Some parents are proud of their excellent children, some parents are upset because their children are backward, and some parents are upset because they can't communicate well with their children. ...
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"Every child is God's best gift to our parents. They are like different flowers in the garden, and they have their own unique flowering period all year round. "
"Some may drive earlier, and some may drive later. Since it is flower of life, it will bloom sooner or later. Let's not worry, be patient and have more confidence. "
"Don't be proud of the first one, and don't be upset if you don't open it. We must learn to treat it with normality. "
The senior class teacher of a primary school in Shenzhen said these words at a parent-teacher meeting.
"There is no good disgusting body." When I heard this passage, the body of the pioneer was shaking inexplicably like electricity, and I suddenly understood in my heart that "children are not good or bad, some run in front and some run behind."
All beings are equal, and learning to wait is compassion. Education affects one soul to another. A teacher who can guide parents to "know and respect the law of life growth" is indeed a good teacher worthy of praise.
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Many times, as long as it comes to children's education, there will be pictures of different families educating their children.
Recently, I also read a passage about chicken baby: "Parents chicken, baby chicken, won;" Parents chicken, baby does not chicken, lose; Parents believe in Buddhism, the baby is a chicken, and lying wins; Parents believe in Buddhism, so does the baby. Lie flat. "
An egg, broken from the outside is dead, broken from the inside is raw. A child, too.
As parents, we just give our children demands and pressures blindly. How much pressure can children bear and how long can they bear?
Having said that, some people may say that if parents don't give pressure, the social pressure will double in the future, and the college entrance examination will give pressure.
You see, as long as the mother is kind and filial, when it comes to homework, chickens fly and dogs jump. I am happy when I play games, and I hate being careful when I study.
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Why is this happening? How can we get out of these quagmires?
The Buddha said in the Diamond Sutra that "everything is illusory", and the six ancestors of Zen Buddhism told us in the Tanjing that "it is useless to learn Buddhism without knowing your true heart".
The pioneer of stopping goodness thinks that these two sentences are very enlightening about education.
Whether a child's academic performance is good or bad depends on the situation, whether there is more or less extracurricular tutoring, and whether he studies hard or not is a law, not a situation or a law.
Helping children find the "initial heart" of "why to start" is the "initial heart" that education should pursue. This is the golden key to open the door for children from the educated object to the self-educated master.
"If you want a child to become a navigator, you should not teach him how to build a ship, but should awaken his inner desire for sailing."
"What self-nature period, this is self-sufficient; When it is self-nature, it can give birth to various laws. " It's much easier to find your own nature.
When I say relaxed, I don't mean that the external competitive pressure has been reduced or lightened, but my self-confidence has become stronger, and I can resist and overcome all difficulties and obstacles.
"Destiny is nature, truthfulness is Tao, and self-cultivation is teaching", as stated at the beginning of The Doctrine of the Mean, the mission of heaven is sex, following nature is Tao, and self-cultivation is teaching by the way.
"Ask the canal that clear? Only the source of living water has come. " Therefore, only finding destiny and ambition is the source of education.
"Life and death, who is the boat? Who doesn't have a torch in the dark? " It is the questioning from the soul and the mysterious "I do" in the Tang Dynasty, which gives you the courage to learn from the West "I would rather die in the West than live in the East".
This may be why we should strengthen the starting point and end result of "ideal and belief" education.