The fact is that attention to this group that we once thought could accept everything has only recently become popular.
What happened? This can be attributed to several reasons: the increase in the number of psychological counseling for children and adolescents, and the popularity of psychological examination. We get a disturbing observation: some children with high IQ have serious academic problems and serious psychological obstacles; Others have behavioral disorders and social adaptation problems, which make education difficult. As for those adults who are sensitive to their children's development or the deviation in their own growth process, they objectively expand the team of psychological counseling because they want to solve their own difficulties and troubles.
What do they have in common? They are all talented people and have to face many difficulties. They are all very smart and have been looking for ways to solve their own troubles, life problems, integration with others and success.
In recent years, some universities and scientific research groups have emerged, the national education department has also taken some measures, and some small-scale training has also appeared in the medical field. .......................................................................................................................................
In particular, there is a trend that gifted people are a kind of people with special talents, which is extremely common and accepted by most people.
So how to explain and accept such a paradox that makes gifted people suffer in the process of growing up, that is, the relationship between high IQ and psychological fragility?
This is a strange relationship. Do extreme thoughts and extreme pain open the same horizon? Does pain ultimately mean thinking? -morris Blanchaud
People got it wrong: intelligence and achievement.
People confuse ability with success.
Potential and intellectual efficiency.
People are interrelated: intelligence that is relatively high in quantity and adapts to environmental requirements (intelligence that is higher than the standard), and intelligence that is different in quality and whose operation mode may lead to pain and failure, that is, intelligence of gifted people (intelligence that is different from others).
What people forget: quick understanding, analysis and memory are not equal to innate knowledge.
People underestimate its importance: high IQ is inseparable from extreme sensitivity and extreme emotional acceptance.
What people hide: high IQ and excessive sensitivity will make people more vulnerable.
What people ignore is that being able to perceive all the components of the material world and interpersonal relationships very clearly will produce a persistent emotional response, thus producing a diffuse anxiety.
When people think of intelligence, there will be many contradictory representations. People will first pay attention to its meaning: what is intelligence? Then pay attention to the result: What does smart mean? Finally, pay attention to its expectation: how should I use my intelligence? If I can't do it, should I question this ingenious premise? People can see that ideas, beliefs, fantasies, contradictions and worries about intelligence and its influence are very strong.
Aurore explained to me: "Being smart is certainly a good thing, but being smart is always accompanied by some minor troubles. I hope I'm just smart and don't have those little troubles, because being smart really helps! And those little troubles are difficult to deal with. "
Remember.
Sound the alarm!