First, the new concept of parent-child communication: children do not have to obey

1. obedient children are not stubborn, tangled and insensitive after going out; Easy to reduce self-construction, weak self-cognitive ability.

Therefore, let children have the ability to think and solve problems by themselves. That is the key to parent-child communication: asking questions is the best education.

2. Every parent scores his own life. If children listen to us, they will live up to our scores.

Therefore, parents should make their children's scores higher: 1) Make their children's scores higher; 2) Children exceed their parents' needs and do not listen to their parents.

Second, the three goals of parent-child communication: love, growth and separation.

1. Love and positive communication:

Every good parent is a master of active hypnosis: when paying attention to children's doing well, seize the opportunity to encourage them. These positive affirmations can give children strength when they do something wrong, and children will also reflect on themselves; When parents pay attention to the front, children are more likely to pay attention to resources and have more confidence when encountering difficulties.

2. The second goal of parent-child communication: growth.

1) Wise parents always listen first and then say: Every time they communicate with their children, they treat them as adults and let them think for themselves first. "What do you think? What do you say? "

2) Parents' love is greater than children's growth.

3. Separation

The only goal of parent-child relationship in the world is separation. Parents' education is successful if children can leave their parents early and mature independently. The key to the success of parental education lies in the performance of children when they leave you, not the performance when you are around.

To sum up, there are three points to consider when communicating with parents:

1. I communicated with my child this time. Did he feel the feeling of love?

2. Did my communication with my children make them grow up and become more mature?

3. Through this communication with children, will my children be stronger and more mature when they leave me?