Xiao Baiyou 65438-0964 was born in a traditional family in Guangzhou. Xiao's mother has never read a book, but only recognizes an old saying: don't study hard, fight!
Therefore, from primary school to middle school, Xiao Baiyou spent his whole life under his mother's stick. Mom's stick is extremely "scary": I can't get full marks, 1 just hit 10: I was detained and waited 1 minute to hit 1: I came home late and was late 1 minute to hit1; Fight, right or wrong, 20 times; Lie until your mouth bleeds. ...
He can't eat on the day of being beaten; No matter how beaten, don't cry. Besides, anyone who is beaten should draw a circle by himself and take the initiative to give the stick to his mother. He was beaten to death.
Under his mother's stick, Xiao Baiyou became an out-and-out good student and dutiful son. Mother likes to eat Wonton Noodles. He often buys her Wonton Noodles with his salary after work.
As soon as the child was born, Xiao Baiyou made up his mind to educate the child in a strict way like his mother.
Because his wife Huang Tianshu is from Hong Kong, Xiao Baiyou and his wife have raised four children. In order not to violate the domestic birth policy, the first two children were born in Hong Kong and the last two children were born in the United States. He advocated the tradition of Chinese studies and named his four children Yao, Jun, Xiao and Bing respectively. On them, Xiao Baiyou's hopes for success and educational dreams are pinned.
1992, as soon as Xiao Yao, the 3-year-old eldest son, became sensible, Xiao Baiyou sent him to kindergarten and prepared rattan and feather duster at home for family education.
He believes that "three years old is 80 years old", and the temperament and habits of children in early childhood determine their life. At this time, kindergarten teachers can only teach them games and some basic knowledge. Therefore, it is necessary to strictly guide children through family education and give them character, temperament, norms, etiquette, awe, good and evil, beauty and ugliness, right and wrong.
Xiao Baiyou found an ancient enlightenment book "Saint Amethyst", which was marked in Pinyin with Xiao Yaonian on it. If Xiaoyao loses his temper and can't recite The Holy Amethyst, Xiao Baiyou will pick up his cane and hit his palm.
Huang Tianshu grabbed her husband's cane and said, "He is still so young, how can he fight like this!" "
Xiao Baiyou said, "It is because he is still young that he should be punished! If you let yourself go now, you can only defeat yourself in the end! " After that, he forced the child to continue to recite.
Unable to convince her husband, Huang Tianshu offered to "bet" with Xiao Baiyou to discipline the children in his way for one month. If it works, she will support and cooperate with him unconditionally in the future; Otherwise, Xiao Baiyou won't be able to hit children casually in the future. Hearing this, Xiao Baiyou immediately agreed with confidence.
At the beginning of the "gambling contract", Xiao Yao didn't work hard when he endorsed it, and he kept crying. Every time he was beaten, he deliberately cried loudly for his mother. But because Huang Tianshu has an appointment with her husband, although she is distressed, she can't show it.
Later, Xiao Yao knew that it was impossible to ask her mother for help. She had to study hard. After half a month, he recited the text more and more smoothly, and even fell in love with endorsement. Every night when checking, he will take the initiative to stand in front of Xiao Baiyou and endorse.
Huang Tianshu is a virtuous woman influenced by traditional culture. She was very happy to see her son make such progress and agreed with her husband's educational methods. Because her husband is busy with work and her children are small, she quit her beloved translation job and became a full-time housewife.
With the cooperation of his wife, Xiao Baiyou began to implement his "stick education law" with great fanfare. First of all, he formulated "three laws of education": supervision, reprimand and punishment. That is, assign tasks and supervise regularly; If you don't finish well, reprimand; After reprimanding, bonzi took it. Many "no" items are set, such as not watching TV or playing games. Don't rest until you finish the prescribed study tasks, otherwise you will be beaten again. He checks his homework and recites it every night, even on holidays.
Under his strict discipline, Xiao Yao completed the recitation of famous works such as The Amethyst, Revelation of Melody, Preface of Wang Tengting, Model of Kindergarten, etc. These classical cultures moisten the child's mind, cultivate his gentle and courteous gentleman character, and let his father's Chinese education go on smoothly.
Xiao Baiyou plausibly said, "What is democracy? You are the people and I am God. This is democracy! "
After Xiaoyao entered the primary school, Xiaojun, Mix and Xiao Bing, who entered the kindergarten one after another, also began to recite Saint Amethyst, Hundred Family Names and Enlightenment of Temperament under the strict supervision of their fathers. In order to ensure that children's pure hearts are not polluted by idle books, Xiao Baiyou also carefully selects their reading materials, and books are not allowed to be read without his permission.
One night, Xiao Baiyou found a comic book at Xiao Yao's bedside and suddenly flew into a rage. He immediately called Xiaoyao and tore the book to pieces in front of him. Xiaoyao cried all night because of injustice.
When Xiao Xiao was in the third grade, she failed English once. Xiao Baiyou trembled with anger, picked up a feather duster and slapped it, then said, "From today on, you must remember that you must be in the top five in your class every time, otherwise don't blame me for hitting you again!" Mix was beaten and cried.
Even though Huang Tianshu was in pain, he could not oppose her husband. She can only rub medicine for her daughter and encourage her to study hard.
Xiao Baiyou didn't just hit children. Before each fight, he would clearly tell the children what was wrong and why they had to fight. After the fight, he also wants the children who made mistakes to write a "self-criticism", which must include: when they made mistakes, what happened, why they made mistakes, where they made mistakes, and what to do in the future.
In order to prevent the children from behaving badly in school, Xiao Baiyou imposed "social control" on them. If someone wants to visit a classmate's home, they must go through complicated application and approval procedures. The application form must specify which classmate's home to go to, what to do, how long to stay, the name and telephone number of the classmate's parents, and he will decide whether to approve it or not after writing it.
In order to cultivate children's hard-working and frugal lifestyle, Xiao Baiyou stipulates: no cola, no air conditioning, and no opening the refrigerator door casually. There is absolutely no pocket money because children can't buy things privately. Even if you get the lucky money, you should pay it in full, and your parents will return it when you go to college.
When children grow up, they also rebel against their father with what they have learned at school: "It is too undemocratic to listen to you!" "
But Xiao Baiyou plausibly held high his banner of "Xiao-style democracy": "What is democracy? You are the people and I am God. This is democracy! "
1998, Guangdong international trust and investment company, where Xiao Baiyou worked, suddenly went bankrupt, and a family of six suddenly lost their financial resources. Xiao Baiyou had to quit his nanny, sell his house and car, and the family moved from a spacious big house to a small house of tens of square meters, leading a hard life. The children didn't complain, but helped their mother wash clothes, sweep the floor and do all kinds of housework.
However, even though life is difficult, Xiao Baiyou has never relaxed his children's study. He still gives his children expensive piano lessons, calligraphy lessons and Chinese painting lessons. No matter how busy and tired he is, he will take time to supervise his children's study and communicate with their teachers.
One afternoon, Xiao Baiyou was doing market research on entrepreneurship in Shenzhen. When he learned that Yao Ban Jr. was going to have a parent-teacher conference the next day, he rushed home overnight. When he arrived at the railway station, the train was about to leave. When he rushed into the train, his head hit the door and his nose was broken because he ran too fast.
Xiao Baiyou has always attached great importance to the choice of schools. When children go to kindergarten, Xiao Baiyou chose Guangdong government kindergarten, which was inscribed by He Xiangning, a famous Democrat. The primary school they attend is also the best Chaotian primary school in the local area. Its predecessor was the Guangzhou Wentong Museum founded by the Qing government with boxer indemnity.
In 2002, after Xiao Yao entered junior high school, Xiao Baiyou learned from a conversation with his son that a provincial key middle school attended by Xiao Yao was not as good as he imagined. Xiao Yao's class discipline is lax, and there are still many students fighting, smoking and even taking drugs in the school.
Scared into a cold sweat, Xiao Baiyou asked the class teacher to confirm the situation and wrote a letter to the principal, putting forward a series of suggestions to improve the style of study. However, to his disappointment, he let the letter that his son gave to the headmaster sink into the sea.
In a blink of an eye, a year has passed, and Xiao Yao's academic performance has plummeted. For the sake of his son's future, in May 2003, Xiao Baiyou had to make an important decision ―― let Xiao Yao transfer to Guangwai Foreign Language School (a foreign language school affiliated to Guangdong University of Foreign Studies) to study in Grade One with his sister Jun Xiao, who is about to enter junior high school.
After Xiao Yao knew it, he said that he was unwilling to transfer to another school for one year. Huang Tianshu also advised her husband, saying that now is the time of financial constraints, and the two children will enter a good school together, which will cost tens of thousands a year. where is the money to come from? However, after communicating with the principal of Guangwai Foreign Language School, Xiao Baiyou thinks that this school can cultivate good children. In order to collect enough tuition, he resolutely sold the house and the family moved into the rental house. ...
After the children entered junior high school, Xiao Baiyou's educational methods were also adjusted. He stopped hitting people because he felt that the child's personality and habits were basically formed. After that, he communicated with his children through chatting and writing letters.
In 2006, Xiao Yao, a freshman, fell out of the top five in his class. Xiao Baiyou flew into a rage when he learned the news on a business trip. He wrote a letter to his son in a few words, but hit the floor:
Yaoer, I spoke to my teacher on the phone, and your mother told me something. You will be 18 years old soon. I don't want your father 18 to be angry! Men should be self-reliant! Remember several requirements: cancel all extracurricular activities; It is forbidden to play computer surfing at home; Put all your energy into reading; Absolutely relax and face the reality; The exam can't fall outside the top five of the grade (this is my bottom line)
Fortunately, Xiao Baiyou's efforts were not in vain. By the time he came back from a business trip, Xiao Yao had caught up with his grades at the fastest speed.
Twenty years' efforts have created "three universities" that shocked the whole country.
In order to prevent children from becoming bookworms who can only read, Xiao Baiyou also conducts targeted training according to the interests and specialties of several children.
Xiao Yao is a boy who likes history, politics and economy. Xiao Baiyou trained him to write political articles and taught him chess, Go and Chinese painting. Jun Xiao likes piano, so Xiao Baiyou hired the best teacher for her, even if a class costs 2000 yuan. Mix is heroic, so Xiao Baiyou asked her to learn calligraphy. Xiao Bing, the youngest daughter, got average grades, so she was asked to study guzheng and take an art school.
In order to let the children grow up, Xiao Baiyou always tries his best to bear the living and study expenses of a family of six by himself. Huang Tianshu hasn't used cosmetics once since she married Xiaomen. Every penny of them is spent on their children's education.
In addition, Xiao Baiyou, who advocates filial piety, attaches great importance to etiquette education for his children. Respect for elders is the first rule of etiquette in his family. He stipulated that the younger generation should not contradict the older generation. If you are with your elders, the younger generation should take over the heavy objects on their hands and shoulders at the first time. If he sees his elders still holding things in their hands, the children who travel with him will certainly be punished. When guests arrive home, they should be polite and modest, and pay attention to etiquette when serving tea and eating. Even if you usually walk, sit or lie down, you should have the right posture. In short, we should show a big family, a dignified manner of a good family.
In order to exercise children's independent character, Xiao Baiyou also arranges them to work in the flower market and aunt's restaurant every holiday, so that they can experience the hardships of labor.
Under the strict education of Xiao Baiyou, the four children of Xiao family are all excellent in character and learning, outstanding in talent, good at piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, sensible, modest and polite.
In 2009, Xiao Yao and Jun Xiao were admitted to Peking University Institute of International Relations and Law School respectively.
20 1 1 July, another year was released, and Xiao Baiyou got another surprise ―― her second daughter Mix was also admitted to Peking University.
After 20 years of hard work, Xiao Baiyou was filled with emotion. When the reporter asked him to talk about "Wolf Dad's Speech", he said: "Some people only care about making money to support their families and entrust their children to their wives, parents, even nannies and boarding schools. They think they can get the best education for their children. But they only forget that the father is the most important person in the process of children's growth and the vane of children's growth. Only when the father gives all his love, time and efforts can the child grow up healthily. "
Xiao Yao put it this way: "Over the years, I have doubted countless times, is dad's education method really right?" I tried to prove him wrong more than once, but he never failed. When I was holding the admission notice from Peking University, my father asked me if I hated his reprimand. I cried and said to him,' When I have a child, I will definitely give it to you. "'
Xiao Bing, the youngest daughter, wrote in her composition at the age of 10: "If I were a mother, I would find a good husband like my father ..."
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