education seamlessly connected;
We always say that education can't be utilitarian, education can't be anxious, and a good education is seamless, but how to do it? The best way is to reason with children, don't nag and don't preach.
1, give children the opportunity to be independent within a certain range, and let children have the opportunity to choose, decide and listen to themselves.
2. Talk about things and "discuss" with children in a respectful tone and a suggested attitude, instead of coercion and threats.
3. Allow children to "defend" without using tough measures.
4. It is meaningful to have a clear understanding of the situation and be targeted.
5. When being reasonable, don't assume that I know everything, I am right, and listen to my emotions and attitudes. In order to highlight my correctness, I ask my children to obey. Say less and say no. Instead, you can.
6. In addition to being reasonable, you should also give specific guidance and accept your child's feelings. It is best to guide the child to draw his own conclusions, rather than forcing him to recognize your truth.
7. If it is a requirement for children, clearly put forward your specific requirements and reward and punishment measures. Criticize children, point out their mistakes directly, and don't divert actual demands and criticisms just because you are reasonable.
8. Observe and listen to your children's feedback more than do it yourself. Adjust your speaking style and content according to your child's feedback.
9. The most important thing is to understand your child's understanding ability and ensure that what you say is understood by your child and can be implemented. Otherwise, it's a waste of breath. It's better to be simple and easy to understand.